Need help thinking up an excuse for Santa

*Louise*

poet123 wrote: »

The Santa fantasy is not a trust issue in my book. It is a piece of childhood magic, nothing more.

It's just a big game of make-believe. Nothing wrong with a bit of imagination and fantasy when you're young and can get away with it, plenty of time to be grown up later.

an9i77

I did this as a child of 7 - found a big bag of all my presents in my mum's cupboard. My older brother tried to say 'santa will not have time on xmas eve to deliver them all so had to leave them early' but it was too late, i'd sussed out for myself that it was all a con. The magic of santa has to end at some point!

lostinrates

poet123 wrote: »

The Santa fantasy is not a trust issue in my book. It is a piece of childhood magic, nothing more.

I pretty much think it is too me too, but.....I don't see the potential 'negative' issues as wholly negative where they might exist IYSWIM. I see potential positives in them.

iammumtoone

Judi wrote: »

If you cant trust your parents, who can you trust?

It depends on the issue, can I trust my Dad, well I asked him a while ago to stop buying ds 'treats' did he - no :mad:

If I ever need any thing on a more serious note can I trust him to help me - yes of course I can.

So no I cannot blindly trust him but on serious issues 100% I could.

lostinrates

Judi wrote: »

I think with me it must be a trust issue. I see Santa as a lie and I have never and will never, lie to my children. Ive always thought, if I lie about the little things they will never believe me about the big things.


My daughter has just dropped off my Grandson whilst she goes on the Sunbed and ive just asked her if she missed out by me not encouraging the idea of Santa. 'No' she said 'none of my friends believed in him either'. 'Not even in nursery?' I questioned further.
'No' she said 'The Santa they got in to give the gifts out at Christmas looked remarkably like Mr Pritchard the school caretaker'.:D

So, you asked me who you can trust of not your parents. Are you saying parents who encourage the Father Christmas tale are not trustworthy?

Torry_Quine

I think it's very sad that some people seem to be saying that letting your children believe in Santa means they will have trust issues in the future when they discover that he isn't real.

I never saw believing in Santa as anything other than part of Christmas although not essential of course.

quidsy

I trust (ed) both my parents explicitly, my mum & dad had occasion to lie to us, little things, big things, they made their choice, I'm not so limited to think that because my mum told me that my face would freeze a certain way that she can't be trusted ever again or that my dad, telling us the smell in the car was the dog meant I didn't beleive anything else he said for the rest of his life. I personally think you give your kids very little credit in the brain department. It's a shame really.

jillie1974

OrkneyStar wrote: »

The main downside I can see with santa is 1. why does santa give more/better to child x/y/z- have I not been good? 2. using it to bribe kids. 3. perhaps some are a bit upset/sad when they realise it's not true!

1. Never dawned on me as a child, why 'x' got something better, it was more about getting a present from Santa. I imagine its the same for DS1, he tells everyone Santa brings trainsets

2. I can remember mum telling me to be good as Santa was watching, we do the same with DS1.

3. I didnt believe my dad when he told me I was vey innocent. My best friend had told me when I was 7 and I didnt believe him. mum kept my Santa letter from that year (I was just 10) and gave it to me a few years ago. I still have it.

claire16c

notanewuser wrote: »

Right, lets clear up something else that's been misread.

I DID NOT say that DH and I were "scarred for life" by the whole Santa thing. What I said was that we both REMEMBER the disappointment at finding out. That's 2 children, each brought up very differently to one another, almost 300 miles apart, with the same recollection. Were I an stanislavskian actress it would be my go-to memory for the emotional response surrounding disappointment. Having to continue the pretence on the say-so of our parents didn't feel good FOR US either.

There is nothing wrong with our decision to not follow the crowd. Every single one of DD's classmates might get given an iPad for Xmas aged 5 - that doesn't mean DD will be getting one just so that she's "not left out". Where will it end?!!!

It's hardly a bad thing for a child to be disappointed about something in their life. Plus they'll still get the presents so it's not exactly that bad! It's something they will need to learn in life!

Not to mention that you shouldnt just blindly believe what people tell you. Including parents.

whitesatin

Oh dear. This thread makes me wonder, at the grand old age of 62, if my parents allowing me to believe in Santa has been the cause of all my emotional upsets over the years. And, horror or horrors, have I perpetuated this by allowing my children to believe too? Oh no! I am meant to be taking my two grandchildren to the local garden centre later today to see Santa. What am I thinking of?

LOL.

Basically, I have always said that I believe in anyone who brings me presents. Bring them on.