What to do..

Bogof_Babe

I don't know anything about your previous posts as I've never seen them, but from this one it sounds like you are a really lovely, kind, considerate chap who any woman would be very lucky to find.

Bear in mind that she might be worrying about whether she's good enough for you too, as it sounds like she is very comfortable in your company, and seems to be making much of the running with all the texts etc.

Take it steady, but please try not to hurt her feelings by backing off (to protect yourself from ???), as it sounds to me like you have the makings of something really special, and there's no rush.

marisco_2

SimonSays wrote: »

I don't want to end what could be there but I can't just let anyone get close to me.

So take getting to know this woman at a pace that is right for you. Communication between you both needs to be really open and honest. That way she will understand that you take your time to feel comfortable around someone and wont try to rush you. Keep things real too, don't let her hang off your every word. If she puts you on a pedestal then things aren't equal and that sets you up for a possible long fall if things don't work out. Most of all enjoy her company and make the most of living in the moment. Don't think too far ahead.

paulineb_2

SimonSays wrote: »

I don't want to end what could be there but I can't just let anyone get close to me.

The alternative is being on your own and wondering what might have been.

Also, she has feelings too, consider them as well.

geoffky

Stop thinking it all through...Just go with the flow....

SimonSays

I know I should go with the flow. I upto now have been honest with anything she has asked. No point lying.

We are going to a train show today, I would have gone if she wasn't staying but she saw the advert I had for it so she said we both should go.

Gives us a chance to talk in the car too.

ViolaLass

If you don't let anyone close, you end up alone.

If you let them get close, you might end up alone or you might end up happy with someone.

Whilst being selective is important, the second option gives you greater odds of success.

You seem a bit hung up on having been homeless. I can understand that it will have been an important part of your life but I don't see why you're convinced that everyone will judge you harshly for it.

SimonSays

I did nothing wrong and I was punished like that. Still a bit raw thats all

Train fair was packed so had to rush around. but good. got to talk and in the quieter bits of the fair she started holding my hand which was nice.

I just am a natural worrier in general. not nice at times!

go_cat

SimonSays wrote: »

and in the quieter bits of the fair she started holding my hand which was nice.

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Er I think she is definitely keen

She accepts you for what you are today that is what has attracted her to you, concentrate on being friends and enjoying each others company and anything else will develop over time if it is meant to happen

SimonSays

go_cat wrote: »

Er I think she is definitely keen

She accepts you for what you are today that is what has attracted her to you, concentrate on being friends and enjoying each others company and anything else will develop over time if it is meant to happen

Or she could be scared of all the Barrys, Keiths and Malcoms that were there. Infact I was scared of them too haha

She was looking at some of the models and looked confused. Glad she can accept that too. As I do enjoy my clubs and groups.

leather5

Now Simon, it sounds like you have had a lovely Christmas and potentially a great New Year. This girl DOES like you, you seem like a very rare young man, especially these days. You appreciate what you have got, you care enough about her feelings to have invited her to spend the holiday with you even to the extent that you asked advice about how you could make her stay more pleasent. It sounds to me as if she has found a gem, someone who she feels comfortable enough with to be alone with, attracted enough to to cuddle up with you under the duvet and safe enough to want to come back! She cares for you, asking you what you would like for your tea and trying again to cook you a meal, thinking of you during her work day by texting you more than a few times and going with you to a train fair (?) never mind the hand holding lol. Make the most of this time of getting to know each other, enjoy it you never know you might like it xxx