What to do..

SimonSays

*max* wrote: »

Yes!

But remember it's not an invitation to suddenly turn into Mr Grabby! Take things slowly and see how it goes. Confident but not cocky is the key!

I could never be cocky. I really do like her.

Bogof_Babe

Going back to your first post on this thread... so she has a daughter? Does she have any "baggage" from the relationship that produced the child? E.g. an ex- who is still on the scene and might resent her getting involved with someone else?

Just thought you should be prepared to work through any complications with her if you want it to become more serious. Would you be happy to take on a ready-made family, with all that involves?

SimonSays

Yeah, She has a young daughter, Her ex is a bit of a tool not asking to see her for months on end and now wants her through to new year. He has someone else she doesn't talk about him apart from its a mistake she got with him and the rubbish he gave her.

I guess theres some baggage there but I don't care as I like her and I am not exactly baggage free.

How do you mean complications?

I would embrace them both, It wouldn't bother me.

Bogof_Babe

Complications e.g. "I'm not having another man bringing my daughter up". But from what you've said about him, it sounds like he has already moved on sufficiently to allow his ex and daughter to do the same.

Don't forget that if she is on single parent benefits that will all change if you become a couple.

SimonSays

I am quite happy to support them both if we get that far down the line. She won't loose any csa money will she?

paulineb_2

SimonSays wrote: »

I am quite happy to support them both if we get that far down the line. She won't loose any csa money will she?

I think you should concentrate on getting to know her and not think too far ahead about money and what will happen if she loses any benefit. One day at a time really.

Kabazzzz

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

Don't forget that if she is on single parent benefits that will all change if you become a couple.

This would only happen if the OP moved in with her or vice versa.


I have been following this thread for the last few weeks and for what it is worth, it is such a breath of fresh air.


I wouldn't cuddle up to a guy that I didn't fancy, best of luck OP, it sounds as though you deserve a bit of happiness...

Laurajo_2

Best of luck OP....you sound like a lovely young man.

And don't buy trouble before it's even on sale. Just go with the flow for now - what will be will be.

I was homeless at 16, got my own (well, council) flat at 17. I made a lot of mistakes and did a lot of things I regret, but now, at 26 I have a good career, am married to my partner of seven years and a homeowner. When I started seeing my husband, I was plagued with thoughts of 'what if....' And I am not good enough for him etc...just take things a day at a time!

HPoirot

Yeah, let's not jump the gun...

Aw bless, I almost wish I was getting to know OH all over again :happyhear.

SimonSays

I just don't either of them going without you see. I don't want anyone going without why I asked.

I hope I have found some happiness. I really do like her.

She is on a 12 hour shift today covering and Ive had 33 texts from her, The main one was "Yes I'd love to go for coffee and a walk" sent exactly 30 seconds after I sent it.