What to do..

SuzieSue

SimonSays wrote: »

She is 23 turning 24 next month and I am 26.

Have to see how it goes. I am a bit nervy letting anyone get close to me.

So you're both quite young. Why are you nervy? Have you been hurt in the past?

jenhug

SimonSays wrote: »

She might be lonely.or no one else to spend this time with.

As I say she gets a lot of attention from the guys and theres better options than me. Just wonder why me.

You are contradicting yourself.
No one else to spend time with but has lots of attention from other men.

You offered the hand of friendship, and she took it. It says a lot about you as a man. She wants a gentleman that cares about her, not to be someones conquest. Relax and enjoy getting to know her.

SimonSays

SuzieSue wrote: »

So you're both quite young. Why are you nervy? Have you been hurt in the past?

Yeah, been hurt by alot of people. People I thought I was my friends/family.

SimonSays

jenhug wrote: »

You are contradicting yourself.
No one else to spend time with but has lots of attention from other men.

You offered the hand of friendship, and she took it. It says a lot about you as a man. She wants a gentleman that cares about her, not to be someones conquest. Relax and enjoy getting to know her.

I mean that all the lads hover round her and talk to her want to do things with her that she says no too.

I do care about her, If we are on the same shift if its raining or the late. I'll drop her at her door. I don't see her as a notch on the bed shes a pretty good person.

ViolaLass

SimonSays wrote: »

I mean that all the lads hover round her and talk to her want to do things with her that she says no too.

So she's not getting the kind of attention she wants, is she?

paulineb_2

SimonSays wrote: »

Yeah, been hurt by alot of people. People I thought I was my friends/family.

Lots of people have been hurt in the past, including myself, Ive read your other threads and I appreciate youve had it tough, but dont kill something before its begun by putting the barriers up.

SimonSays

ViolaLass wrote: »

So she's not getting the kind of attention she wants, is she?

True

I just don't want to get hurt if you get me.

SuzieSue

SimonSays wrote: »

I mean that all the lads hover round her and talk to her want to do things with her that she says no too.

I do care about her, If we are on the same shift if its raining or the late. I'll drop her at her door. I don't see her as a notch on the bed shes a pretty good person.

Perhaps she has been hurt too by the sort of guys who hover around her and now wants to go out with someone who isn't like them.

No-one knows what will happen, but you just need to take each day as it comes. It is normal to think about the future especially when you are young, but the older you get the more you will realise that making long term plans about relationships is pointless as no-one knows what will happen tomorrow, let alone in 5 years' time.

I didn't meet my husband until I was in my mid-40s, so you never know when you will meet the right person, but you need to go out with as many people as possible because relationships take a lot of work and the more you have, the easier it will get, and you will be able to learn from your mistakes.

SuzieSue

SimonSays wrote: »

True

I just don't want to get hurt if you get me.

No-one wants to get hurt and I've just remembered your earlier thread so I can totally understand why you are nervous after what your family has put you through. However, you are much better off without people like that in your life, but you need to remember that most people aren't like them.

SimonSays

I remember that kay sara sara song "What ever will be will be"

Although I am subjected to Corrie so she must feel comfy round me.

I just don't want to let someone in and then they think I am bad. Like no one at work knows about what happened.