What to do..

mcja

Rightio, that's simple. Just tell her. She'll run (she's not a keeper) or she stays and there is nothing to worry about.

Don't you watch the soaps, people always find out everything in time anyway!! If she's keen, go with it, even if its just for the company.

Good luck, and if you can't be good be careful!!

SimonSays

She knows about me having it hard as its a bit of a speech I do at work when colleagues need a boost about how it could be worse.

If she questions I can explain.

Tea wasn't bad actually. Its not hard to burn overn cook stuff. Was nice coming home to dinner.

marisco_2

SimonSays wrote: »

I just do worry about my past though, I don't want people thinking I am some layabout who got into that situation by my own choosing

Anyone who thinks that of you wont have taken the time to have got to know you or to appreciate all your qualities. Nor will they have got close enough to you, for you to feel comfortable to open up to them, and tell them honestly what happened to you in the past. For a person to end up on the streets and then pull themselves back and make success of life again as you are, takes an incredible amount of strength, resilience and determination. Feel proud of what you have achieved and accept that few people are so narrow minded that they would judge you for what you endured and overcame.

SimonSays

I know. I have to admit it is great to have someone cuddle you and actually talk too.

New year is my next hurdle. I hope she aint expecting the earth. It does at times look like she hangs on every word I say. quite wierd.

Kynthia

Anyone, particularly someone who is interested in being with you, will be much more interested in who you are as a person, your actions now and how you treat her. Something that happened to you in your past is not who you are.

jellie

SimonSays wrote: »

It does at times look like she hangs on every word I say. quite wierd.

Maybe she finds you an awesome person for getting to where you are now from where you were before, and she wants to listen to what you have to say.

SimonSays

jellie wrote: »

Maybe she finds you an awesome person for getting to where you are now from where you were before, and she wants to listen to what you have to say.

She only knows Ive had it hard not the fact I was homeless.

paulineb_2

SimonSays wrote: »

She only knows Ive had it hard not the fact I was homeless.

Does that really matter? Ive worked with loads of homeless people over the years, several of them are in relationships now or married

You seem to be looking for reasons to end this before its even started.

SimonSays

paulineb wrote: »

Does that really matter? Ive worked with loads of homeless people over the years, several of them are in relationships now or married

You seem to be looking for reasons to end this before its even started.

I don't want to end what could be there but I can't just let anyone get close to me.

mountainofdebt

SimonSays wrote: »

I don't want to end what could be there but I can't just let anyone get close to me.

simon

I have no idea about your past history but I have a saying ' we are a product of our experiences......but not a slave to them'