Nice People Thread Number 10 -the official residence of Nice People

tomterm8

As a rule they think they won't get caught. Followed by feeling sorry for themselves when they are.

Edit: My soon to be brother in law dd something similar, but I think he hated himself and did it because he thought he didn't deserve to be happy. But the rest of the story isn't mine to tell.

lostinrates

Nikkster wrote: »

Pfft. Another one. I don't think you'd let any of the rest of us get away with saying that no-one would have anything to say about us!

On which note, I seem to be on a bit of a mission at the moment re-connecting with friends from past lives (well, the ones who I haven't completely offended anyway). I'm really bad at keeping in touch with people, but one by one I'm trying to pick up these friendships again. I've always known that whilst I'm independent and fine to get on with things myself, I feel much happier at least knowing that I've got connections to other people. For some reason I'm able to push myself through my social anxieties to actually do something about it at the moment so I'm trying to make the most of it.

Tbc, my darling one, I am quite happy for you to acknowledge genuine failings ( we all have them) and even to help suggest ways of tackling them.* I just stand for the thing where you mope about how carp you are when I think your fab and can quite clearly see the things to set against the bad points or mitigating factors to the things that might be accepted failings. We all have them......its human and it makes us interesting. Fwiw, I am not chuffed about being pompous, but I'd rather be pompous than mean spirited. I have some good points I like about myself too.

For example, I like that I am rather fond of chickens and like looking at the sky at sunrise.

maybe next time we are on a bit of a NP downer we should all volunteer five things we like about ourselves?

*as I benefit from too.

Nikkster

lostinrates wrote: »

Tbc, my darling one, I am quite happy for you to acknowledge genuine failings ( we all have them) and even to help suggest ways of tackling them. I just stand for the thing where you mope about how carp you are when I think your fab and can quite clearly see the things to set against the bad points or mitigating factors to the things that might be accepted failings. We all have them......its human and it makes us interesting. Fwiw, I am not chuffed about being pompous, but I'd rather be pompous than mean spirited. I have some good points I like about myself too.

For example, I like that I am rather fond of chickens and like looking at the sky at sunrise.

maybe next time we are on a bit of a NP downer we should all volunteer five things we like about ourselves?

For the record, I didn't comment on whether or not you were pompous (I don't think you are, but that is beside the point).
Just that there would be plenty of people who would want to celebrate your life. I'm working on building up the list of people who might attend any wedding - or more likely funeral - of mine

lostinrates

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I'm still using the mega-expensive shampoo and conditioner I bought a few weeks ago, and it's fantastic, I love it. My hair feels all lovely and it smells gorgeous, too.

Good.

It does make a difference , the right product, whatever the price. Fwiw I was recommended a shampoo and conditioner for hair loss last year. I got it for Christmas . I don't normally shampoo. My hair has been reminding me why.


Interestingly, it has also gone even darker and won't hold colour. I told spirit yesterday I have brassy mouse hair. Having just washed it I might have to revise to chocolate orange. :rotfl:

Spirit_2

LydiaJ wrote: »

One time when DS was a toddler and I was a SAHM, I complained to LNE who was overruling me about decisions about DS. He thought carefully about it, and replied that he could perfectly well see why it would in many ways be fairer if he let me have some input to the decisions. However, he said (very politely), his first responsibility was DS's welfare, so he couldn't let any of the decisions be made wrong, so he was afraid he couldn't let me have any input.

Lydia - what an 4r$e. Plainly a legend in his own mind.

lostinrates

Nikkster wrote: »

For the record, I didn't comment on whether or not you were pompous (I don't think you are, but that is beside the point).
Just that there would be plenty of people who would want to celebrate your life. I'm working on building up the list of people who might attend any wedding - or more likely funeral - of mine

Oh yeah, I didn't mean that. I am sure there would be loads of people to celebrate my funeral, or life....:rotfl: both, probably.

I just don't want that.

Last thing I get to have any input in, so you bet I've left a note about it. . As I say, its up to fir really, but I'd rather it was just me toddling off by myself while everyone else moved on really.

Tahlullah

LydiaJ wrote: »

One time when DS was a toddler and I was a SAHM, I complained to LNE who was overruling me about decisions about DS. He thought carefully about it, and replied that he could perfectly well see why it would in many ways be fairer if he let me have some input to the decisions. However, he said (very politely), his first responsibility was DS's welfare, so he couldn't let any of the decisions be made wrong, so he was afraid he couldn't let me have any input.

Words fail me...

lostinrates

Spirit wrote: »

Lydia - what an 4r$e. Plainly a legend in his own mind.

I love this saying. I love it and never get to use it.

I did have a very politically incorrect one about of dh's boss that I won't use on a forum because unless people know I'd say the same about 'my people' given opportunity for similar wordplay it appears racist I think.

GDB2222

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

My hair feels all lovely and it smells gorgeous, too.

Yes, it does.

Nikkster

lostinrates wrote: »

Oh yeah, I didn't mean that. I am sure there would be loads of people to celebrate my funeral, or life....:rotfl: both, probably.

I just don't want that.

Last thing I get to have any input in, so you bet I've left a note about it. . As I say, its up to fir really, but I'd rather it was just me toddling off by myself while everyone else moved on really.

I can understand that, but I believe we have funerals to help those who remain to move on.

My mum has gone on holiday again today. Spoke to her last night and she went through her funeral wishes with me again :eek:

Edit: I'm not sure whether or not I'd want anyone at my funeral (or theoretical wedding) either - but I'd like to have a choice!