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Nice People Thread Number 10 -the official residence of Nice People
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You know, if eating mini eggs will get me through the next week I'd do it, gladly.
My plumber has gone AWOL and won't answer calls, having said he might pop in today ( having been asked for sometime) I'm sending that means he won't. Which leaves me in difficulty with the electric people who are here all week with a sodding great useless cylinder in the way.
The electric people and open reach are being as difficult as they can be about silly things. I have to lay a duct for open reach myself because the electricity people won't and open reach cannot get here, so I thought electricy people might cut the duct for me, but apparently not even.
Open reach want to chance the plan so I have to pace something out, after yesterday's painting I'm on a stick and its ok to pace but my steps will be an odd length, I am frustrated to receive a quote on such a basis tbh.
DH is going to call the GP and explain what's going on with me ATM so I'm not just dropping off the radar this time, which is good.
its feeling like along week. I really just need more sleep. I feel asleep while DH and I were reading last night, long before the dogs' last widdle and late check and could sleep again now.
Edit: btw...doctors would say...so sleep....but just shows how unrealistic it is to have 'a life' when I'm like this....0 -
Yes I do know that. It's still bloody annoying.
One of the things about depression is that it makes you want to grab hold of the depressive and shout, "Will just just pull yourself together !!!!!!!!!". Of course that's completely hopeless and achieves nothing at all but the overwhelming desire is still there.If I say that bereaved children can make you want to do the same thing, will you all think I'm a terrible mother?
I'd say you are both human. Just like them!0 -
What a list of things to contend with, lir. If your body is telling you to sleep, and you can sleep now without (a) missing out on some important piece of animal care or (b) wrecking your ability to sleep tonight, then sleep. Sleep is good.
Hope things get sorted out more smoothly than you expect.
Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
Not me....................lostinrates wrote: »I'd say you are both human. Just like them!
Thank you both. Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
If I say that bereaved children can make you want to do the same thing, will you all think I'm a terrible mother?
Of course not. Remember that you too are bereaved and cut yourself some slack.
You have made a few comments like this recently, I'm wondering if the court hearing is stressing you out?I'm a Forum Ambassador on the housing, mortgages & student money saving boards. I volunteer to help get your forum questions answered and keep the forum running smoothly. Forum Ambassadors are not moderators and don't read every post. If you spot an illegal or inappropriate post then please report it to forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com (it's not part of my role to deal with this). Any views are mine and not the official line of MoneySavingExpert.com.0 -
What a list of things to contend with, lir. If your body is telling you to sleep, and you can sleep now without (a) missing out on some important piece of animal care or (b) wrecking your ability to sleep tonight, then sleep. Sleep is good.
Hope things get sorted out more smoothly than you expect.
I cannot, in case plumber does come. Also electric people are coming at some point they cannot specify.
Routine recently has been that I do animals trying to finish by 8 / 9 then 'rest ' but not sleep until about mid day.
I am scared if I sleep I end up need ing more and more.....I just slip away to a world of sleep......0 -
Of course not. Remember that you too are bereaved and cut yourself some slack.
You have made a few comments like this recently, I'm wondering if the court hearing is stressing you out?
Plus parent of a ( super) teenage boy and ( also super) younger girl who scrap a fair bit....even in ideal circumstances its likely to 'grate' sometimes.0 -
Of course not. Remember that you too are bereaved and cut yourself some slack.
You have made a few comments like this recently, I'm wondering if the court hearing is stressing you out?
The court hearing has been postponed - I have no idea when to. Probably months - for all I know quite possibly years.
I am not feeling particularly stressed ATM, although I have my moments. Mostly I either feel blank and that I am functioning in a utilitarian way but have no enthusiasm for anything, or else I feel frustrated that I am not getting done what I want to get done (mainly investing enough time and attention in my kids to be the kind of parent that they need, and sorting my house out so that it can be the sort of place that's pleasant and relaxing for me to be).
I do also have reasonably frequent episodes of feeling normal, and even of feeling purpose and energy and enthusiasm. They don't usually last long, though, and mainly result in my making plans that I then don't stick to.
And yes, I've seen the GP. And the occupational health nurse. They agree that it's not depression in my case, but burnout. It's caused by protracted stress over a long time, and can often be worst when the actual stress is starting to lessen. Anybody recognise my life here? There is no pharmacological treatment. I am supposed to be having talking therapy. I have been to my initial assessment appointment, and they will allocate me a counsellor soon.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
Yes I do know that. It's still bloody annoying.
One of the things about depression is that it makes you want to grab hold of the depressive and shout, "Will just just pull yourself together !!!!!!!!!". Of course that's completely hopeless and achieves nothing at all but the overwhelming desire is still there.
I admire you for managing not to do that - I would also find it very frustrating to deal with.If I say that bereaved children can make you want to do the same thing, will you all think I'm a terrible mother?
No, it makes you (a) human and (b) honest.
Terrible parents are those who pretend that they adore and cherish everything their horrible offspring ever does. Real parents admit that sometimes managing not to chuck offspring out of the nearest window is an effort....much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0
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