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PN, it sounds awful. I'm glad it's over for you.
We have had a drama this evening. DD's hamster has absolutely no sense of self-preservation. Since we first got her we've had to find ways of preventing her blocking herself into a tube with no air supply, and then ways of putting her water bottle somewhere it isn't designed to go because she keeps blocking access to it by shoving all her woodshavings and bedding in front of it. This evening she chewed through my make-shift water bottle support arrangement and got a thread wrapped round her back foot, which swelled up and went purple. We had to go to the vet, who anaesthetised her and easily got the thread off once the foot wasn't wriggling. No broken skin, foot returning to normal, hamster apparently quite happy and running about on all four feet. Phew. (Actually she was apparently quite happy and running about on all four feet even when one of them was huge and purple. No sense at all!) DD is now redesigning the cage so that the bottle can be somewhere that she can't block access to without offering her anything dangerous to chew.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
There's no more reason for you to take up something you dislike and hate it all over than there is for her to be asked to take up making jewellery.
You have to do what you want to do to be happy, not live someone else's ideals for them.
Hopefully they can see that.Please stay safe in the sun and learn the A-E of melanoma: A = asymmetry, B = irregular borders, C= different colours, D= diameter, larger than 6mm, E = evolving, is your mole changing? Most moles are not cancerous, any doubts, please check next time you visit your GP.
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Oh of course. Sorry. I was forgetting that you were paying fees and childcare simultaneously. Most of the parents I know are only paying one or the other. I'm now only paying for one child at after school club, but I do remember when DS was at nursery and DD was with a childminder (although only 3 days a week).
We can't, sadly, just do one or the other. The 10 days when Sam was away were immensely stressful, and we both had to turn down work. And even then, it felt balanced on a knife-edge of being late!Doozergirl wrote: »Just think. When you have two, you'll be saving money, in theory. Have another and you'll save even more!
I am definitely, definitely not going to have another (-: We are going to give Sam a pay rise, though, as 8 year old + baby is certainly more work for her than 8 year old only....much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0 -
neverdespairgirl wrote: »We can't, sadly, just do one or the other. The 10 days when Sam was away were immensely stressful, and we both had to turn down work. And even then, it felt balanced on a knife-edge of being late!
I understand that. I wondered at the time how you would cope on your own with getting Isaac to all the places he needed to be and still doing your own job, and I was impressed that you managed it.
Still, the impossibility of "just" paying school fees isn't intrinisic to the fact that you work, or even that you work full time - it's because of the particular type of work you do, its necessary travelling and its non-standard hours. Full time work in a more typical job, with fixed hours and no travelling, is perfectly possible without a nanny, although it does entail paying for either before/after school clubs or a few hours from a childminder who does drop off and pick up.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
Dh is having a suit crisis. He doesn't wear them at work apart for client meetings etc. he had to wear one last week, grabbed the one in his office and looked like a kid playing dress up. So now he is frantically ( far too late) trying on every suit he has). He's found something passable. It certainly won't pass for bespoke though.
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neverdespairgirl wrote: »We can't, sadly, just do one or the other. The 10 days when Sam was away were immensely stressful, and we both had to turn down work. And even then, it felt balanced on a knife-edge of being late!
I am definitely, definitely not going to have another (-: We are going to give Sam a pay rise, though, as 8 year old + baby is certainly more work for her than 8 year old only.
Most of my friends reduced their child care needs when their little one started school. So would move from all day care to top and tails plus extra cleaner time. What does Sam do all day when Isaac is in school?I'm a Forum Ambassador on the housing, mortgages & student money saving boards. I volunteer to help get your forum questions answered and keep the forum running smoothly. Forum Ambassadors are not moderators and don't read every post. If you spot an illegal or inappropriate post then please report it to forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com (it's not part of my role to deal with this). Any views are mine and not the official line of MoneySavingExpert.com.0 -
lostinrates wrote: »Dh is having a suit crisis. He doesn't wear them at work apart for client meetings etc. he had to wear one last week, grabbed the one in his office and looked like a kid playing dress up. So now he is frantically ( far too late) trying on every suit he has). He's found something passable. It certainly won't pass for bespoke though..
I remember you mentioning something similar before.
In terms of bespoke suits, I can remember the guys from where I used to work meeting with a guy from the Far East who would fly to the UK, measure them up then send them back beautiful made to measure suits in the cloths of their choice. They always looked fabulous and were a fraction of the UK price. It sounds like fir could do with someone like that. Not sure where you'd find them though.Please stay safe in the sun and learn the A-E of melanoma: A = asymmetry, B = irregular borders, C= different colours, D= diameter, larger than 6mm, E = evolving, is your mole changing? Most moles are not cancerous, any doubts, please check next time you visit your GP.
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vivatifosi wrote: »I remember you mentioning something similar before.
In terms of bespoke suits, I can remember the guys from where I used to work meeting with a guy from the Far East who would fly to the UK, measure them up then send them back beautiful made to measure suits in the cloths of their choice. They always looked fabulous and were a fraction of the UK price. It sounds like fir could do with someone like that. Not sure where you'd find them though.
Would lir and fir want to do that? Or would they feel it was putting English tailors out of business?PasturesNew wrote: »My mum worked part-time. I know she had a job in a canteen when I was 7-9 or so, with my older sibling looking after us (aged 16-18). I don't remember the details, but I do remember mum coming home at lunch time each day to bring us our lunch (chelsea bun, caramel wafer biscuit and a packet of crisps).
My older sibling remembers sitting on the dustbin at lunchtime before I was born, so she'd be 7-8 or so, waiting for mum to turn up from work and being late.
When I was 10+ we'd moved and mum got a job in a local office, part-time. She probably worked term-time only or something, I really don't remember much. I know I never had a house key.
So we never had childminders or after school clubs (which didn't exist).
The kids 5 doors down from us had a nanny. I can't remember what their dad did, but their mum was a doctor working full time.
My mum was a SAHM until I went to school. Then when she went back to work she started with just afternoons. It was arranged that I would go home from school with the girl next door and her mum would keep an eye on me until my mum got home.
After a while my mum was able to switch to working mornings. She had to leave the house at 8:00, but my dad was able to shuffle things about at work, so he could start later and finish later but be there with me until I set off for school in the morning.
Once I was in secondary school, my mum started going to see her mum once a week, so on Mondays I let myself in with a key at about 4ish, and Mum didn't get back until 5ish. My key lived on a chain safety-pinned into the pocket of my school coat. Sometimes if Mum locked herself out of the house, she would walk up to school (only a few hundred yards away) and help herself to my key from my coat in the cloakroom!Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
Back then it was easier to get a job to fit. Since these tax credits things came in, the world of work has changed....
People used to usually work certain hours or days. This also meant they could do 2-3 jobs if they wanted as they'd fit together.
Nowadays employers are using the "16 hours/week" criteria for parents/WTC/CTC to have a pool of people they expect to be able to drop everything and fit onto rotas anywhere.... so one part-time job can have hours all over the place.
People used to answer adverts for "Saturday staff wanted" ... not so much/.often these days as some people in the pool of available people will be rota'd on, on demand.
There were, therefore, more "part-time/school hours" and "part-time/term-time only" jobs advertised and available.0 -
I understand that. I wondered at the time how you would cope on your own with getting Isaac to all the places he needed to be and still doing your own job, and I was impressed that you managed it.
Still, the impossibility of "just" paying school fees isn't intrinisic to the fact that you work, or even that you work full time - it's because of the particular type of work you do, its necessary travelling and its non-standard hours. Full time work in a more typical job, with fixed hours and no travelling, is perfectly possible without a nanny, although it does entail paying for either before/after school clubs or a few hours from a childminder who does drop off and pick up.
Survived it, rather than managed it. We couldn't do the clubs and / or childminder thing, it would be too risky, and far too chaotic.Most of my friends reduced their child care needs when their little one started school. So would move from all day care to top and tails plus extra cleaner time. What does Sam do all day when Isaac is in school?
We don't have a cleaner, OH is opposed to them. Sam does two morning a week at the school, and she also puts washing and drying on, and goes to Waitrose, makes Isaac's lunches, unloads the dishwasher. She doesn't clean or wash up in general, apart from stuff she uses for her and Isaac. Theoretically, she only concerns herself with Isaac's clothing, but in practice, she tends to wash anything she finds....much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0
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