Lilt and Jellytots most excellent adventure...

liltdiddylilt

lobbyludd wrote: »

thanks for the recipe lilt shall try it whilst the monsters are running their grandparents ragged and report back.....

Yay, you're more than welcome lovey! I should so get around to doing that myself! xx

killerpeaty

Aww lilt, jellytot is going to be a right flirt :rotfl: !

Elephant: What you said about benefits is genuinely fascinating, I had no idea about any of that. You said that you work closely with the benefit fraud team, does that mean that you want in benefits?

You may feel that you aren't moving ahead lilt, but you are being magnificent. You're juggling a hectic work AND home life, and you're doing it with style (I'm imagining you juggling while doing back flips)!

Intrigued by the ham story!

supersaver1000

killerpeaty wrote: »

Aww lilt, jellytot is going to be a right flirt :rotfl: !

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You may feel that you aren't moving ahead lilt, but you are being magnificent. You're juggling a hectic work AND home life, and you're doing it with style (I'm imagining you juggling while doing back flips)!

Intrigued by the ham story!

Seconded by me. Aww thanks, DD has had her moments and has been very stubborn at times , but we were shopping in Debs the other day and she was picking out all of the things she would buy her little one (in the future) as she wanted to give her as nice a childhood as she'd had I was well chuffed (although I don't think I'm that good but it's so nice to hear I hadn't made a complete mess of it).

Jelly is such a sweetie, what a day you had, but you had a fab time and didn't let it phase you - a terrific mum!

Xx

dawnybabes

Save the photo - you can use it at their wedding :-)

please-let-me-be-lucky

Photo is delicious! Could be on a greetings card!!

You are very organised!! Xx

Eager_Elephant

killerpeaty wrote: »

Elephant: What you said about benefits is genuinely fascinating, I had no idea about any of that. You said that you work closely with the benefit fraud team, does that mean that you want in benefits?

Hi KP

I used to work for a local authority but I am now a Money Adviser (benefits and debt) for a charity but work closely with the local authority still. I like to keep my ear close to the ground and pick up all the tips etc.

I like to know the ins and outs so I can advise customers what they need to change if they are genuinely seperated or why they got caught and what they can do about it.

liltdiddylilt

Evening all.

As promised - the ham story!! It's a bit graphic so please don't be offended!

At the party, Jelly was having a great time. It was almost home time, and I was sat enjoying a tassimo latte (MUST NOT buy one of those machines!!!) and waiting for my friends lovely dad to come back with the car seat when friends lovely mum came to fetch me and told me Jelly was sat in the kitchen completely underneath the ball pit. Sure enough I went in and she was just appearing out from under it, having tipped it over her head and spilled a million balls!

One look at her told me she had something in her mouth... She was pawing at her tongue and started retching. I figured grass from the ball pit or a hair. I grabbed her and lifted her up to try and clean her mouth before the sick started... Too late. She was being held directly above the birthday boy and started to be sick!!! :eek: - Just in time, I whizzed her back towards me and a dainty little mouthful of sick splattered to the tile floor at my feet.

Jellytot looked down, looked back at me and said very loudly " OH dear!! Poor Ham!!" - On closer inspection, there was indeed a piece of ham in the sick. :rotfl: I love her I do. She is so comical. She throws things on the floor. I hear her when she is having a tantrum in her bedroom... *thump, thump, bang* " Oh dear! WHAT a mess!" "Poor iggle piggle!" "poor book!" "poor knickers!"

Took my top back today much to the amusement of the customer service lady. "I wore this after buying it on Saturday and then washed it precisely as the instructions said. It is now half the length and twice the width. I am not a size 20 pygmy!" - £6 back and a free top to wear for a party!

Also did something very cheeky. My bestie accompanied me to a wedding a while ago (June 2013!) and brought with her a wedding card for the bride and groom she had never met! Only she forgot the envelope. She left the card with me. I went to buy a wedding card for someone else in Mr S tonight, and lo and behold spotted a card that looked similar to the one I haven't seen in over a year residing in a cupboard somewhere! I said to the checkout girl that I had the card but had forgotten the envelope and she let me take it! £2.99 card?! Free!! Very MSE eh

Had physio tonight with my super wonderfully lovely physio. Last time I saw her she assessed my workstation at work and found it and me sadly wanting she fixed a lot but left some stuff for work to do in her report which work have not mentioned!! She gave me and Jelly (who I had to take!) a lift home and explained on the way that she had over an hour to kill in my town before her clinic started. I directed her to the seafront and went in. Then realised I am possibly the rudest person ever! Why I didn't invite her in I do not know... I couldn't call her as I didn't have her number. So I took her in a card today to say thank you and also apologise for being such a rubbish person! I only get 2 more sets of physio and I appear to be going backwards not forwards with stuff. She said I will likely get steroid injections directly into my spine after this

Not bothered about the injections, been there done that. But I am wishing I had more time to see physio who I have so much in common with haha!

I meant to go to bed 2 hours ago. Raaargh!

Night peeps xxx!

NinjaSavingKat

Hello Chickadee...

I have finally managed to read what is happening in your life and sit and reply properly! Firstly the picture with Jellytot and James is so beautiful - those little curls are amazing and Peaty is right a little flirt in the making ( in a good way )...

Reading more about "him" though has left me a little worried for you. I can understand why you would want to try again with him, I understand why you would want him in Jellytot's life and to spend quality time with her and I am not going to comment on the whole benefit thing as it's not my bag and I wouldn't understand as much as some on here.

But what I am concerned about is him using the "c" word towards you? And thinking it's ok to speak to you in that manner. It's like you have to mother him for him to realize what is acceptable and what isn't - with travel , with work, with benefits etc. I don't want to make you feel bad, sad or gloomy but you deserve more. And you deserve better.

You are not on the same wave length and you seem to be a much stronger, more competent individual than "him" and he is holding you back. However I shan't say no more on the subject I just wanted to share my reflections on things.. You are a strong woman, I really like you since we met over cyberspace and I really want whats best for you but I wonder how long this can go on before you start to resent him for how he speaks to you ...

I like how you described your "lovely" bedroom. Always relaxing to be in your own space.. mine usually includes lots of pillows and a candle...

Jellytot and ham - very amusing. She seems to be a proper little character. And SO cute!

I am impressed with your organizational skills though with your day out. That's how I hope I'll roll when (if) I have a sproglet. I know how Jelly feels with travel though.. in any moving vehicle I have to look out the window and nowhere else or I will feel sick for the rest of the day...ugh!

Anyway that's my tuppence worth. Keep those pictures coming!

x x x

liltdiddylilt

Awwwh Kat. I loves you I do.

You must never apologise for speaking honestly and truthfully especially when you are just looking out for me. Just like EagerElephant, I take everything in the spirit it was intended. If there is something I have learned in the last 10 months, it is that I have a huge capacity for the 'love and light' side of life. I'm not an active believer in 'God' which is not to say that I am arrogant or ignorant enough to not think there is more out there than this, (How many double negatives there?!) but I do like a healthy dose of Karma. Buddha had a whole lot of good to say, & the Hopi have some fantastic beliefs. 'Hopi' means peaceful person and above all that is what I am trying to be.

I am aware that there are so many failings in my relationship it is almost comical; but there is a lot of good. I take pleasure in very small things almost every day. It is not the same as before. I am not the same as before. There is a lot I miss, but I am on a journey, as are we all, and I have to accept that there are bumps, detours, promising looking dead-ends and giant cliffs along with all the beautiful scenery.

Right now I am trying to figure out whether this is a bump, a dead-end or a cliff I fell off a while ago. It is difficult to be objective when your heart is involved, but I think it is a blessing that even this far into a difficult period in my life, I can still discuss and feel love for that plonker :rotfl:. Where there is love, there is hope.

I still look at it each day with Jellytot foremost in my mind, then, critically, ME. Previously it would have been, Jelly, Him, me. I'm working through a lot of things but I am aware that there is a lot more to work on and that eventually, this may not be the right thing for me. It isn't something I will ever regret though. Should there ever come a day when Jelly asks me why I and her daddy are no longer together, I will be able to tell her that I gave it my all but in the end it just wasn't right. I'm not convinced either way right now, and until I am, I won't make decisions that affect my daughters life so vastly. That includes him moving back in. This, 3 days, 2 nights thing works. I get time to myself. I enjoy and value the time I have with Him. I do things with Jelly I would otherwise not, and so does he on the days I work. It works right now.

As for his language; I wish I could say he would change that. It's always been the same although in front of Jelly he doesn't swear at all. That particular word is his go-to one though, probably because he knows how much I detest its use. I did get an apology but I didn't accept it for a long while and he knows he crossed a line there. Let us hope he learns. I won't put up with that forever.

x

NinjaSavingKat

liltdiddylilt wrote: »

Right now I am trying to figure out whether this is a bump, a dead-end or a cliff I fell off a while ago. It is difficult to be objective when your heart is involved, but I think it is a blessing that even this far into a difficult period in my life...............

Should there ever come a day when Jelly asks me why I and her daddy are no longer together, I will be able to tell her that I gave it my all but in the end it just wasn't right.

I'm not convinced either way right now, and until I am, I won't make decisions that affect my daughters life so vastly.

I cut and pasted the parts that stood out for me. Either way, as you have said, the decision has to be definitive, something that you realize you can't not do (matched your double negative tongue twister right there)..And you have to do it with your entire heart in place.

You think and act like me a little - perhaps that is why I like you so much. You have to be able to give Jelly a true answer - that you DID try - but things just weren't meant to be (should that be the case) - and you have to have that actual attempt completed otherwise you couldn't look your daughter in the eye. I fully respect that.

It would be a massive change to both your lives so I can see why you need to be sure. He probably realizes he has a very different kind of woman on his hands these days and it will take him a little while to adjust to - and I am sure your disgust at him using that word hit a mark with him.