A Singularly Lonely Christmas

paulineb_2

Shame the thread is being closed.

I don't think that people should need to move to a daily chat thread they've never been a part of, particularly considering some people on the boards have various diaries that can often run for a year at a time.

Neither was this a typical Christmas thread, I think it could be renamed and moved to another board but not closed.

paulineb_2

Oh and personally, I'm sorry that I felt the need to defend myself in that earlier post if I'm the person who caused the thread to be derailed, I just felt that the post made to me was unnecessary and it's not nice when it's suggested that you're offensive.

I'll be taking a break from the thread, I wish you all well.

Anouchka

Pauline, keep posting. I live in Glasgow and think you are perfectly entitled to your opinion - much of which I just happen to agree with.

calicocat

Just a quick post.

On loose women today (I actually hate the programme now)...but Paul mckenna is doing a piece on emotional eating.

Not pertaining to just singletons obviously, but thought it may be interesting for those pootling about at home today who think they do that at times.

I also think we should keep the thread in some 'singleton' form rather than just a general chat thread.


Paulineb.....i wouldn't give it a second thought kiddo...threads get derailed and then get back on track all the time, nature of the beast. no biggie. Just because someone got upset about Glasgow is no reason not to post. Get it out of your head and carry on as normal.

LB's post...that pretty much sums it up, single people need different support due to battling through what life chucks at us on our own rather than having someone to either help, or just sound of to, or ask advice.

calicocat

WOW....i don't really look at the how many people are lurking.!!

Must be of interest then.

VJsmum

Hello, I've been a lurker :cool:

Mainly haven't contributed because I am not in the same position, but have found it truly inspirational.

I think there is a place on this board for such a thread.

Byatt

Being OS and single, I feel there is a need for this thread, it is hard when you can't share things which are often unique to being single. The sharing can be small or big but can make the difference between getting out of bed in the morning or staying put because of "what's the point". I can go days (used to be weeks) of not talking to a human being, and then the small worries become big worries because there is no outlet.

I hope there is a place for us singletons, whether in reality on in the heart, because it's difficult enough to find a place in the world outside of a forum.

The encouragements and the acknowledgements that I actually exist, through this thread, are a lifeline. Plus of course the OS hints and tips of doing things on a budget are invaluable.

Lilyplonk

I'm another 'lurker' with the 'occasional contribution' and appreciate what the thread has been about.

I'm NOT single - have a long-term live-in partner - but we aren't co-dependent on each other.

Most of my socialising is done on a 'single basis' apart from 'family stuff' when we do things with both our families as a couple.

MummyBobble

This has been a great support for me. Being single isn't easy, at times everything seems geared up to being all about couples/families etc and it can be difficult to find places you are comfortable with (lost both my parents many years ago and my lovely sisters live to far away to see frequently). I know that while my children are (for now) my priority, I can't live my life through them and as time goes by I'm needed less (unless it's the bank of mum or mum's taxi that's needed ). I have a very low income, huge debts and my house is a mess :eek: , but being able to share others experiences of finding ways to move forward is an enormous help.

It's sunny here today, so after lunch I'm going to go for a walk and enjoy the peace and fresh air.

I'm not going to say that this will be my year (that would be soooo tempting fate!) but I'm planning on it being a year when I find more time for me and what I need xx

Byatt

Lilyplonk, your post has reminded me that when married, my socialisng was done mostly on a single basis, because my husband's job (hours as well as the job itself) meant we had very different interests and friends.