A Singularly Lonely Christmas

groatie_queen

Byatt, good call re the U3A, great time to start, I haven't looked back since I joined. For me it'll be fortnightly Scrabble, monthly crafts and the coffee morning drop-in this term. I look forward to reading how you get on.

Re the shyness/lack of social confidence/too used to being on one's own: I was invited to an afternoon tea party yesterday, and two hours beforehand caught my mind starting to invent reasons not to go. So, took myself by the scruff of the neck, got in the car and went, and it was really good to meet up with old friends and talk to some new people too.

Out of that had a conversation with someone who runs a yoga class locally, which fits in with one of my days off, and which I'll tap into from this week. Everyone goes for a cuppa afterwards apparently, sounds good to me. I'm sure I'll find I need to quell that inner voice which doesn't want to leave its (dis)comfort zone, I just need to have another louder inner voice hollering for having some more fun and a bit of company.

Yoga lady told us about a great free online relaxation meditation - just about to try it out, it came highly recommended:

http://www.meditainment.com/the-secret-garden/

PS The music at the start is quite loud but does fade - lovely relaxing meditation, lovely sound effects!

paulineb_2

I do like my cats more than a lot of people Ive met in this life, that is fact. Particularly the ones Ive met over the last couple of years My cats are brill, considering theres 6 of them in a medium sized flat, they all get on not too bad.

Well I made it to grit tonight, you dont get slacking in this instructors class, not for a second, anyway after I went to the supermarket for some very cheap YS bread (some for me, some for birds), I got off the bus and the driver said to me "just get in and get straight to your bed hen"

I must have looked knackered, that I am. I found some zero percent cobra beer in the supermarket.

Good times. Tomorrow is a thump and body attack doubler followed by some weights, I love a tuesday morning, am done and dusted by lunchtime.

Am booked into a 6 week spin bootcamp that starts on Friday night, Saturday is usually my do nothing day and it all starts on a Sunday again

lostinrates

Hehe, my cats are wonderful. They rule the roost, including the dogs. they'll let two of the dogs on the bed occasionally but never the third and biggest. . They sleep in a knot of each other through the day and with me/us through the night.

I love that endearment 'hen'. . ,

LavenderBees

groatie_queen wrote: »

Byatt, good call re the U3A, great time to start, I haven't looked back since I joined. For me it'll be fortnightly Scrabble, monthly crafts and the coffee morning drop-in this term. I look forward to reading how you get on.

Re the shyness/lack of social confidence/too used to being on one's own: I was invited to an afternoon tea party yesterday, and two hours beforehand caught my mind starting to invent reasons not to go. So, took myself by the scruff of the neck, got in the car and went, and it was really good to meet up with old friends and talk to some new people too.

Out of that had a conversation with someone who runs a yoga class locally, which fits in with one of my days off, and which I'll tap into from this week. Everyone goes for a cuppa afterwards apparently, sounds good to me. I'm sure I'll find I need to quell that inner voice which doesn't want to leave its (dis)comfort zone, I just need to have another louder inner voice hollering for having some more fun and a bit of company.

Yoga lady told us about a great free online relaxation meditation - just about to try it out, it came highly recommended:

http://www.meditainment.com/the-secret-garden/

Yes!! You've described exactly what I do. I accept invites, chuffed to bits to get them, and then spend hours thinking of excuses not to go. Mostly, but not always, I do enjoy myself once I get there.

I like the thought of a louder inner voice hollering :T

Will take a look at the meditation link tomorrow night, I think. Ta v much!

LavenderBees

lostinrates wrote: »

Hehe, my cats are wonderful. They rule the roost, including the dogs. they'll let two of the dogs on the bed occasionally but never the third and biggest. . They sleep in a knot of each other through the day and with me/us through the night.

I love that endearment 'hen'. . ,

I love my cats to bits...quirky little personalities, great fun to play with, lovely to cuddle. They kindly let me sleep in [STRIKE]my[/STRIKE] their bed...:rotfl:

groatie_queen

LavenderBees wrote: »

. They kindly let me sleep in [STRIKE]my[/STRIKE] their bed...:rotfl:

So true... :T:T

LavenderBees

Evening All,

I have on eye on "The 7.39" so apols if I mistype/miss anything :rotfl:

Paulineb - honestly, it sounds to me that you have outgrown your friends. Apart from gym etc, what else do you like doing that could help you make friends?

Calicocat - well done on the rezzas. You can do it! And regarding having a lazier afternoon than planned, that's allowed...why not? You need some time to recharge.

NTBT - sounds like a plan

Byatt - very proud of you re U3A. I know how hard it is sometimes to walk through a door, when you don't know anyone. But chin up, look 'em all in the eye, and knock 'em dead :T And most importantly....ENJOY!!

My day has been eventful in that I've made a big decision tonight not to resume my studying. It bores me, makes me feel quite down, and I don't want to waste a second more of my life on something out of work that I'm not enjoying. So, am confessing tonight that one rezza is down and out, but I feel so much happier for making that decision.

Last year was such a bad year and I feel so much better, more positive for this year, that, out of work, I want to concentrate on things I will enjoy.

So, that's what I'm going to do...enjoy myself! There will be some grot things to deal with in my life this year, without any doubt, but they will happen regardless. Around and outside of these, I want as enjoyable a life as possible to shore me up to deal with the problems and keep them in perspective.

Studying after 10 hrs at work...pah!! Not for me this year!!

Byatt

I lovs my cat too, he's been with me a year to the day, I don't know his exact age as he was a rescue, so have told him this is his official birthday such as the queen has, so he's 6 today!

Thanks guys for all the positives on the U3A, like many of you I do the planning and then find some excuse not to attend, but will endeavour to not do that. This year I must have some fun, more than once a year anyway! Not sure why, but have a tendency to guilt when enjoying myself, puritan upbringing maybe. :cool:

I like the idea of having dinner with friends at home, bringing different courses, and when I get a few I might do that. Friends that is

Pauline, I am exhausted just thinking about the exercise you do!

I like yoga, although physically can't do some moves, but have a yearning to do drumming or dancing...just, well...bopping about. :rotfl:

paulineb_2

My mum calls me hen and my brother son.

Oddly enough I call my girl cat smudge hen or wee hen.

Boys get called lads. Not that they know !!!!!! I'm on about.

paulineb_2

I have no idea tbh, just going to keep plodding away with meet up and see if I find a better group.

I'm really boring, I like exercise, going to the football. The occasional night out and that's it. Oh and staying in when hermit mode overtakes me

I used to do lots of voluntary work but although it got me out, can't say I made many friends from it.