A Singularly Lonely Christmas

LavenderBees

Need2bthrifty wrote: »

Also thinking it would be a shame if the thread stopped. Been having a think about a name change and although wouldn’t want to exclude anyone, the thread primarily about singledom, loss & loneliness has changed. Yes there will always be the feeling alone/lonely spells for people but I think it’s covered a number of coping strategies and moved on, maybe “single life - living it with extras” - but you as the OP may have your own ideas of which direction you want to take it.

Hmmmm......em........nope.....not got a clue :rotfl:

I'm open to suggestions...quite like yours as long as people don't get the wrong idea about the "extras" :rotfl:

Need2bthrifty

LavenderBees wrote: »

Hmmmm......em........nope.....not got a clue :rotfl:

I'm open to suggestions...quite like yours as long as people don't get the wrong idea about the "extras" :rotfl:

:shocked:....Aah, yes......see what you mean

What about going back to a previous post of yours, just changing it to the present tense :cool:

LavenderBees wrote: »

Who'd have thunk we'd get through this period, and, may I say, not in a shy way, but more, much more than this, we did it our way :rotfl:

paulineb_2

Tonight ended up being a cherry juice and ginger ale night, however it was two small cans of canada dry, for some reason aldi dont sell ginger ale and the next supermarket didnt have any low cal ginger ale left. Aldi didnt have sweet tatties either, looks like a plague of healthy eating locusts descended on my local aldi today.

I went to the zumba event today in Glasgow, Ive just given up my licence to teach zumba after 4 years of being an instructor, you have to pay 20 quid a month and you do get music and choreography, but I just felt I wanted to teach other formats that didnt cost me as much. Its a shame because when you leave every training youve done with them, you lose and Ive done a lot, but in ten years time, Id have spent 2 and a half grand just to keep being licenced. Compared to paying £129 for my kettlebells licence and I have it for life.

They raised £3500 for the families of the people who were killed or injured in the recent Clutha pub helicopter disaster, entry was by donation on the day. Saw a few people I hadnt seen in a while and someone who remembered me from the zumba convention in Orlando two years ago, she forgot my name though which made me feel better as I didnt remember her, I must have spoken to hundreds of people that week and Im generally ok with names and faces, but anyway, was nice that she remembered me.

I never went to Zumba classes before I got licensed as I was on one of the very early trainings and there wasnt any, so the only time I get to be a participant is when I go to events like these, which is maybe 4 or 5 times a year depending on whats on. Maybe going to do a weekend away later in the year with fitness fiesta, have been to a few zumba only events but would like to do one with a different mix of classes.

Didnt feel sad being there and not being an instructor anymore. Theres nothing to stop me teaching classes and just calling them latin cardio, but zumba forbid you using the music youve bought from them in any other class after you leave (well more like sometimes you are told its ok and sometimes you are told it isnt), so Id be better I think just carrying on with the stuff Im doing just now. Ive got a year to rejoin and get my trainings back, but at the moment, I think Ive done my time and its time to teach other things.

I might also be parting ways with another company that I pay money to soon, because the people who created that programme and have a facebook page for instructors and participants, they blocked me from their facebook page a few weeks ago because someone criticising another programme and I made a comment that I had done it and liked it (which I do, I love it).

Blocked. Didnt tell me, I just went to post and I couldnt. I was pretty upset at the time, I found out on christmas eve, but if thats the way they treat instructors who pay their company money and I do pay them money every month, well, again Id be better just doing my own thing.

Not the way Id treat people, but you need to suck it up and be the bigger person. As long as I teach and I will keep teaching, Im happy. Ive had some highs and lows over the last few years and theres been a few times Ive almost thrown in the towel, but everytime Ive come close to giving up, Ive realised how much I would miss it. I had a 6 week break earlier this year when I was changing venues and that felt like a year.

Anyway, thump boxing in the morning, some weights, a bit of spin and timetables go back to normal at my local gym and the other one I go to on Monday.

groatie_queen

Pauline, agree it's disappointing when people don't treat others with the respect due, particularly when paying for a service!

I'm one who is guilty of being too independent.. can be very diffident about asking for help, but having watched Kelly McGonigle's revelations about the role of oxytocin and how we're biologically programmed by it to seek help when we're stressed - and ignore this biological signalling at our peril - I will swallow my pride and do more asking.

Another find from HuffPost - some all-year-round things to do

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/louise-presleyturner/all-year-resolutions_b_4464225.html?utm_hp_ref=uk

I'm off to have a bath and read my Christmas gift from my closest friend - the 10th anniversary edition of Simple Abundance - A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, written by Sarah Ban Breathnach. Lovely to start at the beginning of a fresh new year - I lost my original copy, and had missed it.

Last day at home tomorrow before work starts again on Monday. I've had a good rest, and the company of everyone on the thread has been so uplifting and enjoyable over the Christmas break, and has been very cheery and cheering. I look forward to continuing into 2014 with LB & Co!

calicocat

boddy wrote: »

Hello everyone just been catching up on the thread.

LB Well done on the cat and chicken sitter and sorting out the manure. Im the same about asking for help. I put it off and struggle on or try to do whatever myself. With me I think it's a thing about bothering people.

Calicocat. Sounds like that was quite a step for you. Must admit Im a bit of a hermit too. Specially during the winter.

Having a bit of hassle with a certain mobile company. Changed my contract and want to keep number. You would think I was wanting the stars. They have been contacted five times up to now and say its done but its not. I can see a complaint heading their way.

GB. Those links look good so will be having a look.

To be honest Boddy it wasn't a big step at all, I just did it, I didn't really think about it until driving home and then suddenly thought how I don't normally do that. I think I don't make the effort enough with strangers and tend to live in my bubble as it is now. If that makes sense.

Anyhow, there has obviously been some shift somewhere.

Have a lovely day everyone...


I'm off to sleep...when house warms up. temp is 10 degrees.....................................In the house!!! going to spend next few days 'faffing' with the heating and boiler as this is no good, entire house isn't far of being a ruddy fridge.

I foresee the other fluffy onesie arriving soon at this rate......lol.

LavenderBees

Morning All, :j

Going on a walk with my walking group today as the weather is a lot better than expected it to be....can't find my fleece hat though. Poo!

I love the Huffington Post, GQ, I'm so glad you've introduced me to it.

I like your suggestion, NTBT, so maybe something like "OS Single Life - We do it our way!" ?? :T

Have a good day, everyone!

LB xx

calicocat

Paulineb...

The music that you buy from a company to instruct to...

Is it music created and written by people for this company? Or do they 'borrow' Latin music from original artists?...just curious with you not being allowed to use it.


I'm going to have to google 'thump boxing'.....quite like the sound of that.


Huffington Post is great, lots of good articles.

Enjoy the walk LB.x

MummyBobble

Enjoy your walk LB. Getting out is something I must try to do much more of this year. On Friday I dropped my car off for it's MOT :eek: and walked the couple of miles home. Not far, but the exercise and fresh air lifted my mood. I have a bit of a fresh air thing going on, sleep with the small window in my bedroom open all year round and have already opened a couple of other windows since I got up (we had a frost last night so it's lovely and fresh this morning), though I suspect that when DD and DS are dragged from their pits it'll be windows closed and heating on - pair of wussies

Calicocat, I'm going to follow your example and try to be more sociable this year. I'm rubbish at asking for help, think that I'm only being included in things because folk think they have to and that my mood will just spoil things so I'm going to be more positive and make the effort to get involved in things that I choose to take part in (even if I have to organise it myself). If I can pull this one off it'll deserve a "whoop whoop" at the very least :j

Today is "getting ready for us all to go back to school tomorrow" day, and I WILL be organised before teatime so we can enjoy the evening.

boddy

Ooh I think you lot have motivated me. Im sitting here slobbing. Then I thought. Get yourself ready and go round the Community Woods. Used to do that a lot and didnt last year. It's about an hour to walk.

Supposed to be at voluntary job but decided to have today off and go in early tomorrow.

Calicocat Hope you get your boiler sorted.

Byatt

Motivated by talks of walks, I dragged my sorry self out into the rain, first to check the car would start, it doesn't like rain, and then to pootle off on a short circuit of the village. I took the easier route and meandered rather than strode even though it's tipping down. Feeling glum before I went out, I do feel loads better. I just need to remind myself that I do not need to do a 3 mile hike tomorrow, as I tend to do, pushing myself harder than I should, and then giving up because I'm exhausted and in pain.

So I wandered to the lottie, to check if "mine" was still available, I say mine, because no-one has yet responded to my yes, I will have it, but can I see someone about it...it's still a rough piece of ground so suspect it could still be mine.

Then popped into the phone box (village library :rotfl:, honest) to choose a book that's a bit more light hearted than the Steig Larsson books I'm ploughing through.

So, now the joys of litter tray cleaning, getting the bins out and peeling some spuds for a cottage pie.

edit, forgot to say, the village phonebox had some walking leaflets so I now have details of reasonable circuits around the village, not by the river yet though!