A Singularly Lonely Christmas

calicocat

groatie_queen wrote: »

I think ~ 44,300 views in 39 days says this thread is pulling in a lot of people - that is slightly over 1,000 views per day.

I never ever look at how many people view a thread, haven't even thought about it until today.

I think I feel a bit naked.......lol.

boddy

Just had a catch up. It would be a shame to lose this thread and I really hope it can be kept on in some form.

Really pleased today as when I got weighed at SW I had lost 2and a half pounds. I had thought the best free exercise is walking. So trying to walk back and forward to work. Then at work I worked out the number of steps in a circuit of the hospital. 660 as it turns out. Then about every half hour or so I did a circuit. I often am walking round anyway delivering stuff for the receptionists. Im not keen on gyms.

debtfreefuture

I'm another lurker. I must say I love this thread. I'm also on my own. I have three children, all left home now, and three grandchildren.
I'm out to work for 9 hours a day, Monday to Friday, babysit two of the grandchildren two 'tea times ' a week. However, when I am at home I sit on my backside watching tv. This thread has certainly given me loads to think about and masses of inspiration to 'get off my butt' and do something.
I only live 500 meters from the beach - yet hardly go down there from September to April (although I'm down there every weekend if it hot!) so my first 'aim' is to go for a wander this Saturday and Sunday.
Thank you all for making my life seem a bit more positive ........

LavenderBees

Oh, bless you all. I can't tell you how it warms my heart to hear that this thread has helped in so many wee ways. Just knowing you're all there helps me feel so much less alone in dealing with everything...well done to you all for giving this thread it's get up and go, which in turn has given us our get up and go :T

Wherever Pink thinks we should go, I'm sure we'll be fine.

Groatie Queen, as usual, you hit the nail on the head for me. OS is incredibly important to anyone with limited income (regardless of situation). This thread has approached OS things from a slightly different angle but it is OS all the same, through and through.

Boddy - I, too, have been walking at lunchtimes (away from shops :A) and have lost a little bit of weight. Psychologically, I feel MUCH slimmer than I am :rotfl:. Well done you, on turning yours around back in the right direction, too

Spirit - thank you for your introduction. I was just saying to Far Flung Friend that it's lovely to have a little bit of background so you "know" the other posters. On the subject of chickens, I absolutely understand what you mean about being tied/doing everything yourself. I bet you miss your girls . It's the main thing I have been worried about, but I have arranged for a lovely teenager to help me out for pocket money, and I know her family will also help me if necessary. Fingers crossed it works out

I may not be around much until the weekend (when lack of spendy money will ensure even more frugal OS goings on). I'm going to be busier than expected..... My builder (lovely lovely builder :rotfl:) has rung tonight to ask if he can start my wee building job tomorrow...earlier than expected. I may be financially stretched but I am so excited! I do feel sorry for my old wooden porch though...it's been there at least 40yrs that my old neighbours remember. I feel so sad "he's" going to be knocked down tomorrow. Does anyone else feel this way about their "old things"? The builder thinks I'm daft, but agrees my porch "is definitely a character", so I think my daftness is rubbing off :rotfl:

Years ago, I cried when I sold my wee car, too, and insisted on meeting the new owner (so I knew the car was going to a good home)...



Sleep tight, all.

LB xx

Anouchka

I really hope this thread continues, renamed if necessary. I was go glad to find a thread aimed at single people. Sometimes (very often) it seems that everything's aimed at families and, having tried both ways of living, I know that living on your own is a very different animal.

LavenderBees

Anouchka wrote: »

I really hope this thread continues, renamed if necessary. I was go glad to find a thread aimed at single people. Sometimes (very often) it seems that everything's aimed at families and, having tried both ways of living, I know that living on your own is a very different animal.

100% agree with you, Anouchka. As Byatt also said earlier on today, singles are often (or at least rightly or wrongly can feel) marginalised and pushed to the side in society. But there's thousands of us out there. I often think there is a huge market of us for someone with imagination to tap into...and yet, and sadly, we're mostly overlooked.

It's been interesting today to find the thread has also been useful for none singles, too.

The more the merrier, in my view. I'd love everyone to join in and all help each other. But to me as a single, needing OS type practical and motivational support, this thread's USP, as it were, is that it's primarily aimed at those on their own.

ktj

Hi,

Happened upon this thread just after New Year and read it from start to finish in one sitting, being amazed and uplifted by how it was evolving. .

Just wanted to say, please do not close it :eek::eek::eek: and please, please, please do not change its name:eek:.

To me its name indicates the poignant starting point for the journey that this thread has become and emphasises what positive changes can occur in a very short period of time.

Reading this thread fosters a hopeful outlook for 2014 - so long may it continue.

Best Wishes to all. Kje.

lizziebabe

Hi all :hello:

I usually live on my own - my 2 grown up children have flown the nest. I have a lodger at the moment, she is an aussie friend of my daughter's and good company.
I don't mind being on my own, most of the time but am disappointed that some of my friends don't invite me to things. I used to entertain a lot but seldom do now. I would much prefer to go out as I am usually on my own at home.
Anyway, this is a great thread and just goes to show there are a lot of us singletons around. I find that I just get on with things on my own otherwise I would never do anything, especially if I waited for friends to suggest doing something.

spirit

How are you getting on having a lodger about the place lizziebabe? That too is brilliant for us singletons to top up the coffers. However that too is a whole new animal and can be an eye opener.

You often see posts on the housing board from landladies when things have gone a bit belly up. I had lodgers in my last house in Hampshire - to top up the coffers mainly, but also it's another 'body' to talk to when you get home. I still keep in touch with an American lady who stayed with me whilst researching a branch of the Jane Austen family (my house was near where she used to live and therefore lots of info for researchers). A couple of other lodgers were less successful :eek:

LavenderBees

ktj wrote: »

Hi,

Just wanted to say, please do not close it :eek::eek::eek: and please, please, please do not change its name:eek:.

To me its name indicates the poignant starting point for the journey that this thread has become and emphasises what positive changes can occur in a very short period of time.

Reading this thread fosters a hopeful outlook for 2014 - so long may it continue.

Best Wishes to all. Kje.

Hello! :j

I agree the thread name is poignant, and I think it has played a good part in drawing people in to read and contribute. But the truth is that I feel we've moved beyond that now. I have definitely moved beyond that dark place. I'd prefer this (original) thread to remain but be closed. That way we won't lose it, so it is there if anybody else in need of support and nourishment of the soul searches on "lonely" and "Christmas".

If we have a link to it from a new thread with an uplifting name, then we also are symbolizing the hopeful and motivational moving forward that lots of us are supporting each other to achieve.

Does that make sense?

LB xx