Christmas

SimonSays

Oakie wrote: »

A lot of Indian restaurants are open on xmas day. Also many pubs are open. { I'm not suggesting you get drunk }

An indian sounds good

Also, One of the groups have replied to me so I am popping up tonight to see if I fit in etc

heartbreak_star

Good luck

Don't worry about immediately fitting in with EVERYONE - they have to get to know you. Just be sociable and friendly, and go with the flow!

Hope you have a great time.

HBS x

Mojisola

SimonSays wrote: »

I just feel bad I won't see a single person from the 24th to the 2nd until I return to work and have to lie that I had an amazing christmas and new year when its just me

Why lie? If people knew that you were going to be on your own over Christmas you might have had some invites from them.

Sezzagirl

I've just been reading through this thead and it makes me smile see how many people are willing to reach out to try to help someone! :-)

Just a thought though, if you are planning a take-away on Christmas Day, do check that they're open! I don't think many round our way would be and the indian restaurants tend to be bookings only

It may different in a big city or town but I'd hate to think of anyone planning to nip out to pick something up and being disappointed. I do know of a friend planning to buy the takeaway on Christmas Eve and reheat but not sure that would be as nice

I'v always thought that if I wasn't doing the big meal i think I'd like lots of picky bits from somewhere like M&S, something different for a treat that doesn't need loads of prep

Failing that, fresh (part-baked) bread, lovely cheese and crackers sounds good too

SimonSays

Was an alright night. Have to formally apply to the group now.

So many model trains I want now

duchy

SimonSays wrote: »

Was an alright night. Have to formally apply to the group now.

So many model trains I want now

Glad it went well

Humphrey10

SimonSays wrote: »

I like model trains, I love the detailing of them, I love how small they can be.

I was going to reply and say "mine are smaller than yours!" but

SimonSays wrote: »

The other group is 00 and I love N

I see yours are tiny too

My tiny trains are also in boxes, I'm renting a 1 bed house, but the bedroom is big so technically I could fit a table in, the trouble is I need to do a serious clear out of stuff first. And that require motivation, which I don't have. Oh well.

RachRubyD

Glad you have found a nice place to enjoy your hobby and meet new people. I can sympathise as am feeling lonely right now myself most of the time. All my friends are on the other side of the world travelling and having a marvellous time in sunny places. Am stuck in rainy old britain working away for pennies.

There is far to much pressure on society about Christmas. Its built up to be such an amazing time and everyone should be jolly and together as a family. Its a fantasy and totally unachieveable really. Unless your religious (and I don't see how having a christmas dinner and stressing buying expensive presents has anything to do with religion) I don't really see the point in it. It would be a lot nicer if people made the effort all the year round with one another and where generous. Me and my mum can't spend christmas with the rest of our family (her brothers and sisters, and my cousins etc) because they are going for £40 meal and we just can't afford it.

I don't care about christmas, the last 2 xmas's i've broken up with my boyfriend of many years and been in such a state and put pressure on myself to be jolly and try and enjoy christmas day. Last year me and my mum said sod it, didn't bother with roast dinner as none of us felt like eating and watched films and had a nice roast a few days later. Its a horrible time of year if your alone, every advert seems to feature happy families and loving couples and its a painful reminder.

I'd suggest you volunteer as well and maybe get a free roast flung in as well for your efforts. Or just say sod christmas its just another day and do what you normally do on a day off. Lounge about, get a nice take away and watch tv. Do you not have any pets? I always find the help brighten the mood.

margaretclare

I agree with the above. I particularly agree with 'having dinner and buying presents' has nothing at all to do with what Christmas is supposed to be about. It is possible to divide the 'religious' aspect from all the rest, the build-up, the advertising, the expectations which - in most cases - can never be fulfilled.

DH and I go to church, we take part in the carol services, we'll be there on Christmas morning. As for all the rest, I do still send cards, mainly because there are a lot of people who still send cards to me. I've tried saying 'I'm not sending cards this year' but then I feel mean.

As for the rest of it, no. We've often done different things with the rest of Christmas Day. If it's fine we'll probably go for a little walk down the sea-front. If it's not, we'll stay indoors. We shan't be eating turkey, that's one thing for certain. We'll do a nice meal just for the two of us, but it won't include any of the things that most people think are essential for this one meal out of the year. Probably venison casserole cooked with red wine.

For many, many centuries, at the darkest part of the year when there wasn't much to do outside on the farm, and warfare wasn't possible because of the state of the roads, it has been customary for people to get together, stay warm, eat together, tell stories and sing songs. A lot of it has grown from that.

fluffymuffy

I found myself alone on Christmas day a couple of years ago and charitably devoted the whole day to providing human contact to others via the MSE forum.

Actually that is a useful thought. At Christmas forums such as this can be a lifeline - not just for those who are alone, but also for those who find themselves lonely while surrounded by people they don't particularly choose to be with. Coming on here to chat is an act of giving your time.