A simple and probably unnecessary moan about family.

Tropez

paddy's_mum wrote: »

No, no - you misunderstand me! You don't buy a card. You simply take one that you've been sent, scribble over the 'love from Aunty Edna' type stuff, re-sign it and post it without a stamp. Zero chance of them not getting the hint, you see.

Got it now?

PS I got this idea from my barmy mother in law who constantly did this to us - birthdays, Christmas ... now that was one relative I would have loved to [STRIKE]assasinate[/STRIKE] divorce.

Ah, I see, very sneaky.

Desperado99

paddy's_mum wrote: »

No, no - you misunderstand me! You don't buy a card. You simply take one that you've been sent, scribble over the 'love from Aunty Edna' type stuff, re-sign it and post it without a stamp. Zero chance of them not getting the hint, you see.

Got it now?

PS I got this idea from my barmy mother in law who constantly did this to us - birthdays, Christmas ... now that was one relative I would have loved to [STRIKE]assasinate[/STRIKE] divorce.

OR.......... make an origami card out of the printed email

Anyhoo....... I think

A. You sound like such a lovely person, I can't quite understand how they don't like you (their loss). I completely understand why you put up with them just for your mum's sake, you're a good son.

B. It sounds to me as if you're doing all the dutiful son stuff while they only appear for presents

C. Your wedding sounds lovely, congratulations and best wishes for the future to you and soon to be Mrs Tropez.

Tropez

Desperado99 wrote: »

OR.......... make an origami card out of the printed email

Anyhoo....... I think

A. You sound like such a lovely person, I can't quite understand how they don't like you (their loss). I completely understand why you put up with them just for your mum's sake, you're a good son.

B. It sounds to me as if you're doing all the dutiful son stuff while they only appear for presents

C. Your wedding sounds lovely, congratulations and best wishes for the future to you and soon to be Mrs Tropez.

I think I'd have to work on my origami skills!

And thank you for the compliments!

missprice

Tropez wrote: »

I think I'd have to work on my origami skills!

And thank you for the compliments!

Nope just screw it into any old shape and reuse an envelope too.
And for sure no stamp, why waste your money ?

pollypenny

What a horrible lot!

You've vented now, so to hell with them for ever.

Have a fabulous wedding and long happy life!

Takeaway_Addict

FBaby wrote: »

Well there is clearly a lot of animosity and bitterness all around. From what you say, I think you should have stepped the mark from the start if you were not happy with it. You said you did it to please your mum but it sounds like you grow resentful of it all, so in the end, everybody seems to be hating each other. Wouldn't your mum have prefered you were honest about how you felt having them staying over?

6 weeks is not a lot of time to find out that arrangements that have been the same years after years are not going on that one year especially if it means not spending the day with their mum.

I don't have any doubt that these people are unpleasant and have treated you very wrongly, but I don't think waiting until now to tell them that you'll be away with your mum celebrating your wedding without was going to help much with the relationship.

6 weeks is more than ample time wise, and personally I think the OP should have done what someone suggested and not bothered telling them!

Takeaway_Addict

PuzzledDave wrote: »

Now I think about it, would love to make this a challenge, what can be done to make the home inhospitable as possible for the duration of their stay only ?

1) Move all furniture but your bed and single chair into storage, declaring that you have decided that material goods are theft and shed yourself of worldly possessions.

2) Hide alarm clocks under the floorboards of where they sleep and set to go off at random hours of the night (ones that stop ringing after a few minutes).

3) Set the boiler and heating up to max and prevent it being turned down.

Of course, with so many people attending health and safety is a premium so a random firealarm check and evacuation is a must!

alwaysonthego_2

What horrid people! My parents are in the process of adopting children (fostering them at the moment)and thy are a similar age to my own children . I love my new siblings and I don't care if they get a share of the inheritance, and I have always wanted a brother

geekgirl

Tropez wrote: »

Because as you say life's too short and I've already seen my dad die; might as well make as much of my mum's life as happy as possible, even if it is dealing with folks who dislike me!

Quite right, well done you for looking at it like this. So many people cut off their nose to spite their face.

CH27

OP you sound like a fabulous son.

Have a lovely wedding & a very happy life.