Bullying taken a frightening twist

andygb

paulineb wrote: »

Policy is in schools here if an offensive weapon is found on the premises, police should be automatically informed by the school.

That is what I thought, the boy should be held at the school and then taken into custody, along with an appropriate adult for company.

bitemebankers

dori2o - Sounds like you're doing all the right things. Definitely contact your MP though, as soon as you have a spare moment - they really can help. I can't imagine how stressed and upset you, your partner and your daughter must be right now. This situation will get resolved though. Your daughter is lucky to have a parent like you.

kafkathecat

dori2o wrote: »

UPDATE-

We'd love to homeschool but neither I nor my wife have the confidence, the resources, nor theexperience to teach her properly and we don't want to do it and then have it cause problems for her later in life if we do a bad job. So we'll leave teaching to the professionals.

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Just a thought, you may want to consider finding out about home education in your local area so that you have it as a last resort if things are not resolved. Education Otherwise has an advice line and local contacts who can advise. Sometimes just knowing you have options can help.
I don't have much in the way of confidence, or experience but there are some great resources out there so we have managed to get ds to GCSE level.

meritaten

reeree on here is a good person to talk to - she homeschooled her grandson after he was bullied. I am sure she wouldn't mind if you PM'd her - keep it as an option as other posters have said.

mazza111

Dori2o, I must have missed this thread. I have no words of wisdom, other than to offer my support and let you know that my thoughts are with you and your family at this very tough time

Tiddlywinks

Apologies if I've missed this but... how old is the boy and how old is your daughter?

To be honest I'd let your daughter continue to use Facebook etc (supervised) and that way you will see if the ill-will and bullying persists.

If it does then it will add weight to your complaint on Friday and it's better to know sooner rather than later so that it all gets dealt with together.

bluenoseam

Glad the school took the chance to catch the little scrote with the offending article, I just hope they had the sense & where with all to keep the hold of the item. If they have done so, you can refer the police to the school whereby they can actually SEE the knife & ultimately it will prove their negligence at which case you demand it goes further.

The LA should now be looking into the situation as well, clearly this is a very serious offense and can't merely be a situation where a temporary exclusion is justifiable. They'll have a unit for pupils of an unruly nature so he should be placed there, sorry if it sounds harsh, but any little swine who takes a knife into school shouldn't be in a mainstream school!

I hope your daughter has a much easier time from here on out, no one deserves that sort of thing to happen to them during school & ultimately I'd be pretty peeved that the perpetrator's right to an education was placed before the victims!

olibrofiz

No helpful advice for you OP but wanted to say what a frightening situation for your DD and all of you.

Don't go round to the boy's house, it's confrontational and will make things worse. the bully has learned about knives from somewhere, what if his dad has a bigger blade!

And also, isolation, IMO, is not always used correctly by schools. The victim can get put in there, then the bully gets to remain with their mates .....just wrong

bitemebankers

olibrofiz wrote: »

And also, isolation, IMO, is not always used correctly by schools. The victim can get put in there, then the bully gets to remain with their mates .....just wrong

Yes. I meant to say earlier, I think it's disgraceful that the school suggested putting the OP's daughter into isolation rather than the perpetrator. !!!!!!? It sounds to me like a school that's in denial about it's bullying problem if they think that kind of action is appropriate. The victim isn't the one with the issues here!

choccymoose

dori2o wrote: »

Thats my thought on it, but we have to see what they say tomorrow otherwise we have no leg to stand on if we get hauled befgore the courts re truancy.

If I don't like what they say, if they won't exclude/expell the boy immediately, she will be coming home with me and staying home until we find a suitable school for her.

Not read further yet but remove child and inform the lea you are home schooling for the forseeable future. I did this last year