Family cut themselves out of my son's life

sassyblue

Funky_Bold_Ribena wrote: »

Wiggy sorry but don't be daft - you have at least 20 more years to find a decent man and have other kids.

Meant to say the same, l think too that when children are young they are so overwhelming that problems seem worse alongside. You've got 20 years of childbearing time left wiggy, don't despair! Xxx

meritaten

hey wiggy - in MY day a woman wasn't officially 'off the marriage market' until she hit her forties! and I can name you several examples of people who found the love of their lives later than most!
My own bro didn't meet his wife until he was in his thirties and she is five years older than him and was still single.
my mums friend was in her seventies when she met her first husband!
Don't close doors (as others have said). What will be will be. and you wont 'LOSE' Wiglet. my neighbour was a single mum and she is in her eighties and her son in his early forties - and he comes to see her every day! she stays with them weekends and 'does doggy day care for them'. she has a brilliant relationship with son and his wife.
so things are NOT all 'doom and gloom'!
you just have the 'Boxing Day Blues'! a well known phenomena, its like a comedown from a trip!

HPoirot

Wiggy, it doesn't hurt to feel miserable about yourself once in a while, it allows you to get rid of all the inner angst. After all, you have had a tough time lately.

Just to join in with the chorus of "don't despair", it may feel bleak at the moment and I'm sure you won't believe us all saying it won't always be this way, but trust us it won't.

I spent my 20s building my career, never been in a stable or long relationship, and it did feel as if I would never meet anyone meaningful enough at all. Then I met OH in my 30s; he was the same, neither of us had settled with anyone or ever come close to having a family. We married when I was 34 and he was 39, 2 years and a bit down the line we are now contemplating a family. If you had told me where I would be now when I was 30, I would have laughed right in your face, I was that cynical.

Take it a day at a time, life situations are ever changing, this is the beauty of it all.

bluebag

A very close friend of mine never wanted to marry and have children she was single, childless and very happy.

She went on a course of some sort I forget what, and met a man who was widowed with five children and a massive house in the country.

They fell in love and married and she 'inherited' a ready made family.
She said she never expected or wanted anything like this in her life but ended up blissfully happy with them all.

She was 46 when she met him.

Anything can happen at any time,

wiggywoo9

thanks, think I just had a 'blue' moment feeling a lot better now

msb5262

Very glad to hear you're feeling a bit more cheerful now - it's an odd time of year where emotions are concerned. Keep your chin up!
xxx

trolleyrun

Just wanted to wish you a Happy New Year, Wiggy & co. All the best for the years to come

jellyhead

Happy New Year to Wiggy and Wiglet, and assorted pets (I can imagine a Wagpuss, even if there isn't one)

meritaten

Happy New Year Wiggy, Wiglet and dog.

When you feel the New Year Blues coming on - stop and reflect, this time last year you were under HER thumb - you now have your own place, your little boy is happy and thriving and best of all - you can do what is best for him without HER interference.

I predict wonderful things for you this year - but, we all have annoyances in life even in the 'Good' years.
Just remember that we all support you on here, and we are HERE whenever you need us (I think I can speak for nearly everyone who has contribituted to this thread here). You have loads of Virtual Friends and honorary Aunties I think!

harrys_nan

meritaten wrote: »

Happy New Year Wiggy, Wiglet and dog.

When you feel the New Year Blues coming on - stop and reflect, this time last year you were under HER thumb - you now have your own place, your little boy is happy and thriving and best of all - you can do what is best for him without HER interference.

I predict wonderful things for you this year - but, we all have annoyances in life even in the 'Good' years.
Just remember that we all support you on here, and we are HERE whenever you need us (I think I can speak for nearly everyone who has contribituted to this thread here). You have loads of Virtual Friends and honorary Aunties I think!

This says everything I wanted to say but probably better :rotfl:
Wishing you wiggy,
all the very very best for 2014. I hope you get everything you wish for and more, here's to a peaceful 2014 for you xx