fuming!!! need advice before i act

poet123

Good luck, I hope you can sort it out in a way which suits all concerned.

maman

redcard wrote: »

Fact is she did respond, and probably in a way which is far more public than a Facebook post.

OP hardly has the moral high ground, does she?

FBaby wrote: »

It sounds like OP has considered what is best for her children, agreeing on share care and making sure they get to stay in their local school. She is working and supporting them. Good on her.
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Brewstersmum wrote: »

this thread was purely to gauge other peoples views on whether or not im blowing the whole thing out of proportion. when I wrote this I had just seen the comment and was obviously angry, taking time out to read the replies gave me time to consider what the best route of action would be instead of ringing up and stating my annoyance instatntly which was my first thought.

It seems that you gauged other people's views, virtually everyone thought you shouldn't respond but you did anyway. On this occasion, the GF may have been out of order but basically it would seem that you really know that the set up you've chosen isn't perfect but that you don't like hearing it. Your girls may have the stability of their old home and school but they are also vulnerable to their father's temporary relationships and the dreadful example IMO of a parent who chooses to live off benefits. People have made suggestions as to how you could improve that situation. Whether you accept advice is up to you.

Your children, your choice.

LannieDuck

Not sure why people are suggesting OP needs to get the kids living back with her. Why should kids automatically go with the Mum following a split? Sounds as if OP is happy with the arrangement and kids are settled with their Dad. Nothing wrong with that.

OP - glad everything's been sorted without you having to get involved. Sounds as if your ex realised the comment was inappropriate too.

bagpussbear

Brewstersmum wrote: »

anyway the worm has turned. i contacted ex to ask for a meeting with him and his GF to be told he has asked her to move out as he is sick of her butting her nose in. when i told him what i wanted to meet him about, he said that he hoped i would never of seen that as his family have fell out with her for slagging me off on the internet.....i have no contact with his family but its nice to know they didn't agree with it either

Glad the situation has resolved itself for you OP.

Pollycat

LannieDuck wrote: »

Not sure why people are suggesting OP needs to get the kids living back with her. Why should kids automatically go with the Mum following a split? Sounds as if OP is happy with the arrangement and kids are settled with their Dad. Nothing wrong with that.

From the post below it sounds like one child is settled but not the other one.

Brewstersmum wrote: »

there is also a divide between my girls where one has asked to stay with me and the other wants to stay with her dad but neither wants to stay without each other. its complicated in that way as they are too young to say exactly what they want without influence.

Very sad situation for them.

FBaby

Has he had girlfriends/partners before? It seems like he moved in incredibly quickly with her and prepared to separate as quickly.

Maybe they are separating because of issues relating to their family arrangement and she took her frustration out on you on facebook. She might be under quite a bit of pressure.

It sounds to me that this post in light of what is happening in your children's life is quite irrelevant, but I understand you posted before you were made aware they were separating.

LannieDuck

Pollycat - Ahh, I missed that post. But still doesn't mean they should be with the Mum rather than the Dad.