How did you meet your OH?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Started playing at a local venue and got to be mates with a bunch of other people there. Had heard that one's best mate had just split up with his girlfriend and had moved in round the corner from me. Thought nothing more about it.

Over the coming months, kept seeing this quiet guy in there and tried chatting to him every so often; after a few minutes, he'd make his excuses and run away. I figured he didn't like me much, but he always looked so sad and alone, so I always said hello and spoke to him for a couple of minutes before he ran away to the gents, whereupon I would wander off and chat to somebody else. I know what it's like to be confident onstage but not once your guitar isn't there as your security blanket, so I wasn't offended by it.

Anyhow, he turned up to help out for a gig and he hopped up onstage, made eye contact with me for the first time, smiled and chirped 'helloooo'. Very cute smile, too.

My best mate, who by then was going out with his, started dropping his name into our lengthy chats about anything and nothing, occasionally he was around for gigs or when we were all in the pub, he walked me home once because I was a little wobbly and gave me a gentle kiss on the forehead. Couple of months later, he kissed me properly, in the pub when nobody we knew was around. After enjoying that immensely, I ran away (newly single and a bit freaked out by the idea of dating) and told my best friend, who seemed really pleased about it.


Then there was a rehearsal for a gig at my house and my best friend's fella came to meet her - saying 'hope you don't mind, I've got someone with me'. Four hours later after rehearsal had long finished, with all the Dutch Courage I could summon up, I told him he didn't have to go home yet.


That one night stand turned into two in the first week, then a few more. And I found out that he was sweet, smart and really funny; and was into movies and music that I didn't realise anybody else under 60 knew about, had an equally twisted sense of humour, had a hell of a lot of experiences in common with me - and I just instinctively trusted him. It got to the point where he stayed for five full nights and the weekend and now he's here most nights. Even on his one night at home this week, he dropped in twice to borrow something!



It became public knowledge after about two and a half months that we were dating. Mainly because he started introducing me to his friends that I didn't know. I had to ask him after one night 'does that mean I'm your girlfriend now?', his answer was 'think it's pretty clear we aren't very good at this one night stand business, so, yes. If you want to be?'.

I'm now thinking that our best mates conspired to get us together. If they did, then they achieved A Very Good Thing.

Alikay

He's a sort of cousin by marriage, so I've always known him, even though we lived a few hundred miles apart. Our families visited each other for a few days each year, and we met up at big family events and were great friends, even though he was 3 years younger than me. When I was 18 and him 15 we met at a family wedding and had a snog in my nans greenhouse, but I wouldn't go out with him as the age gap seemed huge at that time:o. I had a good job and steady boyfriend and he was testosterone-fuelled moped-mad schoolboy:D

We remained very good friends though and wrote loads of letters, and met up occasionally. He joined the Army and I married someone else which only lasted a couple of years - I was divorced by 23 (no children, luckily).

Eventually, him aged 22 and me 25, we got together: It wasn't a huge momentous occasion when everything changed, though - it was more that the time was right. Sounds weird but we'd both always had a feeling we'd end up together, right from being little kids.

We've now been married for 26 years, with 3 children and a grandchild (another due soon) and are very happy still. I'm so lucky to have married my best friend .

snapping_crocodile

We were house mates at uni. After living together for about 18 months, I split with my ex and wasn't thinking about another relationship. He'd apparently liked me for a while. Everyone told him it was too soon to tell me how he felt.....but he ignored them! Nearly 11 years later we are still very happy. I moan when he ignores me, but so glad he ignored our friends :T

gardenmaker

I moved to a new town with a new job, started going to college and was invited to go out by a college friend, who realised I was new to the area and didn't know many people. One of the 6 friends he invited along that night eventually became my husband. I didn't know that I was looking until he (OH) kissed me while we were sharing an umbrella!

Anyway, the moral of the story is that if you're ready for someone new, someone will turn up. Try going to EVERYTHING you're invited to, and make some opportunities for yourself! Good luck.

LisaLou1982

He was the lodger and I was the landlady! Im only a year older so not a huge gap but it makes people smile when we tell them how we met!

leather5

I was 18 and at a loose end, my dad helped run a local football club who were organising a holiday to Germany playing some local village teams. I went with a friend whose dad also was involved with the club and on the bus there met my now husband. We were together from the first night there, engaged a few weeks later. We've been married for nearly 25 years and have three lovely boys - so does your dad know anyone?

MothballsWallet

Online. Through (the now sadly defunct) Scanna International.

Well, when I say "defunct", I really mean bought out by another company.

[Deleted User]

In a terrible terrible night club during Freshers Week when I was 18 and starting 2nd year of uni. He was 17 (he enjoys telling people I bought a drink for a minor but I swear I didn't buy him one!) and newly left school. We had both been left with the respective piles of coats in neighbouring booths while our more fun loving mates went and danced. We did recognise each other though, as he was two years below me at the same school. I had really low self esteem, especially around boys and was mega mega shy, but he peeped over the booth a couple of times and by the time he stuck his head properly over and said hi, I remember thinking that he must like the look of me and went on to find him really easy to talk to. Seemed normal at the time but thinking how shy and down on myself I was back then it was really very unusual behaviour! Been together over ten years now.

System

I was in the RAF. She came to my station on a GVC Summer Camp, I was 18, she was 16. After 3 years of me driving across the country on days off to see her we got hitched. Now been married 35 years

Alias_Omega

AFF...

I was going through a bad time, recently became single and was finding my feet again...