How would you react? (Aggressive stranger v child scenario)

skitler

Crikey, you lot are a bickery bunch!:rotfl::rotfl:

it was bicker bunch that got me giggling. the rest of your post was very well put. so many thanks.

regards:beer:

poet123

aileth wrote: »

Well that escalated quickly....

So are you intending to take it further OP?

aileth

I rang 101 (non-emergency number) and reported what I considered to be child abuse, gave them bus number, time, description and stop. They didn't say a lot, but thanked me for the report. Don't think I can do much else this late after.

poet123

aileth wrote: »

I rang 101 (non-emergency number) and reported what I considered to be child abuse, gave them bus number, time, description and stop. They didn't say a lot, but thanked me for the report. Don't think I can do much else this late after.

You have done as much as you can and more than a lot of people would have bothered to do. I think that if you saw that snapshot of her life then others closer to them, those in positions of authority etc will see more and we can only hope that they join the dots together and try to do something about it.

I hoe you feel better now for having done something, because it can't have been pleasant seeing that and wondering what to do for the best.

skitler

well at least you have done something, now you have started you may as well phone ss in the morning to, don't let go just yet. what you saw and heard shouldn't be happening. you may never know the out come one way or another, but that shouldn't matter to you, you have done the right thing.
At the end of the day, Good will always over come Evil.

JustKeepSwimming_2

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

...and then she would have gone home and taken out her rage about you 'having a go at her' on her kid. Which probably meant ten times the walloping they would have had normally.


I always copped it for other people annoying my mother. The kids whose parents you pull up will inevitably reap the consequences of your moral stance.

Yep, me too. When my ma would have a go at me in public I would be preying to myself that no-one would say anything as I knew I'd be in for a much worse & sustained thrashing at home while she simmered for much longer . The thought that someone was trying to stick up for me wouldn't have crossed my mind at that age.

poet123 wrote: »

I also agree that something needs to be done. I would go to the police/SS and give them as many details as possible. Actually, I might have got off the bus followed them home and then made the report.

This is what I like to think I would have done - hopefully a much better outcome all round.

thehappybutterfly wrote: »

I agree with JoJo Im sad to say. Its similar to a man / woman situation. If someone says something to a man who is being abusive/violent to his wife, you can guarantee she'll get a hiding when they get home. In my experience anyway.

Yep, been here too. IMHO confronting an abusive adult is only going to cause more harm to the abused child/adult. Confronting appalling behaviour may make the confronter feel better about themselves (as they did "something" rather than walk on by) but I feel that some surreptitious evidence gathering (much easier now most of us have tiny cameras ) then reporting to the police/social services may be a better way to go. Those who abuse others so badly are such vile creatures themselves that they are never going to respond to an "ordinary nice person" berating their behaviour. Because its never their fault....

I'll always remember a kindly young man intervening when my charming ex was bashing my face into a shop's metal shutter one evening after he'd had a few pints.... that man ended up with a broken arm & horrendous cuts & bruises for "trying to do the right thing". That was my turning point for running away & getting help, but I still feel guilty that he suffered.

poet123

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

I'll always remember a kindly young man intervening when my charming ex was bashing my face into a shop's metal shutter one evening after he'd had a few pints.... that man ended up with a broken arm & horrendous cuts & bruises for "trying to do the right thing". That was my turning point for running away & getting help, but I still feel guilty that he suffered.

That happened to my son when he intervened when he saw the man bang the girl's head into the wall, no bones broken but cuts and bruises, but the girl turned on him too.:(

JustKeepSwimming_2

poet123 wrote: »

That happened to my son when he intervened when he saw the man bang the girl's head into the wall, no bones broken but cuts and bruises, but the girl turned on him too.:(

Goodness - I can't (but sadly can) believe that IYKWIM? Has it made him think twice about stepping in now? Seeing someone else get hurt was my light bulb moment.

The police were called to the incident I described - they were very concerned about the guy who intervened & took him to hospital thankfully, but said they "weren't there to intervene in a domestic". There was no thought about taking me to the hospital, so I ran away while they were telling my ex not to do it again while getting into their car. Luckily for me he was too busy yelling abuse at their departing car to realise I'd gone. This was almost 25 years ago, & I'd like to think the police would handle things differently now :rotfl: (missing the sarcastic roll eyes smilie).

Shame this thread has got somewhat !!!!!y in places.

JustKeepSwimming_2

The missing word is b i t c h y....

skitler

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

The missing word is b i t c h y....

oh I see, right :rotfl::rotfl:

im glad to see it back on the right track too :j