any advice would be lovely :)

Elle00

nats3006 wrote: »

Just did it myself took ages :rotfl: :rotfl:

Don't worry if it said you have mild or moderate "issues" - everyone does!!! It does take ages and isn't a diagnosis either but at least if the screen flashes up with "high" and "very high" results you know it's time to see your GP... Most people have some kind of mild personality disorder but a full-on disorder usually warrants therapy if you want to get on in life.

Am I the only one who thinks this guy sounds disturbed? Lying, cheating, exagerrating his behaviour, attention-seeking, friends commenting his behaviour is shocking etc etc etc.

Thought I'd post the quiz link and sneak off quietly but never mind

robnye

couldnt you accidently drop the phone down the loo or in the sink full of water........

outrageous_monkey

I was wondering how lostandalone got on over the weeked.

lostandalone

Hello you lovely, lovely people.

Well, I’ve done it.
I ended my relationship last night following another row about OH’s selfishness.

It couldn’t come at a worse time. Glastonbury this weekend and now I can’t go. OH made me draw out £250 that I owed him for various things and had been paying back to him weekly on the spot even though I told him that I would incur bank charges etc.
His reply was ‘it’s not my f-ing problem’.
Nice.

Have already told my parents and they are gobsmacked to say the least. I hadn’t told anyone that we were having problems again as after last time a lot of my friends said ‘are you sure you should go back to him’, and I couldn’t face the disappointment from them.

I’m so scared about being alone, but at least I won’t be belittled and picked at and have stroppy tantrums to deal with anymore.

I don’t know where I’ll go or what I’ll do, but I’m going to miss something that I was so looking forward to and the only thing that has been keeping me sane the past few weeks.

Oh, and if you’re wondering what the argument was about, you guessed it… his love affair with his mobile phone. He was taking his mobile to Glastonbury, then he was taking his mobile and a spare battery… last night he was taking his mobile phone, a spare battery and another mobile (so now 2 mobiles).
For a 4 day festival.

Think I might travel the world whilst I’m still (kind of) young. Might also go and freeze some of my eggs in case I don’t find the person I’m supposed to be with in time.

Work’s going to be hard as is not going to Glastonbury.

lostandalone

As this is all over, I thought I would re-vert back to my real name on here.

My name is little pickle and I've been on MSE forums for a few months.

I thought that OH might possibly search my nickname on google, so I changed it so that I could talk to you guys.

I'll revert back to myself (in many ways) now that I no longer care what he does.

So yup, my real forum name is Little Pickle.
And thank you so much for all of your support over the past few days.
xox
LP

blossomsuz

well done for you mate, I am a newbie here but would just like to share an experience and congratulate you on getting out of this destructive relationship. I too fell madly in love with an extreamly confident bloke who was a bit of a flirt, it never crossed my mind that it would actually go further than flirting. But it did, he destroyed me by nit picking at my confidence everyday until I felt that I couldnt leave him as no-one else thought I was worth anything. Eventually he ended it to leave and be with my ex best freind (they were carrying on since they met pretty much)
These days I am happy to say I am in love with a wonderful man who cares what I think and feel and discusses everything with me.

Well done for being so strong. I wish I had been all those years ago.

xxxBig Hugsxxx

Imelda

Hugs Little Pickle,

The end of a relationship is tough whether you are the initiator or not. Look after yourself and keeping posting on here if it helps.

A little bit of advice, take his number out of your phone, stop all contact for a few weeks, get a bit of space. I'll hold my hands up and admit I didn't and plagued the ex for a few weeks. Looking back I cringe!

Also Glastonbury- was it just the 2 of you going? Do you know of anyone else who is going and you can join with? It seems such a shame to miss out.

The money- I think you're just going to have to take it on the chin- maybe you can speak to your bank and get your overdraft extended for a few weeks?

outrageous_monkey

!!!!!!, I wrote a post out and then it disappeared!:mad:

Gist of it went something like this, thanks for getting back in touch and letting us know how you got on. I have wondered about you.

Well done for ending it with him. I know you wont feel too good at the moment, but just think, no more comments to put you down and you dont have to worry about his blasted phone obessions. If you'd have stayed, how long would it have been before you started to believe everything he said.......and you know it would all have been your fault:rolleyes:

Dont worry to much about Glastonbury. If he is still going, pray for rain. Hopefully it will knacker his precious phones so they cant work, that'd be devine retribution, wouldnt it:rotfl: ....actually, can you imagine the drama:rotfl:

I'm glad that you've been on MSE for a while now, so you know that your not really on your own. You take care of yourself and good luck with whatever you decide for the future:beer:

Little_Pickle

thanks so much guys...

My 2 best friends (who have cut themselves off from this situation for the past 6 months) are going to Glastonbury and have already asked me to go and camp / be with them.

The only problem is that beacuse I took out all of my money for him, I no longer have the cash to go. Also, I really need to move out of the flat.

I don't know if I should hold up in our bedroom and banish him to the living room until I have the money to move (it'll take a few weeks) or just head back to the fokls?
The travel to work would be awful and costly plus it would take hours (2 of 'em each way!) to get there and back.

I have nowhere else to go apart from my parent's home, but I don't want to take so much negative energy back to them again (they were amazing last time) and I also don't want to run the risk of him turning up there again.

I think maybe I could find a bedsit near to work and ask the letting agents if I could pay the deposit weekly to them as well as the rent?

So many things to think about, my head is spinning.
I can't believe I've done it.
I don't know if I should laugh or cry. (I haven't done either yet).

hugs to you all
LP
xox

newcook

if you are not going because of him, sell your glastonbury ticket on ebay - you'll be suprised at the amount you can get for it!

you are so much better off without him dragging you down! you deserve someone who loves and respects you and who puts you above a mobile phone!