The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

mrshappy

codemonkey wrote: »

I know he probably didn't mean it the way it came out. Annoyingly his BMI is 22, despite the fact he eats way more than I do and doesnt do much exercise. He's just an idiot and utterly clueless about women. But you're right. Its been a hard week and maybe I need to cut both of us a little slack.

How are you getting on mrshappy?

I'm good thank you code, it is all beginning to feel a bit more real now, although the time is flying by x

codemonkey

mrshappy wrote: »

I'm good thank you code, it is all beginning to feel a bit more real now, although the time is flying by x

Glad it's all going well. It's always good to hear from people who have had successful fertility treatment - makes me feel more positive about our journey.

Wonder_Woman

Couldn't help it - did a HPT and BFN

Part_Mouse

Ww so sorry to hear its a bfn, when is your oft?

Wonder_Woman

10dp5dt is OFT so Thursday I think but have read reports on internet (I know, I know) of ladies having their BFP only a few days post transfer so I gave in - total idiot! (and DH has no sympathy as he told me not to test). I want to drink a bath of wine.

angeltreats

I actually did drink a bath of wine last night! It was the only way I could get through dinner with my upduffed sister in law. I passed out at about 10pm and remember very little of the last hour or so. It was totally worth the hangover.

WW sorry about the BFN but it really is still early days yet. I'm still hopeful for you.

Code, your OH probably was just thinking about the bmi thing but they just don't flipping think before they open their mouths. I am also blessed with a skinny, hollow husband. His BMI is 23 at the moment which he highest it's ever been. I hope he gets fat, just so he can see how it feels.

T2D, so sorry things are going so crappily. You really are overdue a bit of good luck.

Part_Mouse

Ww got everything crossed for you, still early days.

Angle glad the wine helped, being around pg women is soo hard.

Wish it was scan time but not at the same time.

SewIt_2

WW - big hugs to you. As others have said though, it is a wee bit early to know for sure. I'm not saying this to give you false hope, but just cause it really is. All our bodies are different so try not to go by the internet (I totally realise this is easier said than done though). Hang in there til Thursday, although I appreciate that will probably feel like a lifetime away. We're here for you anytime. X

PM - when is your next scan? I know what you mean about waking in the night, for me that's a sure sign I'm stressed and I've been doing it a lot lately. X

Angel - well done you on getting through the weekend, even if you don't remember it! X

Code - hugs to you. You know deep down that DH doesn't think you are a heifer, he thinks you are perfect and beautiful just as you are. In his on silly way he would have been trying to support and encourage you to exercise cause he knows that getting the ICIS depends on your bmi (rightly or wrongly) and he knows how important getting the ICSI is to you both. As others have said, it's been a tough week all around so give him and yourself a break. Xx

Tea and cake - fb is a mine field. If it's not sneaky pg announcements, then it's pics of babies, or kids doing cute things. Halloween was terrible for this and I think christmas will be too! Xx

AFM - had a very productive weekend of DIY! Also it's ov time so sneaked in a wee bit of bd-ing before I'm off to London with work for a few days.

Massive hugs ladies, pretty shi@£y times for some of us, but Derby & Percy remind us all that there is hope! Xxx

chocoholic_chick

Evening ladies, do you mind if I join you all?

I recognise a few names from the TTC thread already I had hoped I wouldn't need to come over to this thread ( in the nicest possible way! ) but after TTC for about 15 months now it's just not happening for us.

So far all I've had is CD3 bloods which came back fine, need to make an appointment for CD21 bloods and maybe CD35 ( my cycles can vary a bit ) if my cycle is longer than normal. DH also has to have a SA done and we are going back at the end of Feb to discuss the results and see what our next step is. After this long trying without a hint of a TLP I'm pretty certain it's just not going to happen without some intervention.

codemonkey

Photos all over my facebook feed of babies hanging up first Christmas baubles, or cute children seeing Santa or cute kids with their faces covered in chocolate at the pantomime.

Feeling a little better today, but still angry at the world. Especially as my mum was telling me all about a relative from the chav side of the family who has a two year old daughter and has access visits at his mum's and he doesn't get out of bed. When he does, the little girl says she doesn't want to see her dad as "daddy shouts". Seems so unfair someone like this can have kids and DH who is so good and patient with kids can't, because of some stupid operation he had when he was 4!!