12-24 weeks pregnant (part2)

VickyVics

Hello Ladies,

Currently trying to distract myself from my pram/pushchair/travel system research. There is just so much to consider! I feel a little bit like I'm revising for an exam lol. It needs to withstand not just road use but also countryside use as my parents live on a canal boat and as a result can be anywhere along any number of towpaths/gravel paths. It also doesnt help that I am 5ft but DH is 6ft2!! Definately need adjustable handles lol! I think tomorrow we are going to take a look in a few shops to try a couple out.

Hope everyone is having a lovely Friday xxx

catloverbex

We decided on the nct classes as there are no free nhs classes in our area!! I find that shocking - I assume they are free if you are on low income or benefits but otherwise they are £72 for 4 sessions. I thought it would be better to pay £180 for 8 sessions plus a post birth reunion.

I'll arrange a separate tour of the hospital at some point.

Things are starting to feel a little more real now! We haven't bought anything for baby yet though as I want to wait until after our 20 week scan on 17th February. I have started researching though. It seems overwhelming the amount of stuff we will need! A couple of my friends who have babies are going to review my lists before we buy anything though and advise what we can do without.

marywooyeah

Hi I just wanted to provide a wuick update. I don't really want to go into everything we've been through since the scan but we have decided that our little miss will be staying with us

I didnt call the adoption team in the end as it occured to me that it might be better to phone the crisis centre where I had my counselling after my loss a few years ago. I waited a couple of days for a callback (its run by volunteers) and I'm going to be having some counselling which will address the physical and sexual abuse I suffered as a child and a young adult, with a view to preparing me for having a baby girl. Its very difficult to explain but I was worried about things like changing her nappy eg touching her there without feeling that I was doing something dirty or inappropriate and I was worried about being able to protect her from suffering abuse herself, I basically dont want anything like that to happen to her and doubted that I was going to be able to care for her, but I feel a lot better now.

We have been shopping and bought a netric tonne of little dresses, tops, babygrows, jeans, tights and those little headbands and it was very exciting to pick things and think "this top can go eith this skirt" etc, I actually really enjoyed it and now I look at all these things we have for her I feel so much better, I think being able to visualize her presence now is really helping.

I also am now showing visibly and she is moving around so much, my husband has been incredibly supportive throughout all of this and he says that I've overcome so much already that everything will be fine. I sure hope so, but I do feel massively better already and am very excited xxxx

mrshappy

I'm so pleased you are feeling better Mary and that you will be able to access the help and support you need to deal with your issues and fears and I wish you all the best over the next few months, which I am sure will be challenging for you. x

catloverbex

Mary I'm so happy to hear that you will be getting counselling to help you to work through the issues you have been left with as a result of the abuse you suffered. Good luck! X

lushlifesaver

marywooyeah wrote: »

Hi I just wanted to provide a wuick update. I don't really want to go into everything we've been through since the scan but we have decided that our little miss will be staying with us

I didnt call the adoption team in the end as it occured to me that it might be better to phone the crisis centre where I had my counselling after my loss a few years ago. I waited a couple of days for a callback (its run by volunteers) and I'm going to be having some counselling which will address the physical and sexual abuse I suffered as a child and a young adult, with a view to preparing me for having a baby girl. Its very difficult to explain but I was worried about things like changing her nappy eg touching her there without feeling that I was doing something dirty or inappropriate and I was worried about being able to protect her from suffering abuse herself, I basically dont want anything like that to happen to her and doubted that I was going to be able to care for her, but I feel a lot better now.

We have been shopping and bought a netric tonne of little dresses, tops, babygrows, jeans, tights and those little headbands and it was very exciting to pick things and think "this top can go eith this skirt" etc, I actually really enjoyed it and now I look at all these things we have for her I feel so much better, I think being able to visualize her presence now is really helping.

I also am now showing visibly and she is moving around so much, my husband has been incredibly supportive throughout all of this and he says that I've overcome so much already that everything will be fine. I sure hope so, but I do feel massively better already and am very excited xxxx

Oh Mary I couldn't read and run. You're post is inspiring and shows the true strength of character within all humans. I could not be happier to hear you have been able to access the help you need to in order to feel much better in yourself. Your precious little girl will come in to this world and be greeted by loving parents most perfectly equipped to look after her

RobotsinDisguse

mary I'm so happy to hear you sounding happy and positive! You've brought tears to my eyes.
It's so good you've been able to think through your situation with your husband and see how you can work through things. The councilling sounds like it will be very healing for you anyway.

sunshine81

Oh Mary you've set me off crying! What you have done is amazing to address those issues and get some counselling. I can't tell you how pleased I am to hear this outcome. There's no doubt that you always wanted to do the best for your baby, but this is definitely the best ever!

Much love xx

RobotsinDisguse

OOh, that furniture set is so lovely. I showed it to husband and he choked on his drink that baby furniture could cost that much! and then i told him it was half price!! ah, poor lad... he's going to get a few surprises all being well!


I saw my doctor yesterday since i had run out of the tablets the hospital gave me. He was very understanding and explained everything nicely and even went so far as to say "you're not a difficult patient, it sounds like that consultant was not doing her job as well as hoped".


He didn't want to take me off the alpha-beta blockers due to the tests coming up and me feeling stressed out, which is fine. So we will review after. And he added some extra pills to my prescription...

Is anyone else on ADCAL-D3? It says not to take other calcium supplements with it, which i am not. But there is Vit D in my pregnancy vitamins but i guess that's ok?

So i'm now on 7 tablets a day! and am going to have to write out a schedule as to when to take them!:rotfl:

you know what? I'm going to write them all down here, so i have access to the info where ever i am, as this is certainly something i'm likely to get confused about!

Fluoxetine - 20mg - 1 per day.
Pregnancy Vits - 1 tablet [STRIKE]twice daily[/STRIKE] oops
Labetatol - 100mg - 1 tablet twice daily (with or after food)
Aspirin - 75mg - 1 tablet (box says with food, pregnancy book says last thing at night)
AdCal-D3 - 1500mg - 1 twice daily (morning & night, not within 2 hrs of eating spinach, rhubarb, bananas or whole cereals)

VickyVics

Mary I am really glad you are finding the support you need. You sound like a very strong person and your partner sounds like he is lovely and supportive. Since finding out what we are having I have been looking at different clothes and it really does make it a lot more real and much more exciting!

Today we have been and brought our pushchair. Spent all last night researching them and looking at various reviews (I have such crazy Friday nights ) and this morning spent forever trying out various pushchairs. In the end we have gone for a Stokke Scoot. Loved how nippy and light it was. I feel so relieved now one major buy and decision is out of the way. Tomorrow we are going to look at baby furniture to try and plan what we need. I'd like to get them whilst there are the sales on. Just need to measure the room that is going to be a nursery. Its quite a small room and I am not convinced we will fit an entire nursery set in it (despite what DH says...we will soon see who is right ).

I have just looked at some of the NCT courses and they look just like what I have been looking for. I was wondering whether you need to be a member to access the courses and also if anyone knows the prices? I'm sorry if I am being a total Dumbo but I keep having a look around and I just can't seem to find them.

xx