12-24 weeks pregnant (part2)

cllola

Morning all, Hope all is well.

Just read through the continuing breastfeeding/expressing discussion and to the person who suggested Lanisoh i can definately agree.
Also it doubles up as an AMAZING lip balm for sore and cracked lips and it lasts forever...I still carry some in my bag 4 years after breast feeding my DS.

mysecretalias

chelseablue wrote: »

Morning ladies

Nothing much to report from me at the moment

But I told my Nan our news at the weekend and she asked me if we were going to get married :rotfl::o

My OH got that from some of our friends too lol. To be honest I was half expecting him to propose as soon as he found out but he didn't. I'm a bit upset at the prospect of my baby having a different surname than me (for reasons I don't want to go into I don't want my baby associated with my family surname and I'll be glad to get rid of it myself tbh) so baby will be taking my OH's surname and I'm quite upset that I won't also have that surname, just makes me feel like we won't be a proper little family (I am aware how silly that sounds in this day and age but rightly or wrongly it's just really important to me)

I have sort of suggested running off to Gretna Green (:D) but I don't think he's bitten! Here's hoping for a surprise proposal when I give birth haha :rotfl:

lushlifesaver

LannieDuck wrote: »

It may be useful to take a newborn bottle and a little carton of pre-prepared milk with you in your hospital bag (you can buy these from the supermarket and they keep for ages; don't need refrigerating), just in case.

With my DD, my milk took 3 days to come in, and DD lost a lot of weight in the interim. The nurses were asked to do top-up feeds to help but we had to provide the milk because they "don't keep any at the hospital". They actually did - a nice midwife provided some to start us off because OH needed time to go buy some, but she said "don't let matron see it"!

There's definitely a pro-bfing agenda in the NHS atm. Not a bad thing in itself if it encourages people to at least give it a go, but I agree that you don't want to feel pressured if you're having trouble. So having some supplies in your bag as a back-up might make you feel a bit less stressed.

Edit: To add, for interest, that when DD ended up in SCBU for a couple of days (special care due to dehydration), milk appeared from everywhere! They mix feed in special care because babies can be in for a long time and I don't think any of the mums were managing to exclusively breast-feed, although many were expressing / mixed feeding. So some parts of the NHS aren't so militant about bfing.

This is similar to how it appears to be at the hospital where I will give birth, they tell you right from the off (even having very clear signs all around the ultrasound clinic) that they will not provide formula and if you don't intend to bf whilst there then you have to take your own bottles and milk...they will however let you sterilise your bottles and use their water. I had been wondering about what might be expected if your milk didn't come in right away. We had some of those 'ready to use' cartons when I was nannying but I gave them to the child's mum when I stopped - I will put a couple on the trolley each time we do a 'big shop' (so will buy 2 or so depending on if there's any offers each month from now) as a little just in case supply

mysecretalias wrote: »

baby will be taking my OH's surname and I'm quite upset that I won't also have that surname, just makes me feel like we won't be a proper little family (I am aware how silly that sounds in this day and age but rightly or wrongly it's just really important to me)

I'm similar to this; I'm gutted I won't have the same surname as baby and bf but he has promised we will be married before she starts school and knows/notices our names are different! It's not that I want rid of my surname I just want the cohesion a shared name brings (psychologically). My dad wanted us to give the baby my surname and then change it when we get married but I'm not happy with that idea!

Today is all about just making it through the day; sounds daft but I am still exhausted and could happily lounge about all day. As such I am breaking work down in to little chunks and doing other bits in between...like add things to the 'nice/need' list I have going for mine and baby's hospital bags!

mysecretalias

LannieDuck wrote: »

It may be useful to take a newborn bottle and a little carton of pre-prepared milk with you in your hospital bag (you can buy these from the supermarket and they keep for ages; don't need refrigerating), just in case.

Thanks for that lannieduck! A bottle and carton of Aptimil has gone onto my hospital bag list now!!

Interestingly with the Aptimil, my best friend used this with her baby girl right from birth because she wasn't able to latch to the breast. She used the liquid ready to feed stuff only and not the powder. She also NEVER once heated it up or anything - she's always fed it to her daughter at room temperature in sterilised bottles only. She said it's so much easier this way as she doesn't have to muck around with bottle warmers/microwaves/kettles etc and her daughter is growing perfectly.

So if I can't bf, I will probably end up doing this. I know the liquid Aptimil is more expensive than powder etc but it seems so much an easier option than mucking around with mixing powders and boiling kettles etc!!

Lol sorry I am aware this sounded like an advert for Aptimil but my best friend always goes on and on about how great it is (and no she doesn't work for them )

mysecretalias

Lushlifesaver I'm not at work today, haven't been since last Thursday. My hip is still killing me and I've come down with this awful cold I am hoping to be able to go back to work tomorrow as I hate being at home just doing nothing. It would also be a bit different if OH and I had our own place but living with his parents I feel like I get questioned and judged whenever I'm not at work. It stresses me out so much.

So if anyone knows anything good I can take/do to improve my cold throughout the course of today feel free to let me know! Of course if my hip is still killing me I won't be going anywhere but I'm secretly hoping that improves magically today also....hmm not sure I've thought this plan through properly! I need to go into work at some point this week to get my work laptop fixed and once that's done I can work from home a bit but at the moment I can't do anything and I feel a bit useless.

Hope everyone else is slowly recovering from their various ailments....!

chelseablue

mysecretalias wrote: »

My OH got that from some of our friends too lol. To be honest I was half expecting him to propose as soon as he found out but he didn't. I'm a bit upset at the prospect of my baby having a different surname than me (for reasons I don't want to go into I don't want my baby associated with my family surname and I'll be glad to get rid of it myself tbh) so baby will be taking my OH's surname and I'm quite upset that I won't also have that surname, just makes me feel like we won't be a proper little family (I am aware how silly that sounds in this day and age but rightly or wrongly it's just really important to me)

I have sort of suggested running off to Gretna Green (:D) but I don't think he's bitten! Here's hoping for a surprise proposal when I give birth haha :rotfl:

My baby will also have a different surname to me

samtoby

My baby will have my partners surname and my DS has his Dads surname so I won't have the same surname as either children!

My Dad changed his surname to the same as my Mum before I was born so we all had the same prior to marriage. Nice really

claire16c

mysecretalias wrote: »

My OH got that from some of our friends too lol. To be honest I was half expecting him to propose as soon as he found out but he didn't. I'm a bit upset at the prospect of my baby having a different surname than me (for reasons I don't want to go into I don't want my baby associated with my family surname and I'll be glad to get rid of it myself tbh) so baby will be taking my OH's surname and I'm quite upset that I won't also have that surname, just makes me feel like we won't be a proper little family (I am aware how silly that sounds in this day and age but rightly or wrongly it's just really important to me)

I have sort of suggested running off to Gretna Green (:D) but I don't think he's bitten! Here's hoping for a surprise proposal when I give birth haha :rotfl:

No reason why you cant propose to him - or just say lets get married in 201... and then let him properly propose at some point in between - that's pretty much what I did :rotfl:

I guess its different as you dont like your surname but there is no way apart from that type of reason Id give our baby his name if we werent married - just another reason for a man to procrastinate if theyre anything like mine! So laid back hes horizontal

Or - if you really hate your name, just change it now, you don't have to get married to change it.

mysecretalias wrote: »

Lushlifesaver I'm not at work today, haven't been since last Thursday. My hip is still killing me and I've come down with this awful cold I am hoping to be able to go back to work tomorrow as I hate being at home just doing nothing. It would also be a bit different if OH and I had our own place but living with his parents I feel like I get questioned and judged whenever I'm not at work. It stresses me out so much.

So if anyone knows anything good I can take/do to improve my cold throughout the course of today feel free to let me know! Of course if my hip is still killing me I won't be going anywhere but I'm secretly hoping that improves magically today also....hmm not sure I've thought this plan through properly! I need to go into work at some point this week to get my work laptop fixed and once that's done I can work from home a bit but at the moment I can't do anything and I feel a bit useless.

Hope everyone else is slowly recovering from their various ailments....!

You can use a saline nasal spray - found with the baby cold stuff, you can sniff karvol, and I think you can use vicks - but check about that one. I also had a couple of strepsils when I had a bad throat - I did research and apparetly its just the strong medicated/extra type ones not to take.

You can take paracetomol if gets bad.

VickyVics

Happy Tuesday!

Not much to report here, apart from a severe want for a lovely runny fried or poached egg. Or even dippy egg with soldiers!!! Out of everything this is the thing I am missing most. I am actually finding the lack of alcohol and limited caffeine much easier to deal with compared with the lack of runny eggs!! I really wish I had gone crazy on the eggs before pregnancy now. Isn't it funny how you don't realise how much you enjoyed something until you can't have it anymore. Will have to make do with my homemade tomato soup in the meantime. xx

LannieDuck

lushlifesaver wrote: »

We had some of those 'ready to use' cartons when I was nannying but I gave them to the child's mum when I stopped - I will put a couple on the trolley each time we do a 'big shop' (so will buy 2 or so depending on if there's any offers each month from now) as a little just in case supply

Don't get too many at once (they do have expiry dates, although they last quite a while) - babies only drink about 40ml at one time, so a carton or two will probably see you through a whole day.