Girlfriend Upset

dandelionclock30

If you look at it this way, if you really loved or cared for someone would you kick them to the curb like this and be making pathetic excuses?

Sounds like shes got no respect for you and shes having you on a piece of string. You'd be better off with someone who treats you kindly. Sounds like she hasnt got the balls to tell you straight and is just keeping you hanging on.
One thing is for sure shes not in love with you.

Best to know now and move on. Good luck.

Rowingirl

fake_smile wrote: »

You are right.

But what if she wanted me to turn around and say "No you wont annoy me, I want to be there for you"?

I'm either being a mug or a bad girlfriend.

If that's the case she should tell you that's what she wants not play the 'I'll say one thing but expect my OH to do the opposite' game. That's how teenagers behave.

bagpussbear

I would give her the space that she needs, just keep in touch with the odd text maybe once a day if you feel that would be appropriate.

But I can understand you feeling pushed out to be honest. It sounds to me that she needs space to think about her relationship with you, perhaps this friend has said things which have got her thinking and she needs time to mull it over.

I hope things will be ok for you though OP. But nothing else you can do really than respect her wishes.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

Have you considered that this is a set up 'I'm a drama queen, get me out of here' situation?

Jox

When I was 23 I had an intense 6 month relationship with a guy, my very close female friend who I adored and idolised moved to another country, I was so devastated that I broke up with the guy, I just couldn't be happy without her in my life. Poor guy, I felt sorry for him, I felt deeply for him but actually felt more for my friend....

Give her space, if it's meant to be then she'll come back to you, if not then you'll know where you stand, as heartbreaking as that might be...

Kynthia

If she truly feels that this life long friendship is over, then she is grieving. it took me longer to get over then end of a really close friendship than any relationship I've had. You haven't been together that long so maybe she doesn't feel she can grieve in front of you yet as you are still at that 'best behaviour' stage. Or maybe she needs to spend a little time talking it over with someone who knows the friend. It isn't necessarily about you and unless she was rude about it I don't think you should feel 'kicked to the curb'.

nickj_2

your girlfriend's friend obviously isn't that much of a friend

newcook

Is there any reason why you and her friend haven’t been introduced yet?

Im sure I don’t stand alone when I say that when I start a new relationship I like to get my best friends opinion on him before I develop any deep feelings. my bestie is usually spot on with my new BF’s and if they are going to muck me about or not – she’s only once said ‘I like this one, I can see this one is going to be a keeper’ and so far we’re still together!!

Jenny484

I too think it sounds as though you are being phased out. If I was upset like that I'd like to spend more time with my partner to have a shoulder to cry on.

Their relationship also really sounds very intense for 26-year-olds. I have a best friend who is close to me like a sister, they have disapproved of past relationships I've had but never were they dramatic like that if I was spending more time with my partner.

fake_smile

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