Girlfriend Upset

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HPoirot

No, it shouldn't, but how would you know for sure that there hasn't been more between them? If not, then your gf does not respect you or your relationship enough am afraid. In either case if I were you I'd run.

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tinkerbell28

It all sounds an absolute mess. I'd stay well away from it all.

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HPoirot

Well this "off" period is the perfect opportunity to go out and have some fun, sometimes stepping back a bit gives a better perspective on a situation.

Okydoky25

Go her her the space she needs.

Regarding the friend your gf would be well to let her go. She sounds jealous of your GF and her happiness. I had this with my friend of 15 years. As soon as I got engaged to my now husband she turned on me. She had obviously been happy with me being at her beck and call but not happy with my happiness.

4 years later I'm married with kids and could not be happier. It took a while to realise she was jealous and that's not the sort of friend anyone needs.

tinkerbell28

fake_smile wrote: »

I guess that would be the ideal thing to do but i've developed feelings for this girl. It's all been such a lovely relationship up until about a month ago, just silly bickering. I don't know what to do, I know what I should do but I can't bring myself to end things.

However, at the same time I'm feeling emotionally drained and never seem to know where I stand. She blows hot and cold quite frequently.

At 5 months in? Doesn't bode well does it?

unholyangel

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Perhaps your GF is the sort of friend who dumps her girlfriends at the drop of a hat when she has a man on the scene.

DD had one particular friend who would cancel/not turn up/ignore texts etc. when she had a boyfriend. Even the girl's mother suspected it was going on and would ring my house if her DD was supposed to be here - but she would usually be ignoring calls and at her boyfriend. The girls tried talking to her and she would stop for a week or so and then resume. She did this from the age of 14 and at almost 19 would still do it if she had any real friends left..

Yet she is the one that goes in a huff when they tell her she's a !!!!!! friend and she unfollows them on Twitter and blocks them on FB!! Then she will resort to tears and apologies as she realises she has no friends.

DD and her friends no longer care and make no attempt to contact her.

I had a friend like that. I eventually got fed up treading on eggshells around her and just started doing/saying what I wanted (previously she'd fall out with me for months if I even dared disagree with her). I think the first time I done it, it came as a shock to her. But she's much better behaved now. I don't have to worry about !!!!ing her off and if I do, oh well she'll get over it.

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When will it end though? I love my friends but would never sacrifice relationships for them, that's ludicrous.

Well that's the thing, a real friend would never ask you to sacrifice a relationship for them....they'd be happy you're happy.

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