Girlfriend Upset

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Although I can understand (in a way - if a friend felt left out if your GF suddenly spent ALL her time with you) a 'friend' who blocks you, acts incredibly childish like a grumpy teenager whose fave band has just split up is not a friend you need in your life. Hope your GF has the gumption to say to her 'sorry you feel this way' and leave it at that.

What a drama queen, surely we all have enough children to look after!

BitterAndTwisted

Well, if she's going to back off for a few days then there's absolutely nothing you can do about it.

However, I'd be having doubts about the sort of woman who has the kind of friendships which are more common with teenage girlies at school. That's not the way mature women are supposed to behave.

DigForVictory

Management techniques that I have used sucessfully (even by phone) on my sisters when they're tired, stressed, cranky & going for full on hystrionics:

Ask when did they last eat - a real meal, not a pack of crisps & definitely not a cigarette.
Ask when did they last drink - for hydration (I may hear what sounds like double vodka, I'd like to know she's not actively dehydrated)
Ask when did they last have a bath - as if they can get too busy & not slow down & have a nice soak.
And (finally!) ask when did they last sleep?

As those four sort out most neurochemical & hormonal aggravations.

Can you can get away with cooking your girl a meal, making sure she gets plenty to drink, has a nice soak (no mobile!) & I'll leave it to you to figure whether a hot water bottle or a cuddle are more likely to persuade her to sleep.

When she wakes up, she can figure out what she wants to do with her friendship with this woman.

HPoirot

Have you been with your gf long? Does it seem like she values the friendship more than your relationship?

Poppy9

Perhaps your GF is the sort of friend who dumps her girlfriends at the drop of a hat when she has a man on the scene.

DD had one particular friend who would cancel/not turn up/ignore texts etc. when she had a boyfriend. Even the girl's mother suspected it was going on and would ring my house if her DD was supposed to be here - but she would usually be ignoring calls and at her boyfriend. The girls tried talking to her and she would stop for a week or so and then resume. She did this from the age of 14 and at almost 19 would still do it if she had any real friends left..

Yet she is the one that goes in a huff when they tell her she's a !!!!!! friend and she unfollows them on Twitter and blocks them on FB!! Then she will resort to tears and apologies as she realises she has no friends.

DD and her friends no longer care and make no attempt to contact her.

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dandelionclock30

It sounds like shes not that bothered about you really.
She may be gearing up to drop you and trying to do it the nice way.

Leave her to it, theres not a lot you can do.

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Person_one

I'd value a lifelong friendship over a 5 month relationship too. That seems fair.

tinkerbell_2k12

By any chance is the friend single?? And doesn't have anyone else to socialize with? Sounds like she's jealous of your gf being happy with anyone other than her.

It's awful that's she's backing away from you because of the friend, give her a few days hopefully she'll see her so called friend is being unreasonable