Girlfriend Upset

RuthnJasper

The pair of them sound like absolute nightmares, to be honest. What ludicrous behaviour.

I'm ever so sorry for you fake_smile; you sound like a friendly and caring chap - and you certainly don't deserve to find yourself in the middle of this histrionic nonsense. Maybe this might be a bit of a lucky escape...? (Apologies - I know that that sounds quite harsh).

Hope things turn out OK for you.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

tea_lover wrote: »

Her, not him.

Aah - in that case...I completely understand. It's a girl thing

HPoirot

tea_lover wrote: »

Her, not him.

Oops, sorry. Doesn't change the respect factor though.

tea_lover

HPoirot wrote: »

Oops, sorry. Doesn't change the respect factor though.

Absolutely. But I think it can change the dynamic of relationships to some extent, particularly if there has been any history there.

Macadamia

fake_smile wrote: »

Hi


I am not even going to begin commenting on her friendship because that won't get me anywhere, however she has said that she is going to back away from me a little for a few days as she is awful company and doesn't want to upset or annoy me.

How would you react? Would yu respect her wishes and back off to let things settle or insist on being there for her? I'm not sure what to do as the last time this happened my ex was plotting on dumping me! It all went pear shaped. Anyway, I feel a bit p!ssed off at the moment and helpless.

You poor thing. You have my sympathy. Anyone would be feeling both naffed and vulnerable.


If gf & you live together I think digforvictory's advice is just the best.

If not, back off. Make a plan to do something together in a few days time, and tell her you respect her desire for space, but you look forward to seeing her then.

tinkerbell_2k12

How's the gf ever going to be in a long term relationship if her friend dictates how much time she should be spending with a boyfriend. And drops every boyfriend the friend doesn't like?

DKLS

FatVonD wrote: »

I'm intrigued? What happens?

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Poppy9

OP hate to ask but are you needy and clingy and does your GF feel drained by your neediness and her best friend's needs and just wants to slow it all down.

No offence meant it's just some personalities are like this and it's fairly unusual for a young male to ask for this sort of advice on a forum.

HPoirot

tea_lover wrote: »

Absolutely. But I think it can change the dynamic of relationships to some extent, particularly if there has been any history there.

Might there be a reason why the OP hasn't met the friend in 5 months? OP have you landed into a right mess? Sorry if I'm being blunt.

aileth

This sounds like something that used to happen all the time in secondary school.

Your GF's friend seems to be very attention-demanding, and since you have come on the scene and 'stolen' some of the attention from her, she is now removing all teddies from her pram and effectively throwing a strop until your GF either dumps you or sidelines you to give the friend all the attention she wants, which it sounds like she is effectively doing and being drawn in by, by saying that she wants space from you because the whole thing has made her grumpy and bad to be around.

No, that isn't a valid reason and sounds totally false to me. The reason she wants space from you is to try and tempt her friend back by giving her 100% of the attention as the friend seemingly needs.

I'd get out ASAP if I were you. Your relationship will be three people otherwise.