can we avoid care home charges

Pollycat

thorsoak wrote: »

Thank you all for your kind words ....I think I felt "sandbagged" by SD's comments and went through all my posts, to see whether I had been harsh - I still don't think I was, but starting questioning myself.

Don't.

You have not said anything untoward on this thread - or any other thread.

thorsoak wrote: »

I've got another training session next week, and I'll be going to it.

I'm sure you'll be a great asset to Macmillan, although it's sad that your own personal experiences have given you the empathy to help with your volunteering. :A

ognum

thorsoak wrote: »

Thank you all for your kind words ....I think I felt "sandbagged" by SD's comments and went through all my posts, to see whether I had been harsh - I still don't think I was, but starting questioning myself.

I've got another training session next week, and I'll be going to it.

Just a thought, I also don't not think you have been harsh but sometimes if you are volunteering in difficult situations you have supervision available to you.

While you may or may not want to take this incident to talk with your supervisor either individually or as a group you could talk through your feelings about it and how it effected you.

It is vital if employed or volunteering to take and opportunity to protect yourself for future incidents and to understand where are own feelings are coming from.

I reiterate that I don't think you have done anything wrong but just take care of yourself, it important!

pollypenny

Kaz2904 wrote: »

^What she said!
Thorsoak, you have been around here for years and posted on many threads. You give good advice and seem to be a lovely person.
Just because the PP has a nasty tone and seems to be a very angry person, does not mean you will not be any good as a Macmillan volunteer.
Don't forget that while people such as PP feel they can be incredibly rude from the safety of behind a keyboard, most people aren't so rude to people face to face.

Hey, Kaz, do you mean me?

I don't think I've been rude. I've just told Sd. That I don't want to pay for her care and, if she campaigned for the miners, she has lost her socialist principles if she wants others to pay for her care home.

thorsoak

pollypenny wrote: »

Hey, Kaz, do you mean me?

I don't think I've been rude. I've just told SP. That I don't want to pay for her care and, if she campaigned for the miners, she has lost her socialist principles if she wants others to pay for her care home.

I think that Kaz had fat finger syndrome ....I read her posts as OP!!!

pollypenny

I flipping hope so! :cool:

seven-day-weekend

thorsoak wrote: »

I think that Kaz had fat finger syndrome ....I read her posts as OP!!!

I did too. I don't think they meant you, PollyPenny!

Errata

More power to your elbow Thorsoak, you're doing something that many other people can't. I would have been lost without the support of Macmillan for the practical stuff when I've needed all my energy to get through the slash/burn/poison malarkey and nothing left for form filling etc.

margaretclare

Errata wrote: »

More power to your elbow Thorsoak, you're doing something that many other people can't. I would have been lost without the support of Macmillan for the practical stuff when I've needed all my energy to get through the slash/burn/poison malarkey and nothing left for form filling etc.

Unfortunately, when I suggested Macmillan to my cousin-in-law's wife about 3 years ago she would have none of it and reacted hotly and angrily. 'The family were all she wanted/needed, how dare I suggest an outside agency...' Her husband had no say in the matter. My point was that family members are also going through the same process of shock, disbelief, not knowing what to do to help, and an organisation like Macmillan is worth its weight in gold. Now they're going through the whole process all over again, back to square one, we noticed when we visited him in the same hospital, same ward, that the foyer is full of ads for Macmillan and what they can do to help. I hope that she's noticed them every time she goes in there!

We're going to a Macmillan coffee morning locally on Monday.

thorsoak

Macmillan were so supportive of us as a family - when we said that Adrian wanted to come home, and that we wanted him home, they were brilliant, and acted as co-ordinators for all the equipment that was needed - bed with bells and whistles, commode etc; co-ordinated with our doctors, district nurses and carers, helped filling in forms - etc etc etc. Once he was home (within 24 hours of us saying that we wanted him home) the local Macmillan nurse was round to introduce himself to Adrian and from then on he was the person to whom OH would talk, expressing his fears and frustrations. He also attended the funeral (along with our lovely district nurse) and who was instrumental in organising bereavement counselling for two of our sons - and not even in the same locality.

That's why I want to give back.

seven-day-weekend

The Macmillan nurses (and the local hospice) were amazing with our friend who has recently died. I can't praise them enough.