can we avoid care home charges

Errata

spaniel_dog wrote: »

trouble with these forums you only can read brief snippets of a persons situation and then think you know everything.
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Are you talking to me? Because if you are you need to get down off the cross, I can make good use of the wood.

thorsoak

Well - if you knew so early on, why did you not just say "thank you" and that would have been an end of it!

As it is, it has left a very sad feeling with a lot of us ...at the age of 70 I have only just started my "training" as a Macmillan volunteer - and you have been so harsh that I'm in tears and don't feel like going back. Yet I do know that Macmillan desperately needs more people who have gone through what I (and my family went through) as volunteers.

Please read through your posts as if someone else has written them - and maybe then you might feel some humility.

Torry_Quine

Errata wrote: »

Are you talking to me? Because if you are you need to get down off the cross, I can make good use of the wood.

I know what you've been watching.

Torry_Quine

thorsoak wrote: »

Well - if you knew so early on, why did you not just say "thank you" and that would have been an end of it!

As it is, it has left a very sad feeling with a lot of us ...at the age of 70 I have only just started my "training" as a Macmillan volunteer - and you have been so harsh that I'm in tears and don't feel like going back. Yet I do know that Macmillan desperately needs more people who have gone through what I (and my family went through) as volunteers.

Please read through your posts as if someone else has written them - and maybe then you might feel some humility.

Please don't let this stop you from continuing with your volunteering for Macmillan. The experiences you've had will be invaluable. :A

lostinrates

thorsoak wrote: »

Well - if you knew so early on, why did you not just say "thank you" and that would have been an end of it!

As it is, it has left a very sad feeling with a lot of us ...at the age of 70 I have only just started my "training" as a Macmillan volunteer - and you have been so harsh that I'm in tears and don't feel like going back. Yet I do know that Macmillan desperately needs more people who have gone through what I (and my family went through) as volunteers.

Please read through your posts as if someone else has written them - and maybe then you might feel some humility.

Thorsoak, I've read your posts for years, and remember the loss, and you have been inspirational to me as a wife, a mother, a woman, a bereaved partner and a loving one.

I know that I'd want some one like you there for me and my family to talk to . Please, please use this as experience, not off putting, but something that gives your strength ion this endeavour.

*Robin*

thorsoak wrote: »

Well - if you knew so early on, why did you not just say "thank you" and that would have been an end of it!

As it is, it has left a very sad feeling with a lot of us ...at the age of 70 I have only just started my "training" as a Macmillan volunteer - and you have been so harsh that I'm in tears and don't feel like going back. Yet I do know that Macmillan desperately needs more people who have gone through what I (and my family went through) as volunteers.

Please read through your posts as if someone else has written them - and maybe then you might feel some humility.

lostinrates wrote:

Thorsoak, I've read your posts for years, and remember the loss, and you have been inspirational to me as a wife, a mother, a woman, a bereaved partner and a loving one.

I know that I'd want some one like you there for me and my family to talk to . Please, please use this as experience, not off putting, but something that gives your strength ion this endeavour.

Thorsoak, I too have read your posts for years, taking inspiration from your example during my own sad journey of loss.
Agree with lostinrates that you have something very special to offer as a Macmillan volunteer, and should not be put off by a poster who is obviously having great difficulty in coping with her own situation.

We all know that the great majority of folk who seek assistance from Macmillan will welcome your help as a volunteer.

Spaniel dog, don't want to ruffle your feathers, so will just wish you all the best in finding the right solution for your dilemma.

As someone in a similar situation, I am being encouraged to borrow against my main asset in order to help fund a child through uni. Equity release might work for you if you don't want to sell your current home / downsize; provide enough cash for adaptations and to make your life easier now (though have no idea about ramifications of helping adult kids with house deposit via equity release?).
Whatever you decide to do; Good Luck!

Kaz2904

^What she said!
Thorsoak, you have been around here for years and posted on many threads. You give good advice and seem to be a lovely person.
Just because the PP has a nasty tone and seems to be a very angry person, does not mean you will not be any good as a Macmillan volunteer.
Don't forget that while people such as PP feel they can be incredibly rude from the safety of behind a keyboard, most people aren't so rude to people face to face.

maman

thorsoak wrote: »

Well - if you knew so early on, why did you not just say "thank you" and that would have been an end of it!

As it is, it has left a very sad feeling with a lot of us ...at the age of 70 I have only just started my "training" as a Macmillan volunteer - and you have been so harsh that I'm in tears and don't feel like going back. Yet I do know that Macmillan desperately needs more people who have gone through what I (and my family went through) as volunteers.

Please read through your posts as if someone else has written them - and maybe then you might feel some humility.

:mad::mad::mad:

I don't 'know' you at all thorsoak but I'm so angry that this dimwit/troll has left you feeling this way. If we're incredibly generous and caring (as you seem to be:A) let's imagine that spaniel dog is so stressed by her diagnosis that she's behaving irrationally and hitting out at everyone that offers help. It's good training for you!! Good luck and many congratulations on your decision to become a counsellor.

mountainofdebt

I lost patience with the OP along time ago.

Personally I don't care what a person did eons ago or what their children do (does one profession really have a higher social status than another?) -its how they act now is what matters to me.

thorsoak

Thank you all for your kind words ....I think I felt "sandbagged" by SD's comments and went through all my posts, to see whether I had been harsh - I still don't think I was, but starting questioning myself.

I've got another training session next week, and I'll be going to it.