Child Maintenence

Lizalu

And as I have pointed out several times.... he does support them. He has an income of more than £8000, yet still that is what the CSA said to pay. That's no fault of his.

Kimberly - yeh i did say it before.

OP, my point is that if she were to go to the CSA, you would probably be required to pay much less than you are now. When she realises this, she might be happier to accept a reduction on what you are now paying.

Kimberley

Lizalu wrote: »

And as I have pointed out several times.... he does support them. He has an income of more than £8000, yet still that is what the CSA said to pay. That's no fault of his.

Kimberly - yeh i did say it before.

OP, my point is that if she were to go to the CSA, you would probably be required to pay much less than you are now. When she realises this, she might be happier to accept a reduction on what you are now paying.

You said it after my post number #4

Also why would any decent father go to the CSA just to get his payments reduced That means that the father would be taking money from his child. Thats if the child gets it and it doesn't go on the mother.

Lizalu

he didn't go to get his payments reduced, his ex (same as the OP's ex) said she'd go to "take him to the cleaners". As soon as she realised that she could only get that much, she stopped threatening. He, however, has been paying her directly just over double what he was told, as well as paying for all the other things. The kids never go without anything, both are more than happy. He really is a brilliant dad, and loves his kids more than anything else.

Kimberley

Lizalu wrote: »

he didn't go to get his payments reduced, his ex (same as the OP's ex) said she'd go to "take him to the cleaners". As soon as she realised that she could only get that much, she stopped threatening. He, however, has been paying her directly just over double what he was told, as well as paying for all the other things. The kids never go without anything, both are more than happy. He really is a brilliant dad, and loves his kids more than anything else.

If he's supporting them thats great, what you were telling the OP is to go to the CSA to reduce his £200 a month payments which are already a misery sum to pay.

nej

I have a step-daughter, and my wife's ex was paying about £150pm via the CSA. When he had a baby with his new partner he was re-assessed and didn't have to pay anything. We didn't complain about it, he has a right to live his own life and provide for his other children, too. They did want to reclaim about £500 but our response was "we've asked our daughter for the money but she doesn't have £500 to pay back." He was kind enough to call the CSA and say he didn't want to chase it.

As long as your ex-wife can survive I think she is unjustified in her actions.

It's all very well saying "he has to support his child", but he now has to support his other child, too. If his first child is already well supported (I know the CSA looked at my income too when my wife applied to the CSA for her ex), then I don't see the problem. I have no problem supporting my step-daughter. Her dad has two other kids now to support as well, and as long as he makes an effort for birthdays/xmas (he doesn't always though...) then I'm happy and so is my wife.

Kimberley

If you have another baby knowing you pay maintenance for a previous child and cannot afford it then why go for that baby? You hear stories of men having baby after baby after baby with different mothers and the same with women. People do not think of their children in these circumstances.

Katie~baby

I dont think that you should determine the amount you pay on the amount you see your child. Its unfortunate that he lives so far away but thats not his fault. It should be YOU calling him he is only 10. As for flights i personally think it should be half and half.

I also agree with Nej. My step-daughter lives with her mother and we pay a fair amount each month yet the mother can easily survive if we didnt pay this. In fact i think she could afford to feed the street if she so wished.
You need to be able to feed your new child and i understand you are still going to pay for your son just not as much. To be honest i think something is better than nothing!!

CS should reduce your payments anyway when your new baby arrives. I think things may be different as she lives in spain though. Call the CSA and check

Kimberley

Katie~baby wrote: »

CS should reduce your payments anyway when your new baby arrives. I think things may be different as she lives in spain though. Call the CSA and check

It depends on how much the father earns as well, maybe the OP can do the CSA online maintenance calculator.

arthur_dent_2

Surely if a chilod has equal access to both children then they are both contributing equally to the upbringing and welfare of that child and no maintenance should be payable as both parents are equally liable.

As regards the OP's question, I think that £50 a week is probably about right but if the mother is wealthy then she shouldn't be complaining if it is less.

wifeforlife

LondonDiva wrote: »

*£50 a week for a child is the minimum, rather than the maximum. It costs more than that to feed, clothe & school trips / fees etc for him.QUOTE]

What do you mean £50 is the minimum? Sorry for jumping on the thread, it's just I get maintenance from ex for my dd

Cate