Too soon to have a baby?

j.e.j.

Soleil_lune wrote: »

In the name of God no! Me and my OH were still in the early dating stages after being together for seven and a half months. We were clubbing and going on holidays with friends, and didn't even live together for 2 or 3 years.

On no planet in the universe would it be a good idea to plan a baby after after less than a year together. Bad idea. I am guessing you're young. (Under 25 probably) Go live your life, put baby making on the backburner for at LEAST 5 years.

Well I suppose to the OP's credit, at least they're PLANNING whether or not to have a child. She didn't get pregnant and then think oops a daisy perhaps that wasn't such a good idea :rotfl:

FatVonD

Looking back at the OP's other threads (what can I say, it's a slow day ) her house is for sale and 'they' are thinking of moving (not sure if that's her parents and her or her and BF!) She has had a job for the last 3 months and already has a dog!

*Adjusts deerstalker*

OP, you might find if you wait a while you will be have been working long enough to be entitled to company maternity pay rather than just SMP.

Carl31

I think having a baby is THE single most stressful thing a couple can do. One thing i hate is when you hear about couples having babies to be closer? in my experience my relationship got more strained than its ever been

Yes you get a lovely baby, in return you get hormone changes, baby blues, a changed life, financial commitment, tied down and restricted in your movements, and exhausted, not to mention any wrong or right decisions you make from then on affect this person for the rest of their lives

I think the act of having a baby is far too much for people to be able to do as they feel in this day and age

pearl123

Carl31 wrote: »

I think having a baby is THE single most stressful thing a couple can do. One thing i hate is when you hear about couples having babies to be closer? in my experience my relationship got more strained than its ever been

Yes you get a lovely baby, in return you get hormone changes, baby blues, a changed life, financial commitment, tied down and restricted in your movements, and exhausted, not to mention any wrong or right decisions you make from then on affect this person for the rest of their lives

I think the act of having a baby is far too much for people to be able to do as they feel in this day and age

I agree with the above :T
At the beginning of a relationship it all rose tinted glasses. We have flooded by the happy love hormones. It is sensible to wait, especially considering that it is a life changing decision.

sharp82

duchy wrote: »

Do you have savings - babies eat money

DISCLAIMER

Babies don't eat actual money

Their food/clothing etc just costs a lot

DKLS

daniellaoxox wrote: »

I've been with my partner for seven and a half months. We are very much in love and have talked about having a baby many times over the past couple of months. Is it too soon?

Far too soon 7.5 months is nothing, why ruin the great early years with a child, there is plenty of time for that later.

Fine if your ambition extends no further than a pram, but what about travelling, having adventures or building a career for a bit?

Tbh I find it quite creepy this early on and would make me suspicious about him.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

From bitter experience, I'd say it's way too soon. It's great that you're in love and talking about such things openly, but no. Even after five or ten years, marriages and/or mortgages, there are still no guarantees that things will always be happy ever after (I've seen that with friends), but at least after a few years, you'll at least know whether you can stand their company, still find them attractive, whether he'll be able to accept puking up constantly for nine months, stretchmarks that look like Freddie Kruger crept into the bedroom last night, bloated face, hands and legs and all the bawling that goes with post baby blues and not being able to sleep for more than 25 minutes at a time for the next year.



Having children - NOT A BABY - is a whole lot more than having a cute little thing that'll look great in a pretty dress. And it definitely helps to know that you don't just fancy one another, don't just like one another, but that you can spend boring rainy afternoons together, be so skint that you can't even leave the house to get a pint of milk, have the flu, be irritable, deal with other people expressing interest in a partner without the other assuming they're leading them on, go through bereavement, redundancy, and all the other stresses that you could encounter - before you think about bringing someone who will always be more important than you and him into the world.

PasturesNew

daniellaoxox wrote: »

I've been with my partner for seven and a half months. We are very much in love and have talked about having a baby many times over the past couple of months. Is it too soon?

Like hell, yeah!!

Get two Christmasses under your belt.... those are the times most likely to show cracks.

System

At 7 months, your just getting to know each other.

Errata

Judi wrote: »

At 7 months, your just getting to know each other.

Not only that, but talking about having a baby two months previous to that :eek:
If a bloke started having a baby talk with me after 5 months they wouldn't see me for dust!