Too soon to have a baby?

daniellaoxox

I've been with my partner for seven and a half months. We are very much in love and have talked about having a baby many times over the past couple of months. Is it too soon?

cutestkids

Personally I would say that yes it is too soon as I would not be confident that I really knew someone after only seven months.

Other things to look at are how old are you both, do you live together, are you both in employment, do you live together etc.
At the end of the day only you know what is right for you.

sassyblue

I would say do you know if he's 'the one' first? Having said that, yes l think its too soon and you should enjoy your time together! once a baby comes along your relationship will take second place - and it will be tested to the max.

Don't romanticise having a baby, the reality can be very different.

LEJC

Only you two know when the time is right....theres no right time...or a wrong time...but in having a child you are making a commitment to a little person for a very long time!

I suppose the question is what does your OH say about it when you have talked about it over the past few months....is he in agreement or has he raised a query over the time you've been together?

Ive known people who have had children quickly and in a new relationship and its worked well and I've known people who have been together a long time before going on to have children and subsequently finding having children changed the dynamic too much...

Its about both being committed and selfless in the relationship IMO...and that doesnt come along after x amount of months or y amount of years.

DomRavioli

In my opinion - yes. Unless you want to end up on Jeremy Kyle that is!

Do you live together? Are there any reasons why you should have a child with someone you barely know (and by that I mean truly knowing someone, by going through hell and back and then some, and knowing they will be there regardless)?

lostinrates

daniellaoxox wrote: »

I've been with my partner for seven and a half months. We are very much in love and have talked about having a baby many times over the past couple of months. Is it too soon?

How old are you? What are your respective employment status and career goals and life ambitions? How disparate are your views on finance, education, politics, moving, family, adventure, religion, and the ten things off that list that are most important to you? How long have you lived together? Have you survived a row were you both said sorry? Have you both had a big gift celebration seeing how well you know each other?

Allthough it seems soon there are circumstances,stances I can think of where its not a bad idea. However, I'd have been a bit unwilling to leave the'honey moon period' and share DH after only such a short period of time by choice.

*max*

Well, she wouldn't be sharing her OH with anyone for another 9 months at least. It's not like they'll be having a baby now after 7 months together. Just thought I'd point it out - I have no opinion whatsoever on this subject.

marisco_2

I think when you have only been with someone for 7 months, it is too soon to be contemplating having a child with them. Everyone approaches their relationships differently of course. For me personally I wouldn't feel I really knew someone until I had been with them for at least a couple of years. I couldn't see myself with someone long term and make huge lifetime commitments to them until I really knew them.

double_mummy

did you know your OH before you were together? were you been friends for a while first?

pinkshoes

7 months is still the honeymoon period so of course you're all loved up!

Definitely not the time to have a baby! You should be getting to know each other!

fluffnutter

How old are you?