Too soon to have a baby?

heartbreak_star

What's your financial situation regarding having a baby?

HBS x

FatVonD

Why not enjoy just being together for a couple of years? The romance will definitely go onto the back burner once you're dealing with sleepless nights and leaky boobs! You sound young too, are you ready for possible stretch marks yet? Is your relationship?

Soleil_lune

daniellaoxox wrote: »

I've been with my partner for seven and a half months. We are very much in love and have talked about having a baby many times over the past couple of months. Is it too soon?

In the name of God no! Me and my OH were still in the early dating stages after being together for seven and a half months. We were clubbing and going on holidays with friends, and didn't even live together for 2 or 3 years.

On no planet in the universe would it be a good idea to plan a baby after after less than a year together. Bad idea. I am guessing you're young. (Under 25 probably) Go live your life, put baby making on the backburner for at LEAST 5 years.

sjbm45

Why don't you get a dog together first and see how you get on with that? My Husband and I argue more about the dog than anything else.:rotfl:

Person_one

Soleil_lune wrote: »

In the name of God no! Me and my OH were still in the early dating stages after being together for seven and a half months. We were clubbing and going on holidays with friends, and didn't even live together for 2 or 3 years.

On no planet in the universe would it be a good idea to plan a baby after after less than a year together. Bad idea. I am guessing you're young. (Under 25 probably) Go live your life, put baby making on the backburner for at LEAST 5 years.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who reacted like this! :rotfl:

Person_one

sjbm45 wrote: »

Why don't you get a dog together first and see how you get on with that? My Husband and I argue more about the dog than anything else.:rotfl:

Dogs can live for up to 15 years, they're a big commitment too, not just practice for babies.

Soleil_lune

Person_one wrote: »

Dogs can live for up to 15 years, they're a big commitment too, not just practice for babies.

That made me laugh :rotfl:

NervousHomeowner

sjbm45 wrote: »

Why don't you get a dog together first and see how you get on with that? My Husband and I argue more about the dog than anything else.:rotfl:

Agreed! Although I wouldn't advise getting a dog either.. :rotfl: It'll be 'our dog' to start with but then the minute they need a walk or do something naughty, they suddenly become 'your dog'..

Personally, I think 7 1/2 months is way too soon to think about kids. Like others have said, you're still in the honeymoon stage so you're both on your best behaviour and not really showing your 'true selves' yet so you don't really know each other outside of your relationship.
Do you live together too? If not, definitely don't have a baby yet. You don't know what someone is really like until you've lived with them and they've let their guard down. You only know you truly love someone if you still want to be with them after seeing them eat their own nose pickings.. :eek:

duchy

Can you afford to have a baby ?
Do you have savings - babies eat money
Do either of you have any goals or ambitions you haven't yet achieved that having a baby would prevent or make more difficult
Have you discussed marriage -if it is "too soon" for marriage -it's probably too soon for a baby.
What happened with your previous relationships ? Did they last or did they peter our after a year
What happens if you split up ? Could you manage a baby alone emotionally and financially ?
Don't you want to have fun for a few years first? Be able to go away for weekends and nights out without having to pay for babysitters -be able to go on holiday together .

After a few months there are very few situations where the answer would be yes- go ahead.

What do your parents think ?

*Twinkle*

I met my 1st partner and was pregnant 4 mths into the relationship, we stayed together 8 years, my second partner i fell pregnant 2 months in, 8 years later and two more babies with him, we are currently planning our wedding. Looking back I do think it was too soon, but we would of had kids at some point together.