Too soon to have a baby?

candygirl

It's definitely too soon!!Wait till you have lived together for at least a year before even thinking about it.Babies seem like a romantic idea when you're all loved up, but the reality is totally different:D

continualdiamond

Wow, only 7 1/2 mths together, that seems sooo quick to then go onto having children together.

I've been with my OH since I was 18, got engaged when I was 24 but didn't get married until I was 29 and now I'm 31 and expecting our 1st baby.

We've loved the time spent together just as a couple and only now do we feel prepared to take a step back and it not just be about us all the time.

Everyone is different though and I know my choices in terms of time etc isn't for everyone either. Only the people in the relationship will know what is right for them I guess.

double_mummy

i was pregnant within a month of being with OH but we had been very close friends for 3 years before that and we seem to be going strong i think it is all about how well you know each other how comfortable you are with each other not how long you have been together

itsanne

As others have said, it also depends on your current circumstances with regard to careers, accommodation etc.

Seven and a half months is still a very new relationship and you sound quite young, so you have nothing to lose by waiting. It's probably not what you want to hear, but why not just enjoy things for now?

southoftheriver

Personally I would want more time to get to know someone, and to have some time as a couple, but to each their own! A lot can change one those overwhelming initial feelings die down, and unlike being married (controversial I know) once you have a baby you are tied to that person forever. Whilst he may turn out to be the one and you live happily ever after, it seems very soon to say that.

Toothfairy4

I would say yes, much too soon. I have been with DH for 7 years and expecting our first baby in a few weeks time, i definitely would not have fekt like I knew him enough to have one after 7 months. As someone else said you are still in the honeymoon period, i would spend a lot more time together as a couple before even thinking if kids.

somethingcorporate

Another one for the way too soon brigade. You've been together 5 minutes and probably never been through a rough patch yet. I have an absolutely solid relationship with my wife having been together 12 years and married for 5 but having a baby has really tested our patience with each other - no wonder so many relationships are easily split over kids - it really is hard work!

j.e.j.

daniellaoxox wrote: »

I've been with my partner for seven and a half months. We are very much in love and have talked about having a baby many times over the past couple of months. Is it too soon?

If you need to ask a bunch of strangers on the internet whether or not to have a baby, I'd say no, you are not yet ready to have one. Only you and your husband or partner know when is the right time for you, none of us know you!

fashionlover10

I'd say it was definitely too soon!

I've been with my OH for 18 months and we've been living together a year tomorrow and I still think it's way too soon for us to have a baby together.

You still have so much to enjoy with your OH before you have a baby. I know it would be anything from 9 months onwards before a baby actually arrives but I can't imagine that time being the same as completely pre-baby anyway.

Air_Cooled_75

Don't you want to do stuff together first (holidays etc.) because there won't be much time for that once you have a baby

We were married for 14 years before we had our baby, we managed to do a lot and knew we could cope with a baby (emotionally and physically). We never actually planned to have kids and LO was a complete surprise.