First date- who pay's?

Blackbeard_of_Perranporth

I has bin with Ms BoP too long, that she just pays noawadays.
More Wobbleade, pet!
(Pure, ruff and non PC at that!)

marisco_2

SailorSam wrote: »

I suppose with being older i'm more comfortable paying, especially on earlier dates. I've noticed on PoF most women write on their profiles first dates should be short drinks/ coffee or a 50/50 thing. Some though i've read say they expect to be wined & dined in a good restaurant and perhaps go onto a show later. They say a man needs to treat them special.
I don't think i'm mean, but something like that puts me off meeting someone who's a virtual stranger.

I am not at all surprised those kind of expectations put you off. A man treats a woman nicely when he likes and respects her for who she is. Not because he feels he has to win her over and is fortunate to even be in her company.

paulineb_2

SailorSam wrote: »

I suppose with being older i'm more comfortable paying, especially on earlier dates. I've noticed on PoF most women write on their profiles first dates should be short drinks/ coffee or a 50/50 thing. Some though i've read say they expect to be wined & dined in a good restaurant and perhaps go onto a show later. They say a man needs to treat them special.
I don't think i'm mean, but something like that puts me off meeting someone who's a virtual stranger.

Ive never said anything like that on a POF profile and the friends I have on it, theyve not said that either

Some people will, you just need to find the people who dont

DUTR

paulineb wrote: »

Ive never said anything like that on a POF profile and the friends I have on it, theyve not said that either

Some people will, you just need to find the people who dont

Sadly there are many that do have profiles that include similar expectations, but like you say the viewer has to sift through the stones and maybe there is a diamond out there.
But it works both ways, from reading some of the profiles there appears to be a good amount of not really available looking for extra marital times.

maintenanceman

Personally I think they should pay their own way on a first date. I mean a 99p McDonalds super save burger is not to much to ask them to pay. Maybe they would get a refund on the third date, if I got lucky:D
If their nsme was Becky boobies, | I would probably pay on the first date depending.

stir_crazy

SailorSam wrote: »

But many men are just as shy, try and imagine what it's like for us.

Yes, I can imagine what its like. I'm just lucky my DH isn't the shy retiring type...

level200

As usual ladies, equality only when it suits you!

50/50 all the way, i have met so many women who are just after a free meal or drink. One girl even came up to me in a pub twice on separate nights saying that its her birthday and will i buy her a drink.

BallOfString

So do some of you mean that if a date is going perfectly well but the girl doesn't fight to pay her share then it won't work?

I went on a first date a couple of weeks ago - coffee & cake! :T - and he nicely asked me to put my purse away when I expected to pay my half. I've got to say I was impressed as we live 300miles away and we weren't sure there'd be a second date even though we got on well.

There was a second date which I paid 70/30 I guess and drove to pick him up halfway too - he paid for coffee.
Hopefully people don't spend the whole date worrying about who'll pay as there could be many opportunities to return the favour.
Pleaaase don't stop at the bill issue after a first date if it went well!

scrabbly

Seems an awful lot of people are having a meal on a first date ! Its a long time if you are not gelling. If you stick to drink/coffee etc the situation does not arise. He pays for the first and you get the next. What's the problem ? In this day and age I feel it is taking advantage to expect him to pay - where's your pride girls ?

DUTR

BallOfString wrote: »

So do some of you mean that if a date is going perfectly well but the girl doesn't fight to pay her share then it won't work?

I went on a first date a couple of weeks ago - coffee & cake! :T - and he nicely asked me to put my purse away when I expected to pay my half. I've got to say I was impressed as we live 300miles away and we weren't sure there'd be a second date even though we got on well.

There was a second date which I paid 70/30 I guess and drove to pick him up halfway too - he paid for coffee.
Hopefully people don't spend the whole date worrying about who'll pay as there could be many opportunities to return the favour.
Pleaaase don't stop at the bill issue after a first date if it went well!

As mentioned earlier in the thread, it depends on the type of date, I don't think many would begrudge paying for coffee cake, glass of wine etc, a 3 course meal at say Strada or such like is perhaps what some others have in mind. And it depends on both parties expectations long or short term.