Brother borrowed 20k without consent

Baby_Angel

I recently read this whole thread. Now to hear this news is really sad. At least your Dad will be in peace now. Please don't blame yourself. You have done so much for him, just being there, for him to talk to someone and with lots of support. Imagine what it would have been for your Dad, had you not been there.

Hugs to you.

Taylorette

Nana, I am so sorry to hear your sad news. I have been keeping up with your posts for some time now, and am saddened to hear it has come to this.

I can understand your feeling of guilt, but please be assured that you have done everything you possibly can for your father. I can only imagine he thought himself very lucky to have you during this period and was very thankful. I certainly am.

Ashingtonian

Very sorry to hear that. No doubt your brother is a **** of the highest order and karma dictates his children will do the same to him when he is elderly, that's if he has anything left to take.

Mojisola

NANANINANOONOO wrote: »

Dad had never stopped fretting & wanting justice from day one & I now feel such guilt for stalling him & constantly trying to persuade him to accept with a what will be will be attitude, now he was never able to find the closure he yearned for.

Don't feel guilty - your father didn't have long enough left to bring all this to a conclusion.

You know who should be feeling guilty but he probably isn't!

chesky

NANANINANOONOO wrote: »

To clarify your question, I did not take over my dads fiancial affairs because he was an intelligent very able man & in excellent health so he has always been perfectly capable of taking care of his own affairs, he merely trusted my his son to oversee things on a advisory basis with no idea he had actual access to all his savings & current account, so it was only dads complete trust in my brother that caused his

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But your brother did all your father's banking online so that he didn't receive a bank statement for three years so you really don't know that he couldn't have gotten hold of insurance papers also.

Deeeliteful

Sorry to hear about your Dad, at least he will rest in peace now and your wrong about your brother and his children......their is a price to pay for everything, what goes around comes around.....what may happen to him may not be the punishment you would have chosen, but I don't believe he will get away with this as you think.....He has already lost his family hasn't he and you are all worth more than gold.

Tracing assets try these:- https://www.ageuk.org.uk/money-matters/money-management/tracing-lost-money/get-started/

https://www.abi.org.uk/Insurance-and-savings/Tools-and-resources/Tracing-an-insurance-policy

Good luck.

wheezy57

Nana, I presumed - wrongly - that you had 'taken over' the sorting out of your fathers money affairs. I do apologise and I am sorry if I had offended you in any way. That was not the intention.

Deelightful has given two links that may help you to find if there is anything out there that is your fathers and solely your fathers even after his son stole everything else. I also note her comment in her post - 'He(your brother) has already lost his family hasn't he and you are all worth more than gold'. I could not have put that better.

Cold comfort right now but when you are not feeling so raw and wretched Im sure you will come to a time when you can raise a toast to your Dad and say that you did your best and that you loved him. He will get the message and that will be comforting...

ConsumerWizkid

My thoughts are with you, I hope your brother feels the guilt for the rest of his life.

elantan

Nanna i too have been following this story, so so sorry to hear of what has happened, my thoughts are with you and your family at this time xxxx

Surfbabe

So sorry to hear the news about your dad Nanna - he is at rest now and you know that you did everything you possibly could for him. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this very sad and emotional time.

xx