Brother borrowed 20k without consent

simpywimpy

If you apply for the grant as next of kin and they turn you down, do appeal as they often seem to grant the appeal. Fill in the form that he was a lodger with this lady? They had completely separate finances so from that aspect its not a tied relationship.

I had a similar experience when my uncle remarried and when he died his wife refused to pay for the funeral costs, changed the car he bought into her name and emptied the joint bank account. We were all completely hoodwinked by her.

I am also more than willing to contribute to your expenses if a fund is set up. Good luck getting things sorted nana. Bless you xxx

RuthnJasper

FireWyrm wrote: »

Oh for the love of....!!!!!!!

These people are just pieces of scum, your brother and now this woman who claimed to give a flying f**k about your father and now the nasty old witch cant even be bothered to chip in for the funeral despite being affluent and entirely able. I'm speechless. Truly. Disgusted. If ever someone was asking for a brick through the window, it's that woman. I'm not sure which one of them I despise more.

As for your family...they defy belief. If it was my brother who had done this, I would make it my life's mission to destroy him one way or the other and I wouldnt give a damn what the family thought about it.

I've been reading this from the very beginning and all I can do is offer my sincere condolences. I guess it could perhaps be viewed as something of a mercy in that the illness was short and he was not forced to endure a life of penury. I know it does nothing to lessen the pain - we are just voices over the internet, but my thoughts are genuinely with you.

Yes indeed.

I am by no means a violent or resentful person, but I would very much like to see Nana's brother enclosed in a locked room for five minutes with my dog's best friend Betty - a Giant Schnauzer of mighty strength and uncertain temper. Five minutes; possibly seven, of her company when she's in season would be more than adequate.

Sorry Nana... :o

NANANINANOONOO

Please know everyones responses always help me. It is reasuring to drop in when things get too much & I can guage the views of strangers when I am full of self-doubt. Every time I come back on here I have felt reasurance that I am 'normal' & sometimes I get a reality check which helps me get things in perspective & that is all I need - so thank you all so much for your kind messages x

RuthnJasper

NANANINANOONOO wrote: »

Please know everyones responses always help me. It is reasuring to drop in when things get too much & I can guage the views of strangers when I am full of self-doubt. Every time I come back on here I have felt reasurance that I am 'normal' & sometimes I get a reality check which helps me get things in perspective & that is all I need - so thank you all so much for your kind messages x

The world is a better place because you are in it Nana, sweetie. Never forget that. xx

Silenciosa

Dear Nana,

I only joined this forum yesterday and have today read the whole thread with what has happened with your father. I was truly hoping to read towards the end that a lawyer had managed to reclaim some of the money back somehow.

It truly broke my heart to read your dad passed away. My sincere condolences and I hope he has found his peace and is up there looking out for you the same as you did for him.

I'm sorry I can't offer any help regarding who to contact for funeral assistance but as many before me I am more than willing to help even if a little towards a fund if one is set up.

No one should have to endure what your dad did in their last years. I'm sure he worked hard and raised his family to his best ability to only have such a horrible break of trust from his own son.

I'm a believer that our conscience is our biggest punishment. I just hope your brother has one. There is no amount of money that can replace the love of a close one. The gift of joy and wonderful memories lasts much much longer than any monetary amount. Your brother and your nieces and nephews will one day realise what they have lost and the devastation they caused.

Throughout the thread I noticed you are a very kind, loving and down to earth lady. Please always be like that. You prove that there is still good in humanity. I truly wish you and your husband the very best and I hope the illnesses are short-term and you finally find the peace you need also.
It will be hard but find it in your heart to forget the evil some people carry within them and have some rest also. You more than deserve it.

You have my respect and admiration and I hope that one day I'll have the same kind heart and attitude you have. A true inspiration.

All the very best wishes.

NANANINANOONOO

I sincerely appreciate everyones support and kind messages and it is important to me to be able to continue to come here for this kind of help and to share my experiences in the hope it will help safeguard others but...please please...and I know people mean well by their gestures and I am very grateful so hope no-one takes offence...but I desperately need to state I am not seeking and do not want any financial help from any of you.

Many many thanks for your kindness, I fear my journey has not ended yet and hope I can continue to share details with those who have supported me and shown an interest throughout x

dancingfairy

I believe that whoever organises the funeral is the one who is responsible for paying. You may find that you have to explain to the local authority that you just do not have the money and ask for a public health funeral. Basically the state will step in where the family do not have the means to pay privately.
I'm sure the people on the funeral board will be able to help you further.
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Eager_Elephant

NANANINANOONOO wrote: »

I sincerely appreciate everyones support and kind messages and it is important to me to be able to continue to come here for this kind of help and to share my experiences in the hope it will help safeguard others but...please please...and I know people mean well by their gestures and I am very grateful so hope no-one takes offence...but I desperately need to state I am not seeking and do not want any financial help from any of you.

Many many thanks for your kindness, I fear my journey has not ended yet and hope I can continue to share details with those who have supported me and shown an interest throughout x

Sorry if I have offended you Nana, I know you have only been posting to serve as a warning to others, I did not think you had come here asking for financial help.



I just had a mad moment when I thought we could all help if it was required hence my post.

NANANINANOONOO

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

Sorry if I have offended you Nana, I know you have only been posting to serve as a warning to others, I did not think you had come here asking for financial help.



I just had a mad moment when I thought we could all help if it was required hence my post.

I am not at all offended EE it was very lovely gesture bless you but I am so sensitive about anyone thinking anything I do or have done for dad was in any way money motivated so it was worrying me a little

It is now Monday and I have some useful contacts of people who I can speak to now the weekend is over, I feel reasured they can help me through this and show me what is available so I am feeling much less worried about my options.

My friends have shown me I must not worry about people who have shown no concern for dad throughout his ordeal, even those who claimed to care & have backed away - yet again proves that money really is the root of all evil. In my heart I know my dad will be proud of me whatever I do for him from hereon. My children and I adored my dad and he knew that without question, he is at peace now and we have wonderful memories to cherish and that is all that matters now x

heartbreak_star

Just wanted to send some hugs to you, Nana.

HBS x