Brother borrowed 20k without consent

crazy_crow

Hi Nana,
I have followed and posted on this thread since the beginning. I am so, so sorry to hear the sad news about your Dad.

I think you have been absolutely amazing. You come across as such a dignified and intelligent woman. I really think you have handled everything as well as anyone could. I admire you, I truely do.

X Crazy Crow

bugslet

Have just read your news NANA, it must have been a great source of comfort to your father to know that you were there with all your care and integrity.

I wish you all the best

bugslet x

Frogling

Hi NANA, so sorry that your dad has passed away.

Like many others here, I have followed your thread since it began, and I am deeply saddened at the heartache your brother put your dad through. There are some terribly selfish, self-serving individuals in the world who seem to have no conscience even when faced with the consequences their actions have upon other people. I know I am not alone in wishing that your brother gets his comeuppance.

Speaking personally, I have a great deal of admiration and respect for you. Reading your posts on this thread, you come across as a truly beautiful person with a heart of gold. Sending you love and hugs x

NANANINANOONOO

On Tuesday we put my lovely dad to rest with a very apt and personal ceremony with words and music chosen by myself and my sons. All his great grandchildren who loved him dearly attended and behaved beautifully throughout bless them. A vast number of old and new friends, past colleagues and extended family attended showing they were clearly fond of this kind friendly character who was my wonderful dad - just wish dad were here to see how much love and support he had which he so badly needed but was unaware of over these months. It was actually a happy day sharing so many lovely memories and stories about him and celebrating his life, dad would have enjoyed all the banter and I do feel I did him proud.

My brother did not attend and no message was sent. His last response to another family member informing him of his fathers imminent death in the hope he may want to seek some restitution was complete disinterest and his comment was 'what's done is done'. However his two sons did attend the funeral but they stayed in background and made no contact with myself and my family. With just a few 'on the fence family' showing them a little support when they showed emotion during the service they quickly slipped away without speaking as we all left the chapel.

Nobody would have said anything untoward to them but it is a terrible shame these young men did not show my father they had some feelings for him while he was still here, just a Christmas or Birthday card would have been enough to ease his pain but sadly for dad their presence on Tuesday was just too little too late for him.

With still lots of messy loose ends to finalise I can at least now move on knowing my dad is at rest :A
xxxx

nubbins

Hi Nana,

I have read this thread for the first time from start to finish and have been horrified at what has happened here and hoped that a good outcome would come. I don't think I have ever been so touched, saddened and yet so outraged by a thread on a forum.I can't say what I would like to do to your brother but the way you have handled yourself in such a dignified manner is a credit to you and I am sure your father was very proud of you. For me personally I would not rest until your brother had shared some of the pain and misery he had caused but if you feel its time to move on and put this behind you then I can understand that.
I just hope that time can heal some of the pain and I sincerely hope the saying "What goes around comes around" gets applied to your brother one day.

Good luck and I hope you can be happy again one day.
X

chesky

Don't be too hard on your nephews Nana. Speaking as someone who has in the past been caught between warring family factions, I know they will have been in trouble whatever they did. It must have taken courage to come to the funeral probably against their father's wishes and in the face of your disapproval. They could have just stayed at home.

Generali

chesky wrote: »

Don't be too hard on your nephews Nana. Speaking as someone who has in the past been caught between warring family factions, I know they will have been in trouble whatever they did. It must have taken courage to come to the funeral probably against their father's wishes and in the face of your disapproval. They could have just stayed at home.

Agree.

Don't visit the sins of the father on the son and all that. It's quite appropriate at this time of year.

mrs_sparrow

Another who was following this thread before having a break from MSE for a while and I was saddened to hear of your fathers illness and subsequent passing.

I am truly horrified and saddened by the way your brother treated his father and you. You know though Nana, his absence from the funeral would have spoken volumes as far as the wider family is concerned and his comment 'what is done, is don' will also get to the wider family and make them realise that none of this was your doing - as your brother has said. You said that the family made little contact with the nephews shows that they do not believe what your brother is saying, it was brave of them to turn up though. No doubt they only have the poison that their father has filled heir heads with.

I hope that you can move on from this, there are some people in our family we are better off without, your brother is one of them. You have been amazing for your dad throughout.

I hope your brother gets what is coming to him, he clearly cannot pay for the lifestyle that he wants to lead and he will no doubt be living on credit. If he ever comes to you clearly show him the door and do not feel sorry for him or be taken in by his lies. You are an amazing person and did all you could. Do not think that you delayed taking out some sort of action, your dad was going to get ill and civil cases often take years to get through, at least the last of his days were not spent going through this in court and being with the people who loved him the most. xx

Brenny

Nana. Thank you for letting us know that your father is now at rest. I hope you are having a peaceful Easter. Your story will, I hope, help others in the future avoid becoming victims of similar crimes.

csgohan4

Tragic reading from page 1 to 25.

Don't suffer alone, friends and family are there for you. You also have counselling available from your GP.

We are also here for you to vent your worries.

As they say, what goes around comes around and it is a matter of time your brother will receive his dues. Either in this life or the next