Brother borrowed 20k without consent

RuthnJasper

FireWyrm wrote: »

This story makes my blood boil. If there was any justice in the world, your brothers' house and any assets would simply be seized and liquidated to pay the debt. If I was his wife, I would divorce the unpleasant so-and-so leaving him to marinate in a hell of his own making. A betrayal of monumental proportions to be sure. I dont really want to even contemplate the distress your father must be feeling, wondering how and where he went so wrong. Your brother is a despicable creature, but your father must have done something right to have at least one of his offspring stand by him so steadfastly.

Me too, FireWyrm. There aren't many people in this world who I actively hate - but Nana's brother and others who similarly abuse the trust of their loving families are some of them. It's simply beyond me how these people can even sleep at night.

ALIBOBSY

Sorry to hear your bro hasn't held his hands up yet OP.

Personally I reckon either no response at all to his letter or a short, cool unemotional letter back simply asking him when he will be repaying the money he has stolen.

How have the rest of the family reacted? I certainly would be telling them all exactly how he has behaved to shame him, although from the sounds of it the only person he cares about is himself.

Good Luck for the future OP for you and your Dad.

Ali xxx

thorsoak

I do hope that you intend to tell your father's story publicly, naming and shaming your brother once your father has passed and it can't hurt him any more!

newthrift

I have just spent sometime last night and some this morning reading through the thread from the beginning.
There are many things I could say and many words I wouldn't normally use, but all I will say is I hope eventually your brother is shamed & justice is made.
Good luck & best wishes to you and your dad!!

Sarahlovesshoes

newthrift wrote: »

I have just spent sometime last night and some this morning reading through the thread from the beginning.
There are many things I could say and many words I wouldn't normally use, but all I will say is I hope eventually your brother is shamed & justice is made.
Good luck & best wishes to you and your dad!!

I never post on these boards but this thread I felt compelled. I can only reiterate what everyone else has said. I am truly appalled at your brothers actions and hopefully you will get some justice further down the line. Karma and everything! Hope everything works out.
Sarah xx

m3kx

Hi Nana,

I think about you and this thread from time to time, I just wanted to send some more hugs and congratulate you on how strong you've been throughout this whole horrible ordeal.

I really hope things look up soon.

Take care
x

NANANINANOONOO

Dad is currently awaiting a response from a solicitor who is gathering information & hopefully is going to help him but otherwise little else has changed.

However I must have a little moan up because we have recently had contact from the police, the bank & the local authority regarding fairly straight forward details and have again and again constantly encountered poor communication skills with departments in all fields failing to pass on correct basic but fundemental information...the misery their simple but endless careless mistakes must cause some poor people!!

AndyBSG

Just checking in to see if there has been any update and if the solicitor thinks anything can be done?

NANANINANOONOO

Police met with dad last week and have confirmed this is definately on record as a crime, they absolutely know what has taken place just not enough evidence at this point to quarantee successful conviction but they will do all they can to support dad in whatever civil or other action he takes against my brother or if any more evidence against him comes to light.

Dads solicitor has confirmed there is definately plenty to succeed in a civil case and they will be able help providing they can confirm there is something to fight for. Unfortunately if my brother has no assets or equity in his property a civil case would be fruitless and therefore pointless so we are now waiting for this to be checked out before any decision can be made. My brother does own a very nice vehicle and owns a very nice 4 bedroomed house but there may be charges against it. My brother is in line to take early retirement and is possibly due for a compensation payment but I am not sure if this would be included in what can be considered as assets.

In the meantime 7 months on and still no contact from anyone in my brothers family who clearly do not care a jot about dads health or welfare. I have nothing but contempt for my brother but I am disgusted with my two nephews and niece who are adults and should be thoroughly ashamed of themselves for not even indirectly enquiring about their 85 year old grandad with whom they have always previously enjoyed a close loving relationship - they simply abandoned him on learning of their fathers deeds which has added greatly to my fathers pain.

Brenny

NANANINANOONOO wrote: »

I have nothing but contempt for my brother but I am disgusted with my two nephews and niece who are adults and should be thoroughly ashamed of themselves for not even indirectly enquiring about their 85 year old grandad with whom they have always previously enjoyed a close loving relationship - they simply abandoned him on learning of their fathers deeds which has added greatly to my fathers pain.

Nananinanoonoo. Thank you for updating us. Hugs to you both.

Just wanted to say that, although there is no real excuse for the nephews and nieces not getting in touch, they are likely to have been fed all sorts of lies and probably cannot bring themselves to believe that any of this is true. Or it could even be sheer embarrassment!