im back but no further on!

SortingIt_2

Hello,

Thanks for your reply earlier, it sort of explains a few things. Do you think he is worried about it happening to him again?? I know from experience that it is hard to not think the worse after something happening like that and it takes a lot of time to change your way of thinking. It must be hard for you emotionally sometimes as it seems like you say not good at saying, or dealing with emotional stuff.

I really hope it all works out and all of this can bring something positive - you do seem much stronger than before!

Good luck xx

hannahsmummy1

thanks for replying everybody!

It is hard going most of the time at the moment- emotionally, physically and mentally. I think im actually past the point of caring about money. I have been quite ill recently and i think (deep down i know!) that all this hasnt helped. I have a lot of soul searching to do over the period it takes me to pay off the debts. Hubby still refuses to acknowledge that he should be partly responsible for the debts, whilst i acknowledge that he pays most towards the house, it still sticks in my throat though knowing that he has the power to end it all (ie paying my debts off) he has seen me before have 1 debt of 2K on my cc-which i paid off- so he knows i can do it, i could understand if he wanted me to learn a lesson from this- which i have! Im past caring about money at the moment, its all i seem to think about, every waking thought- and thats not right, or healthy. I have gained a lot of strength and confidence from this board- just the thing i needed really!

Thanks

xxx

amani_2

HI HM, I'm sorry you have been ill of late. Its not healthy worrying about money all the time but we do. You have done brilliant though. I also wondered if your hubby wanted to teach you a lesson. he should at least pay his half of the debt. can you not sit down and tell him about how you are stressed about it all, and that he could end all this stress???????? it would also help the relationship if you did not have this worry and stress.


AMANI XXX

1_step_closer

Glad to see you back again, I was wondering what had happened to you.

Bit troubled to see that hubby still isn't helping you with the debts. I like the idea of a strike though!

There is only 1 thing I want to ask really - if you didn't have the debt and could live on the money you have, would you stay with hubby or leave him?

I think the answer to that would determine what you decide to do with your future. I don't think hubby will help financially as he hasn't already and he sounds very guarded as though he is afraid something terrible will happen to him. He must have been traumatised by the divorce and is afraid to trust.

I hope though, that something positive happens for you.

xx

Dumyat

I'm sorry to see things arent much better for you.
I think I said this before, this isnt about the money. this is about the lack of partnership and respect. I still think its ridiculous that he wont help pay for his own wedding.

Sea78

Hi hannahs mummy - hope all is good with you today and hugs to you.
Sea xxx