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grannyx2

Hugs and messages of total understanding regarding the men in your life. I don't think you were being unreasonable on either incident.

Hugs to Lilt too

Men can be very difficult to live with at times

Love the thought of chomping Easter eggs

Granny x

debtfreewannabe321

liltdiddylilt wrote: »

Hey you

Finally caught up!! Your rants about husband and boy seem perfectly reasonable to me (now that I have blown off some steam with a rant of my own on my diary, it's nice to have company on the 'am I doolally?' step :rotfl:

If DS1 has spoken about the teacher before, not been in trouble, got good grades, and she's only young, then most likely he does wind her up yes. My nephew is the biggest know-it-all ever and I find him unbearable at times. :rotfl: much as I love him. So I think you were perfectly in your rights to state that you've heard both sides and when it lands somewhere in the middle, it is unfair treatment for DS1. I had a teacher who loved to make my life a misery at school. Eventually my mum got involved, wrote a letter to the head, and we had various meetings. I was moved from Set 1 (her class) to Set 2 with the most lovely teacher ever, and I thrived. The other teacher just had it in for me. Some people were not built to teach. She sucked up to me ever after that and I despised her even more for not sticking to her guns! :rotfl:

Am so impressed with your easter egg chomping. I've eaten a big ferrero rocher one. I wish I could say it was this week or even last week. I am a bit ahead in my easter snacking :o:o

Think you have the right idea with finding your own life outside of DH. Am not going into detail but my husband and I live separately for 4 days and 5 nights of the week following various difficulties. I've learned a lot about me, and what I like and do not like. And who I am on my own. I am perfectly content to do as I please, even on the nights he is here (he is on his playstation in the living room and I am on the bed on my mac ) and don't feel like I need to entertain him or have him entertain me any more. We are a lot closer now weirdly.. because we choose times to spend together and don't live in each others pockets.

But that came after a LOT of heartache for me and it wasn't easy. Keep doing what you know is right for you and eventually it will be a lot better hun xxx

DH and I have lived apart lots of time obviously as he's done two 6 month tours lots of 2-3 month training things here and there and I am used to being on my own. Although we have a 16 and half year old when he did his "spreading the seed" thing whilst we were together I left him and moved to Lincoln with ds1 on my own. I was there on my own for 3 or 4 years (or somewhere in between that time) and we did love each other and so got back together. I thought he'd been punished enough by me leaving him for that long. In that time I got myself a job, childcare for ds1 (he was 4 at the time) a life (huh what is that thing>I don't quite remember the meaning of that word!) and I obviously have my very good friends who live up there from my school days (there were 4 of us that were particularly close and still are albeit I am mile away from them all now) and I know I can make it work again. I don't want to split up with dh which is what I think he might be thinking right now because I did get angry yesterday and said I was going regardless of whether he wanted to or not. I know it will be better for the children. Although we have lived here for so long it's an army estate and i've made so many friends and the last one has just moved on (so yet again i'm on my own having to make more friends) it's just very unsettling. The kids have made friends who have also moved on and they get so upset. I want to be in a normal house, normal school for the kids I just dont get this way of life. Lots of women thrive here but generally because they've had fathers/brothers in the army and know the way of life and don't know any different. It's foreign to me and depressing
Sorry huge rant there but that's basically what I messaged a very tired DH on his 8 hour flight yesterday evening :rotfl: So long story short I think I would get on quite well with the arrangements you have in place Lilt!

debtfreewannabe321

grannyx2 wrote: »

Hugs and messages of total understanding regarding the men in your life. I don't think you were being unreasonable on either incident.

Hugs to Lilt too

Men can be very difficult to live with at times

Love the thought of chomping Easter eggs

Granny x

Thank you Granny, are you still in Oz? I have a friend who has just gone down under a few weeks ago to spend time with her daughter too. She's there for a month I think and I keep seeing all the pictures on FB and feeling slightly jealous I have to admit it looks beautiful!!!

Men are T w a t s. Simples

debtfreewannabe321

Morning!
First day of the holidays today :j I'm still in pjs at 8.34am! I'd still be in bed but it was bin day and they come ridiculously early here! DD & DS2 are already fighting and screaming at each other they used to be best friends. I just don't understand why they fight ALL the time over EVERYTHING!!!! It's driving me utterly insane!

Going to take the dog for a walk today but that is it. We all need a chill out and to relax I think.

DS1 has gone in to talk to his teacher about the incident yesterday. I told him not to swear if he felt under pressure when they question him on what happened so fingers crossed! They are still making him do the detention though whatever happens. Lilt I had a teacher who made my life hell too. My father used to be a red coat on a hunt in the local village as was my English teacher. They both clashed one day at the pub after the hunt and that was it -him and his wife (another teacher :mad:) had it in for me and my sister (my other sister was lucky as she went to another school) they used to blame us for everything in class / in the halls/ playground/ lunch hall and I was like a mouse at school I wouldn't have said boo to a goose. But I got detention after detention and lines after lines. I never told my dad though as he'd have gone nuts and it would have caused even more issues! But I know how ds1 feels so I felt it only right that I stand up for him. :cool:

abba1772

I agree me with you about forces lives for the wife's it's very very much hard work esp being away from your family and friends I totally get how your feeling

Best decision I made was leaving my ex and starting a new life near family and friends.....took me a while to adjust to people popping over or meeting up at a minutes notice instead of planing meet ups every couple of months but my two eldest kids have thrived on it esp knowing we don't need to move unless we want to xx

Eager_Elephant

Oh DFW


Men -


What a tough few days you have had - glad it is the start of the holidays for you so you can have a rest.


Have you been taking your Agnus Castus?

debtfreewannabe321

abba1772 wrote: »

I agree me with you about forces lives for the wife's it's very very much hard work esp being away from your family and friends I totally get how your feeling

Best decision I made was leaving my ex and starting a new life near family and friends.....took me a while to adjust to people popping over or meeting up at a minutes notice instead of planing meet ups every couple of months but my two eldest kids have thrived on it esp knowing we don't need to move unless we want to xx

I know it's the right decision deep down and so I just have to do it. DH is putting up his side of the fight because when he is around he obviously likes to see the kids every day but he's away so much this year again like previous years it's just cemented my decision to go now. He's away for just shy of two months on this trip, 6 weeks at the end of the year and 5 weeks (spread out) in between those two trips.

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

Oh DFW


Men -


What a tough few days you have had - glad it is the start of the holidays for you so you can have a rest.


Have you been taking your Agnus Castus?

Yes! I have :T I have however upped it to two now as I'm not sure one was helping :rotfl:

debtfreewannabe321

So I am feeling inspired to declutter my house. I have too much stuff and I'm struggling to squeeze it in to the house. The seams are literally fit to burst I think! If we move to a similar size house (now our budget has been slashed :mad:) we will be struggling to fit it all in again and a cluttered house make me anxious (think I have slight OCD issues tbh :rotfl:) SO I need to set myself some targets I think which will help keep me focussed on the move and better things to come. Time to cull the house of useless things that I no longer want! Might follow that marie kondo thing but I looked at her lists last night and actually felt faint at the enormity of them :eek::rotfl:

My aim is to cull at least 2 things a day I think. Either selling them, charity shopping them or recycling is the way i'd like to go. I hate throwing things away to landfill so let the challenge commence

Eager_Elephant

Our very own Miss Kondo says that a declutter done her way will take approx. 6 months. She does not expect it to be done in one go.


Some people on the Kondo threads I follow are only managing 30 minutes a day due to other commitments.


The list which someone put on Steph's diary is not the official list, it was one that someone created to help others. I have to agree it is very daunting.


Personally I am just doing clothes for now, starting with mine and then DH's as he has asked for his drawers to be Kondoed!!! I have partly done DS' but have not stood his pants and trousers vertically but I have to say it all looks a lot nicer in there!!


Hope you can get rid of 2 things a day - I am off to the charity shop today with the things I sorted on Monday (I have another days annual leave today).


I have to say half of the bedroom which I did on Monday still looks great - will hopefully do some more today.

StressedSteph

Morning DFW,


I am super jealous that your Easter holidays started today, all of mine are still in school today. Can't wait to collect them and escape the school routines, drama's, back stabbing for two glorious weeks


Bums to selfish husbands - I too have one of those who astounds me sometimes in his "I am the centre of the universe" attitude.
I sometimes feel like hubby has lots of hobbies but I have none. Us ladies need to put ourselves first occasionally and go out and get some fun.


I have been following a "HomeRoutines" app this last 10 days and my house is really starting to look good. It gets you to do a little everyday so after 5-7 days all of a sudden your house just starts to look better and I then feel better.


Hope your Ds1 gets on ok with his meeting, I am so glad you stuck up for him, maybe pushing them to have this extra meeting will involve another school member who can make sure that his teacher is being fair to him. Fingers Crossed.


Keep smiling hun and never feel bad about having a rant. This place is alot cheaper than therapy. xxxx