Mr and Mrs K's New Journey to a Debt Free Life.

mum2one

massive congratulations, Laanieduck, hope your ok now and everything goes ok xxx

AlexLK

Lannie: Congratulations!

pebbles88

AlexLK wrote: »

Sorry I cannot come up with a coherent post but thank you and I have plenty to be thankful for.



Thanks, roland. The cards won't be in my name because I cannot get any type of credit (is it bad that is one of the things I'm actually thankful for? :rotfl: ).

I do want to clear the debts but there seems little point in doing so at the moment, if they are only going to be built up again as in all honesty if things went sour for her I couldn't just leave her to worry about it.

see.... And you keep thinking you aren't a good person! You do more lovely things for her than I think you, & her realise.

Well, not all of it meant nothing to me, some of the things I got rid of early on meant an awful lot to me but back then Mrs. K. was on board and I could see an end to our constant struggle with our finances. I never thought I'd be the person in this type of situation, then again I suppose none of us did.



Hi pebbles,

Thank you for your post.

Whilst I agree she is going through a "spoilt brat" phase (nothing new for her!), she has also become much closer to our son this year so far. Though we have somewhat of a tempestuous relationship, when things are good between us they really are very, very good.

I'm really glad to hear that Alex. We only worry. X

AlexLK

pebbles: I'm flattered somebody cares.

AlexLK

Sunday 16th March, 2014.

Dear Diary,

Today has not been a particularly good one for me and yet I am holding onto the hope that tomorrow proves to be more productive as despite a nasty cough no doubt caught from one of my son's delightful little nursery friends I have a lot of work to do.

One of the downsides of being self employed seems to be keeping motivation up even when the rewards are low because one never quite knows what the future holds.

Yours Faithfully,
Alex.

mrsscattercushion

Hi Alex, not been around here for a while but just wanted to add one thing. To me, marriage is about teamwork, joint goals, joint wishes, the joint pooling of resources. If your house is in need of that much work, and your wife wants to move away, surely it would be more sensible to use the money she is saving for a new car and get the work done on the home?


My husband is just about to be made redundant. I supported him and paid most of the household bills for nearly 6 years whilst he was paying his bills off and the DMP he subsequently went into (debts pre-dated us). I don't begrudge him that and I don't begrudge once again being the main breadwinner and supporting him and us until he finds another job....why? Because it is teamwork...I'd never deprive him of things and blatantly flaunt that I've got money and he hasn't, as we are a team.


I really hope for you all that you can talk and get back together to working at this as a team, I think that is the only way these problems you experience will be resolved.


wishing you all the best

LannieDuck

Totally agree with the PP - marriage should be about teamwork.

My sister and BIL are a case in point: he worked full time and supported her through a long university course; just as she got to her final exams he had a nasty road accident and hasn't been able to work since. She found a job with her new qualifications and has supported them both ever since. Teamwork

mrsscattercushion

sorry Alex, reading my post back it sounds a bit blunt, especially as I haven't posted for a while.....just feeling very frustrated on your behalf by what you've written about the recent spends and priorities...I hope it works out and take care

AlexLK

mrsscattercushion: The house is in need of a lot of work, it was bought in the knowledge of most of the problems but we have never been able to afford to get the work done. We did decorate when we moved in but that's starting to look tired now and over the last couple of weeks I've started to clear the grounds outside. With regards to spending on the house to get it into a saleable state, there is no point as moving away is somewhat of a pipe dream of my wife's - she's not motivated enough to do anything about it.

AlexLK

Well, I've been told over dinner that my wife thinks she would be much better off financially if we split because she wouldn't be having to put money away for our son's education. I sincerely wish she could see that we need to work as a team and the importance of our son's future.