Mr and Mrs K's New Journey to a Debt Free Life.

slowlyfading

She would need to put money towards as you both have the responsibility to him, if that's what you choose.

I have to say, from what you post, that you might be better off out of there she sounds really unpleasant most of the time.

AlexLK

slowlyfading: Mrs. K. doesn't care where our son is educated, so would not pay anything towards his school fees leaving it up to me. Not that I would get a say if she were to go.

There are times that I'm not even sure we should be together, I thought me sorting my financial problems out would have changed things. Instead, all that's happened is my conscience being awakened to the fact I waste money and me wishing I'd not told her anything about this lot of debt that has got me into trouble by ignoring it for far too long in the first place.

dawnybabes

Alex

She is behaving and acting like a spoilt child. Tbh if one of you doesn't want to buy into the private education then I would give up that dream as you will be arguing and resenting one another for ever.

Perhaps you might be better off, I can't see what you are actually getting our of this relationship other than stress and grief.

You are a pair, a couple, a team .....

AlexLK

Dawn,

Thank you. I categorically do not want my son going to a state school, unfortunately my wife thinks it is a "waste of money". Perhaps, it because I have turned out the way I have but my peers have generally done better in life than hers.

I currently have the opportunity to be a father to my son and a second chance. I'd have nothing without her and I do not just mean financially.

mum2one

You are a strong person, you have a lovely son, - you are worth a lot more than you think.

If Mrs k wants to go it alone, there going to be no stopping her, but that doesn't stop you, your a father, a son, a friend, a relative, a lot of things, strong, caring......

x

heartbreak_star

I also think it's a waste of money sending Little K. to private school, but we've been over that before many times

I've held my tongue (keyboard? ) until now as I would have just had a huge rant about Mrs K.

She IS being a spoilt brat. Has she thought about what should happen if she should lose this much-vaunted job of hers?

No.

You have thought about the future - not just the present - and therein lies the difference.

Personally, I think she'll realise damn quick what she's lost if she goes. I think you'd actually do OK despite how you feel...because you do know how to be strong deep down.

Good luck, however things turn out. We're here for you

HBS x

7roland8

Not much to add Alex but keep strong.

pebbles88

heartbreak_star wrote: »

She IS being a spoilt brat. Has she thought about what should happen if she should lose this much-vaunted job of hers?

No.

You have thought about the future - not just the present - and therein lies the difference.

Personally, I think she'll realise damn quick what she's lost if she goes. I think you'd actually do OK despite how you feel...because you do know how to be strong deep down.

Good luck, however things turn out. We're here for you

HBS x

^^this!

You've discovered so much about yourself, good & bad, but you've embraced them all! You've become stronger than you realise.

I'm :eek: gobsmacked that she said that! Especially when she is aware of how you feel at the moment. It's not a nice trait to kick people when they're down. ((Hugs))

Mara_uk7

Alex, you deserve better. This woman is adding to your problems, not helping you like a loving wife would do. What an awful situation . Big hugs

theoretica

I have quite some sympathy for Mrs K here. You have said you are reluctant for your parents to pay, you yourself are not earning enough to make a major contribution to the cost and Mrs K probably feels you want to spend a large chunk of her earnings on something she doesn't value. Furthermore, by your insistance you are casting nasturtiums, justified or not, at her own education.

On a more positive note, one of the most significant contributions to a child's attainment is parents who are involved and value education. Little K already has that in you.