Mr and Mrs K's New Journey to a Debt Free Life.

bess1234_2

Your parents don't get to make the decisions of a thirty year old man! They need to go get a life!

However we can all disagree with your plans too:rotfl: but it is still your life and time you started running it

AlexLK

7roland8 wrote: »

Naughty Naughty- you just did it again!!

Actually we must like your company or we wouldn't keep following your diary.

If you were such a misery we'd have abandoned you months ago.

, I suppose I did. Learning to recognise it may be a step forwards.

AlexLK

bess1234 wrote: »

Your parents don't get to make the decisions of a thirty year old man! They need to go get a life!

However we can all disagree with your plans too:rotfl: but it is still your life and time you started running it

No, my parents don't run my life. However, they'd like to think they'd make a better go of it if they did. Perhaps they are right.

EchoDelta

AlexLK wrote: »

No, my parents don't run my life. However, they'd like to think they'd make a better go of it if they did. Perhaps they are right.

They are wrong. You are doing great things and will reap the rewards of a happy life, good self esteem and a good relationship with your son. Their job as parents is to support NOT undermine you.

pebbles88

bess1234 wrote: »

Your parents don't get to make the decisions of a thirty year old man! They need to go get a life!

However we can all disagree with your plans too:rotfl: but it is still your life and time you started running it

7roland8 wrote: »

Naughty Naughty- you just did it again!!

Actually we must like your company or we wouldn't keep following your diary.

If you were such a misery we'd have abandoned you months ago.

AlexLK wrote: »

No, my parents don't run my life. However, they'd like to think they'd make a better go of it if they did. Perhaps they are right.

:mad:
Alex!! Stop it, they've had their lives & got to choose what they did/didn't do. This is your life you choose what to do with it.

If you don't know what to say when they comment, just smile, acknowledge them, say thank you, then do as you wish... With your life :hello:

“Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, and I'm going to be happy in it."

pebbles88

Alex, if you. Don't mind me asking, what was it you fell out with your parents over?

Granariesgirl

7roland8 wrote: »

Naughty Naughty- you just did it again!!

Actually we must like your company or we wouldn't keep following your diary.

If you were such a misery we'd have abandoned you months ago.

:T:T:T
Well said!

AliBee16

Please dont think I'm being rude about your parents, but they are older and seem to be stuck in the past and are basing their opinions and expectations circa the 1980's - 30 years ago, when they were last working (apart from their btls). My judgement of this is from things you have said re education, and their fear of 'lower class' people; also, it is very much in line with older people that I know, who are quite isolated and depend on the Daily Mail as an accurate view of Britain today. I include my own mother in this, who cant quite understand why people 'just cant go and get a job' like they would have had the opportunity to do when she was younger.

The thing is- times have changed, and the opportunities are not as abundant, and the cost of living is much much higher than then. They may imagine that a high-paid job in the city is living the dream but in reality it is a life of cut-throat ambition, fear and sacrifice (not many stay married, and it's not easy to have a relationship with your children when you hardly see them due to long hours). These jobs are very short-lived now - redundancy is the norm. If you knew what this was like in reality you wouldnt want it for your child. I tell you this from my own experience. My ex ended up with a breakdown, and was told it is very rare for people working at his level to NOT have depression.
My next door neigbour gave up his high level job in the city to become a taxi driver, and says it was the best thing he ever did - for his sanity and the sake of his family. Good luck Alex and stick to your more modern view of the world

AlexLK

EchoDelta wrote: »

They are wrong. You are doing great things and will reap the rewards of a happy life, good self esteem and a good relationship with your son. Their job as parents is to support NOT undermine you.

Thank you and I hope so one day in the future. I've been very busy at school today, tired now so I apologise for any incoherence.

pebbles88 wrote: »

Alex, if you. Don't mind me asking, what was it you fell out with your parents over?

My future plans and the volunteering in school that I'm doing.

AlexLK

pebbles88 wrote: »

:mad:
Alex!! Stop it, they've had their lives & got to choose what they did/didn't do. This is your life you choose what to do with it.

If you don't know what to say when they comment, just smile, acknowledge them, say thank you, then do as you wish... With your life :hello:

Thank you, I hope that I am beginning to "make my own way". Well, I always did but this time I'm not seeking much in the way of approval.

AliBee16 wrote: »

Please dont think I'm being rude about your parents, but they are older and seem to be stuck in the past and are basing their opinions and expectations circa the 1980's - 30 years ago, when they were last working (apart from their btls). My judgement of this is from things you have said re education, and their fear of 'lower class' people; also, it is very much in line with older people that I know, who are quite isolated and depend on the Daily Mail as an accurate view of Britain today. I include my own mother in this, who cant quite understand why people 'just cant go and get a job' like they would have had the opportunity to do when she was younger.

The thing is- times have changed, and the opportunities are not as abundant, and the cost of living is much much higher than then. They may imagine that a high-paid job in the city is living the dream but in reality it is a life of cut-throat ambition, fear and sacrifice (not many stay married, and it's not easy to have a relationship with your children when you hardly see them due to long hours). These jobs are very short-lived now - redundancy is the norm. If you knew what this was like in reality you wouldnt want it for your child. I tell you this from my own experience. My ex ended up with a breakdown, and was told it is very rare for people working at his level to NOT have depression.
My next door neigbour gave up his high level job in the city to become a taxi driver, and says it was the best thing he ever did - for his sanity and the sake of his family. Good luck Alex and stick to your more modern view of the world

Thank you. Yes, my parents are very much stuck in the past, that's not a rude comment to make at all. Unfortunately, they are both very isolated: their house is miles from anywhere (much further from town than mine), often I'm the only person they talk to for weeks and father isn't very well a lot of the time.

Funnily enough I really wouldn't want my son to have a City job when he grows up. Neither of my parents have experienced a corporate atmosphere though as they had their own business, so they are moderately understanding of my self employment. However, I know exactly of what you are talking about.