This Time I'm Really Going To Do It

Alchemilla

Watty1 said:

Still waiting for ex to send his conveyancing solicitor details over so we can get on with things.
In anticipation of sorting out matters I spent Sunday viewing a Fell Pony. Most handsome is panicking when on his own so I can not really leave him and go out with Charming Cob for more that about 25 to 40 mins which severely limits fun riding.    Fell Pony was lovely.  Not sure whether to buy a very inexperienced young pony or to follow up with a rescue who this morning offered me a section A Welsh Pony who is 12 and suitable for a companion.  My only experience of a Welsh Section A was not great.  She lived here briefly, terrified the entire class of her young rider, frequently dumped the young rider to the point she refused to even come and see her, could not be caught at all (I got her in by bring the horses I had into stable and leaving her door open with a bowl of food on the floor then sat in the house watching a camera set up to find out when she went into the stable and ran up there and shut the door.   Finally rehomed her with a 5 year old boy who adored her and stood in the field shouting her name and swinging her headcollar and she ambled up to him.   Beyond me but certainly put me off Welsh Section As  (For the non horsey reader they are attitude ridden little ponies).
The Fell Pony is an expensive nanny for the neurotic Most Handsome ....not sure what to do. Part of me likes the idea of a rescue as is going to always belong to the rescue but then part of me rather liked the Fell Pony.  Decisions Decisions. 

And no Alchemilla before you suggest it both is not an option

The dilemma really is the Fell is lovely (a native breed for the non horsey) but I am so short of time I'm not sure I could educate him enough in the ways of the world.  

Haha busted! NDN has a young fell. He is a LOT of work but also lovely. The feathers!

Alchemilla

It sounds like you are feeling stronger which makes me very happy. I have somewhat murderous feelings about your ex so it's a good thing I don't know who he is or where he lives!

Watty1

Been quiet.  Ex managed to get me arrested for an alleged assault and he is apparently now scared I am going to attack him again.  he has assured the police he will prosecute and is favour of that.    Fortunately the police and the duty solicitor were excellent although 12 hours in a cell does rather give one time to reflect.  I'm going to be careful posting here as he always seems to be one step ahead of me.  However I care not who reads this as I am going to go on record just about everywhere saying how fabulous our police service were to me from the 999 response officer (I'll gloss over the arresting officer as he was clearly under the influence of the ex) to the custody staff and the interviewing officers and the duty solicitor.  i had great legal advice, and the interviewing officer could not have been nicer.  Despite being distraught at my personal situation I had to smile when both the duty solicitor and the officers involved said ex  was a "!!!!!!"

After I was released interviewing officer from domestic violence unit asked me to walk out with him and once outside he gave me some excellent advice, saying he was worried what ex would do next, and giving me advice on how to protect myself.

Honestly cannot fault the police. 

The ex however .................. 

Humdinger1

Omg @Watty1!!! Well, the police have his number all right! Might this even work to your benefit if he's plainly bringing a trumped-up charge and the authorities don't believe him?!  Is he trying to force your hand on the finances, or is he just absolutely bl**dy barking?! No doubt you'll be following police advice to the letter? Love Humdinger xx 

greent

Oh, Watts- how low can the man stoop?  🙄😥 Glad the DA officer gave you some good advice- sounds like they got the measure of ex! X

LadyGnome

Watty I am so sorry it has come to this.  Keep very good records of anything he does and don't hesitate to involve the police yourself if you feel threatened or harassed.  Otherwise be like the proverbial duck - serene on the surface and paddling like mad underneath.

Karmacat

Watty!  You poor thing.  I'm glad the police were positive with you once you got past the arresting officer, but 12 hours in a cell is a horrible thing to experience.  No words are bad enough about your ex, to be honest just sending positive vibes to you.

Ramouth

Oh watty.  What can we say - what a nightmare!  Do you think he might believe he is telling the truth?  it is really quite an extreme thing to do.  Glad the police were sensible in the end and were able to advise as to what to do from now on.  Fingers crossed for you 🤞 

Watty1

Yes @Ramouth he was telling the truth.  For common assault one only has to place ones hand on another person without their permission and in a complete rage I did shout get the ff out of my life whilst shaking his shoulders.   I lost my temper, I was in a red rage and I was in the wrong.  I have apologised to the police for this and admitted that.     I do not think it so bad that 999 needed to be rung.  I did not think it was so bad he needed to go down that route.  But clearly he did and that is his choice.  if he feels that threatened then I am very sorry for him because my intention has always been to be a good person and act fairly.

I am surprised the following day he was messaging me as if nothing had happened.  Obviously I did not respond.     That has been his way of acting all along.   Very nice then something extreme or something that I might find unpleasant and then very nice again.   It has messed with my emotions and it is why I have often wondered why I am on this road.  Why I left such a nice man and then something happens and I remember why and round we go again.  

Ramouth

Wow.  Really feeling for you and your situation.    He sounds so manipulative.  If only you could just walk away.  I understand why you don’t want to with the horses and business but it must be so hard for you.  Wish we could just magic it all over for you.