Small MIL rant

peachyprice

alias*alibi wrote: »

Thanks. They absolutely adore the dog but its little things they do which undermine what we do with her, I.e. what we feed her to where she sleeps. The other day it's where is the dog sleeping now you've taken down her cage; so I said the kitchen and was met with 'oh really; she slept upstairs with me when at ours'. Fine; we have laminate floor in the bedroom and the dogs claws drive me insane clip clopping about on that all night. It's just constant little niggles like I can't think for myself/parent my daughter/care for a dog type of niggles.

I hear what you're saying about kennelling the dog but then we'd get asked why we didn't leave the dog with them etc. Hard one I must admit. And DD's hair is far from straggly; MIL doesn't like it as it requires effort to look after it when with her rather than something shorter which she can manage. At the end of the day she doesn't have to manage it for more than a couple of days which is no excuse for me to go lopping off DD's hair to suit MIL.

Does it really matter what she lets the do do when it's with her?

Dogs aren't stupid, it doesn't take them long to learn that when they go to different homes different things happen, they know it doesn't mean it's going to happen at home.

When my mum's dog stays with me he sleeps in the kitchen with my dog, at home he sleeps with my mum, he knows that.

When I'm away my dog sleeps upstairs with OH, he's back downstairs as soon as I;m home because it's me he tramples over all night trying to get as close as possible, he knows that.

My mum feeds her dog cooked meats, when he comes to me he has the same food as my dogs, and sometimes steals the cats food. He won't get pampered at meal time when he stays with me, he knows that.

As long as she isn't doing anything to make your dog ill, does it really matter? If it's really that important to you kennel him.

(And no, it's not narcissistic.)

Errata

Arden Grange is half the price of Hill's, which was recommended by both the breeder and my vet for my lad. He gets nothing else and hasn't had a food, tummy or health problem in 7 years.

loracan1

LisaLou1982 wrote: »

And tbh i with your MIL - why isnt your daughter having a regular trim on her hair? Nothing worse than a child with long straggly hair.

I can think of a lot worse.

As for your mother in law, just smile, nod and do your own thing.

Acc72

alias*alibi wrote: »

Is this narcisstic?

Just because somebody has a different opinion than you does not automatically mean that they have a personality disorder.

scooby088

LisaLou1982 wrote: »

No.

Its simply a difference in opinion.

Sorry to be blunt but if she looks after your dog for you then either put up with it or make alternative arrangements to have the dog looked after.

And tbh i with your MIL - why isnt your daughter having a regular trim on her hair? Nothing worse than a child with long straggly hair.

Are you the OP's mother in law?:rotfl:

alias*alibi

Acc72 wrote: »

Just because somebody has a different opinion than you does not automatically mean that they have a personality disorder.

TBH I wasn't too sure on the narcissistic qualities hence the reason for asking.

I do wonder if my child was allergic to peanuts but loved peanut butter and MIL gave it to her as a 'treat' whether people would still be saying 'well she's looking after your DD for free, stick her in holiday club instead if you don't like it'.... ;-)

alias*alibi

Errata wrote: »

Arden Grange is half the price of Hill's, which was recommended by both the breeder and my vet for my lad. He gets nothing else and hasn't had a food, tummy or health problem in 7 years.

My vet recommended James Wellbeloved and that's when she was eating her poo; changed to Arden Grange and it stopped.

Do you have a shihtzu too?

maman

alias*alibi wrote: »

I must admit I had visions if her doing that whilst my DD was there last week. I would had done my nut! I know its 'old school' thinking on her part about hair etc, but the things with the dog is that she is blatantly ignoring us regarding some things. Poor FIL just keeps quiet and never interferes.

I'm not sure I understand what's old school about it. Regular trimming of long hair helps to keep it healthy looking to say nothing of shape. Those same locks of hair will have been buffeted by sun, swimming pools etc. and in the case of an adult maybe all sorts of product and heat.

I read 'old school' as if you meant it's an old wives' tale. IMO there's nothing an old fashioned about looking after your hair.

LisaLou1982

scooby088 wrote: »

Are you the OP's mother in law?:rotfl:

HA! Hopefully the 1982 in my user name would give a little clue that i definitely am not! :rotfl:

Lieja

Your MIL sounds like a dream in comparison with mine! She hasn't actually been to our house in months after the last stand off - makes things nice and easy!