Freeloading friend!

bestpud

starlight29 wrote: »

Oh dear not good maybe your daughter should start saying she hasnt got any money for her locker as well ? Might be easier than your daughter having to keep asking for it back ?


Starlight

She never has a pound coin for the locker and thinks her daughter can share one, which is fine, except her daughter almost always gets out earlier so my daughter was having to get out and open the locker for her.

She got fed up with that so started lending her a pound to have her own locker.

That has obviously brought it's own issues so I'm going to step in next time and say they can't share as they get out at different times and my daughter only has one pound coin on her.

She pays with a card and they are happy to take a pound extra and give it back for the locker so it's not an issue.

bestpud

Actually, I've never thought about this before but she always gives her daughter cash to go up and get food when she gets out, so she does usually have cash on her!

Hmm :mad:

paulineb_2

bestpud wrote: »

Actually, I've never thought about this before but she always gives her daughter cash to go up and get food when she gets out, so she does usually have cash on her!

Hmm :mad:

Youve said before, shes learning from her mum, so her daughters behaviour makes your daughters life difficult.

Id certainly be having a rethink about their friendship.

bestpud

paulineb wrote: »

Youve said before, shes learning from her mum, so her daughters behaviour makes your daughters life difficult.

Id certainly be having a rethink about their friendship.

We had a long chat last night and we're all in agreement that the good isn't outweighing the bad any more.

We can't avoid them completely as we do things as a group a lot but we aren't going to arrange or agree to other meet ups any more.

bestpud

PasturesNew wrote: »

I'm the opposite. I always pay my way - which prevents me going out and mixing with people as they all do stuff I can't afford and I hate it when I accept charity, so it's easier to avoid going out and being in a position where I'm confronted with something I can't afford.

That's how I am.

I can't imagine turning up anywhere without being able to pay.

Abbafan1972

I have been following this thread and can't believe that she expected you to pay for her daughters' cinema ticket! A trip to the cinema isn't an essential thing, if you know you can't afford it then you don't go!

If I get invited to something and can't afford it, then I decline, I don't expect someone else to pay for me.

bestpud

Abbafan1972 wrote: »

I have been following this thread and can't believe that she expected you to pay for her daughters' cinema ticket! A trip to the cinema isn't an essential thing, if you know you can't afford it then you don't go!

If I get invited to something and can't afford it, then I decline, I don't expect someone else to pay for me.

What annoyed me about that is she waited with us in the queue and then suddenly couldn't find it when she got to the counter.

She said afterwards that she couldn't find it at home but assumed it was in her wallet. Wouldn't any normal person check before they get to the till if they genuinely believe it may have been stolen?

I wouldn't have left the house until I'd located or reported it lost/stolen!

We weren't going - it was just the two girls, or I'd have said to leave the cinema and get it sorted. To walk away at that point would have let down both the girls.

That was before I'd truly caught on to her as well.

I feel quite angry thinking about it now!

paddy's_mum

What's that old saying about if you lend someone £20 and never see them again, it was worth it?

How very silly to throw away your reputation for the value of a few meals or cups of coffee.

joansgirl

I've been reading this thread and I need to tell you that it's not just friends that do it. I've got a daughter like this. She borrowed £2000 from me in 2008 because she said she owed back rent and was about to be evicted. We weren't very well off at that time and it meant that we couldn't have a holiday that year (a week in a caravan was all we used to do) plus it wiped out our meagre savings as well. About a month later I found out that she'd used the money to go away to Blackpool and had blown it all in 4 days! I only found out because she texted me to send her some more because she was skint and would need to come home early. The cheek of it! I only lent it to her on the understanding that she paid it back as I didn't want her thinking that I was an easy touch. Amount paid back to date? Nothing. Nada. Not a brass razoo. And this was just the latest in a long line of money related issues with her. So now I have nothing to do with her. I swear she was switched at birth!

warehouse

Life is a learning experience. You live, you learn, you move on and use what you've learned. Unfortunately you don't seem to have learned that keeping a scumbag like this for a friend is only going to hurt you.

Drop her and move on. It's really easy.