Providing spending money for child going on hol

nickj_2

we've just been to cornwall for a week , my daughter invited one of her friends to come along , her mum asked me if i wanted any cash , i told her not to worry , so i quite happily paid for everything, meals out , attractions etc .
when we got back her mum gave me £200, which i didn't need but she was really greatful for what we'd done , plus her daughter had a great time

victory

Spendless wrote: »

What sort of emergencies do you foresee a 10yo causing to cost money? I can't think of any off-hand.:cool: They were in this country so medical care is free. We were a 2 hour drive away in case she was some homesick she wanted to come home (so no additional petrol costs). Those are the only things I can currently think of.

I think rather than emergencies it's meant extra costs that seem to come along, like not budgeting properly for the drinks/ meal, things costing more than expected....

Spendless

victory wrote: »

The only thing I don't agree with is asking your DD to pay the entrance fee as they already had £40 of your money?

Yes well that's why I'm throwing to open to a wider community.:D In my head that's what the £40 was for along with other additional expenses not paid for by daughter's pocket money. I know it's swings and roundabouts cos the overall costs remain the same.

rhubarb22

I am taking my 10 year old daughters friend on holiday with me, this year on a cheapie Sun break to Butlins and next March to Disneyland Paris. I wouldn't expect for her parents to contribute towards the holiday, but would suggest they give her some spending money for souvenirs etc. I think it would be unfair to offer to take her and then ask for money towards it, if we were going anyway. Yes, it will cost us a little more for food and drinks, but I don't mind, as my daughter will have a better time having someone of her own age to play with, and my husband and I will get a well deserved rest, so worth the extra cost in my opinion!!! Also I know that the favour will be returned at some point in one way or another, by her parents, so it evens itself out in the end.

victory

Spendless wrote: »

Yes well that's why I'm throwing to open to a wider community.:D In my head that's what the £40 was for along with other additional expenses not paid for by daughter's pocket money. I know it's swings and roundabouts cos the overall costs remain the same.

Someone posted that your 10 yr old should have been in charge of all the £60, I don't agree, I know my son at that age would have been overwhelmed with such a large sum of money to have to take care of and would feel uncomfortable and nervous of loosing it, each child is different I know but the way you divided it was perfectly done:D

paulineb_2

Spendless wrote: »

Yes well that's why I'm throwing to open to a wider community.:D In my head that's what the £40 was for along with other additional expenses not paid for by daughter's pocket money. I know it's swings and roundabouts cos the overall costs remain the same.

If the overall costs were the same, does it really matter? The thing is, they might have overspent and had no option to ask your daughter to pay it out of her pocket money, the only way you could do it differently next time is to have a longer chat with them and detail what you want the money to be used for exactly

Also, I would imagine money probably goes quite quickly when you have kids to entertain, even if some things are subsidised, cost of eating out, cost of getting into places, wont exactly be cheap.

victory

rhubarb22 wrote: »

I am taking my 10 year old daughters friend on holiday with me, this year on a cheapie Sun break to Butlins and next March to Disneyland Paris. I wouldn't expect for her parents to contribute towards the holiday, but would suggest they give her some spending money for souvenirs etc. I think it would be unfair to offer to take her and then ask for money towards it, if we were going anyway. Yes, it will cost us a little more for food and drinks, but I don't mind, as my daughter will have a better time having someone of her own age to play with, and my husband and I will get a well deserved rest, so worth the extra cost in my opinion!!! Also I know that the favour will be returned at some point in one way or another, by her parents, so it evens itself out in the end.

I agree but also don't.... Our purse is quite tight and although I would love to invite my DS friends to here and there, financially and realistically I know we can't do it, with all the best will in the world, the invited friends parent financial contribution would be a godsend

Spendless

victory wrote: »

Someone posted that your 10 yr old should have been in charge of all the £60, I don't agree, I know my son at that age would have been overwhelmed with such a large sum of money to have to take care of and would feel uncomfortable and nervous of loosing it, each child is different I know but the way you divided it was perfectly done:D

This was my concern about not giving it all. She had £4 a day which in my mind was adequate. I know I've been told it was too much to give her, but ice creams or a can of pop can be expensive at seaside places but in my mind I didn't give her enough to cover admission charges (which would be more than her 'daily allowance'.

rhubarb22

victory wrote: »

I agree but also don't.... Our purse is quite tight and although I would love to invite my DS friends to here and there, financially and realistically I know we can't do it, with all the best will in the world, the invited friends parent financial contribution would be a godsend

Absolutely, but this should be made clear when inviting them, ie saying would XXX like to come with us to XXX, and explain that, to make it possible they would have to contribute a certain amount of money, then everyone knows where they stand, and what is expected. Also maybe this could then put the other parent under pressure to send their child on a holiday that perhaps they cant afford to contribute to, but their child wants to go on.
I think under the op circumstances, that the child shouldn't have been made to feel awkward, because most children are used to the adult who is with them paying, and don't expect to pay for themselves.

azzabazza

Spendless wrote: »

What sort of emergencies do you foresee a 10yo causing to cost money? I can't think of any off-hand.:cool: They were in this country so medical care is free. We were a 2 hour drive away in case she was some homesick she wanted to come home (so no additional petrol costs). Those are the only things I can currently think of.

By emergencies I mean unplanned activities due to inclement weather, say the cinema rather than the beach. Or perhaps eating out more than was first planned. Maybe I should have said to cover unplanned activities or whatever rather than emergencies.