can I keep telling my neighbour to lower the TV volume?

Cycrow

sometimes neighbours can be unreasonable.

i've had neighbours complain about my TV being on too loud before. It wasn't all that loud really, and it was during the middle of the day.

But they saw no problem in their constant shouting and arguing late at night.

I_luv_cats

Browntoa wrote: »

"gift" her a set of wireless headphones and set them up for her to the tv

surely the expense is worth it for the quiet

I think that was a step that a council took in a similar position on that Neighbourhood watch prog.

Battleaxe44

The Hobbit has to have the TV turned up, he reckons he can't hear it...He can. So when we did our renovation, I got the party wall soundproofed, it cost a few pounds extra, but now we can't the music coming from next doors son's bedroom and I know they can't anything from our side.


I would suggest a third party intervention to see if there is some assistance available for your neighbour.

Hobbit didn't realise just how loud the TV was until I recorded out n the back garden replayed the recording for him to listen to.

If you were my neighbour and complained, I would understand. Sometimes it takes a freindly word, mentioned in conversation just to bring this to your neighbour's attention.
You have written to her, so she realises the problem. have you kept a copy of your letters to her?

Now if it was a teenager and the music was thumping day in and day out, I would get the Noise abatement officer out, after I had spoken to the parents and it continued.

aileth

Cycrow wrote: »

sometimes neighbours can be unreasonable.

i've had neighbours complain about my TV being on too loud before. It wasn't all that loud really, and it was during the middle of the day.

But they saw no problem in their constant shouting and arguing late at night.

Totally agree. My parents' neighbours say their tumble dryer is too loud, but they have the most unimaginable domestics which can range from one to seven times in a week, resulting in him sitting in the back garden weeping so loudly they can hear him in their house. They seem to think they can hear everything my parents do, but not vice versa.

heartbreak_star

I feel a bit odd reading this post - is it unacceptable for me to be using a sewing machine at 9pm?

I worry I make too much noise, but then again my neighbours aren't exactly considerate sometimes.

HBS x

Battleaxe44

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I feel a bit odd reading this post - is it unacceptable for me to be using a sewing machine at 9pm?

I worry I make too much noise, but then again my neighbours aren't exactly considerate sometimes.

HBS x

Tongue in cheek, unless it is great thumping industrial machine I wouldn't worry too much

sassyblue

I feel for you OP, our 80 year old neighbour was like this, l was really worried about approaching her and asked the neighbour on the other side (who had lived there years too) about it, she replied that everyone who had lived in our house had had to have words about the telly volume.

She was quite nice about it and the volume would be better for a few days but it'd soon be back up. We had to move in the back room to escape it because we literally couldn't sit in the front room next to hers :mad:

We put up with it because she was selfish and wouldn't do anything about it but it was annoying, she once said 'you were hoovering a long time the other day' - as if she could hear our hoover above her telly!!

It might be worth looking at putting in a false wall with some insulation behind it, if you can afford to? We moved in the end, being old is no excuse for anti-social behaviour, and yes l would pursue the councils noise complaints procedure if it is making you ill.

itsanne

cybervic wrote: »

We have a noisy neighbour (90 years old) who plays TV very loud. We've written her 3 letters and it's useless. She invited us to her flat after receiving our second letter. We thought she wanted to discuss the TV problem and must be a nice lady but she just went on and on about her whole life story and show us all the photo from her past without wanting to talk about TV noise. She only kept repeating that TV is her only amusement as she can't go out.

The loudness continues for more than a week and it's driving us nuts. I finally went round knocking on her doors 3 nights ago, and she basically told me to !!!!!! off. She said she isn't going anywhere, she can't help it, she can't hear very well, and if I don't like it I can move coz she is not going anywhere. She doesn't like wearing hearing aid or headphone because it's uncomfortable. She then asked me to go away and shut the door on my face. Later that night, she played the TV so loud that I can't even offset her TV sound when I turned mine loud too.

We have decided to call the council and make some formal complaints. Obviously, this is WAR! I'd like to know if I can keep ringing her doorbell and ask her to turn the volume down everything she plays it loud. Will I be harassing her? I am hoping that because she will be fed up with answering the door and finally agree to do something about the noise.

Some old people can be cantakerous and awkward, but that's not how you describe her. She comes across as a lonely old woman. She invited you in after you wrote to her. Had you tried talking to her before writing, preferably explaining rather than simply complaining?

She didn't actually tell you to "*** off" - that's the spin you're putting on it.

Declaring "war" on a ninety year old is childish, foolish and counter productive. It can only end badly, probably for you.

Having said all that, I do sympathise with the noise difficulty, so what can you do about it? Others have already given good advice. I'd also suggest apologising for what must have seemed as harrassment and then explaining that you will be contacting Social Services as a way of helping both of you. It's not a threat but she might feel very defensive otherwise.

Now that you know how lonely and isolated your neighbour is, maybe you could also look in on her in neighbourly fashion on occasion. After all, you may end up old, lonely and deaf yourself some day.

j.e.j.

aileth, I feel your pain. Where we used to live we had obnoxious student brats making no end of noise. The trouble is, they move out after about 9 (long!!) months and then you get another new lot move in, so going through the authorities doesn't usually work, as it can take months for the legal wheels to get turning and for them to take any action against the people who are making the noise.

(And I bet they don't make that amount of noise when they're living at home with mummy and daddy!)

Anyway, back to the OP :rotfl:
Is there any way you can soundproof your room, OP, so that you don't hear the old dear's telly? You can't exactly declare war on a 90 year old woman! I think it's quite a common thing for elderly people to have the tv turned up very loud. I've never seen any of them wear headphones, I guess they don't like wearing them or associate them with younger folk.

My gran used to have cork tiles on her walls which apparently helped to stop the noise!

aileth

j.e.j. wrote: »

aileth, I feel your pain. Where we used to live we had obnoxious student brats making no end of noise. The trouble is, they move out after about 9 (long!!) months and then you get another new lot move in, so going through the authorities doesn't usually work, as it can take months for the legal wheels to get turning and for them to take any action against the people who are making the noise.

(And I bet they don't make that amount of noise when they're living at home with mummy and daddy!)
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The problem we had was that they actually bought their house, well, I say they, bank of mum and dad, so obviously very much 'nah nah we own this house f*** everyone we can do what we want and you can't do anything about it.'

Well, we could. We contacted noise abatement who sent around a council officer with a cop who looked straight out of the terminator. Their music was so loud the cop had to throw stones and smack his baton on their windows. It defintely shut them up though!

I have to say I do agree with people that say age is no excuse for being anti-social, but too be honest the way the OP has approached it he/she seems to be the anti-social one by far!